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Thanks Kerry. I'm not worried at all. The ave. baby doesn't walk

until 13 mo. Lots of time yet.

Dana

> > > Hi guys. A lot of you don't know me too well since I am pretty

> >quiet these

> > > days. My son underwent helmet treatment six months ago,

but

> >I have

> > > stuck around because every now and then I find I have some good

> >advice to

> > > offer somebody. Anyway, I need to vent about my dear mom and

dear

> >grandpa,

> > > and since DH is working tonight, I can't vent to him (lucky

him),

> >so it's you

> > > guys!

> > >

> > > Okay, here's the deal: is 18 months and has an

OBSESSION,

> >to say the

> > > least, with cars, trucks, tractors, anything that has a

steering

> >wheel and

> > > moves. He would rather watch a three-hour NASCAR race than any

> >kid show. He

> > > will watch a race from start to finish. Needless to say,

Sundays

> >I get a

> > > real long break. Anyway, likes to " drive " daddy's truck

and

> >mommy's

> > > car when given the opportunity, meaning, steer the wheel like a

> >maniac even

> > > if the engine is off while repeating, " Vroom, vroom. " Somehow

> >, in

> > > being completely 100 percent more observant than we ever

thought a

> >toddler

> > > could be, has figured out which key in ANY key ring presented

to

> >him is the

> > > ignition key. It started with daddy's truck. One day DH was

> >holding

> > > while was doing his driving routine. gave him the

> >keys just for

> > > fun. Low and behold, takes the big Dodge key and

proceeds

> >to reach

> > > around the steering wheel with the key and tries his hardest to

> >place it in

> > > the ignition. Well, he didn't do it, and still can't do it to

> >this day,

> > > although he tries every time. One of these days I'm sure he'll

> >succeed.

> > > Well, DH and I just were amazed about it and we like to show

> >everybody what

> > > can do. So a week ago, we were at my mom's family

reunion

> >which is a

> > > three hour drive into 110 degree heat. My grandpa was there

and

> >he drives an

> > > SUV of some sort. was fascinated of course. He wanted

to

> >drive. So

> > > my grandpa's car door was wide open and I lifted up into

the

> >driver's

> > > seat. Well, the keys were on the seat and I didn't see them.

> > did and

> > > he reached for them, grabbed the right key and tried to put it

in

> >the

> > > ignition. I called for my grandpa to come look, and he took a

> >picture, but

> > > then told me how dangerous it is for me to let climb up

into

> >other

> > > people's cars, because " He might think it's okay to open the

door

> >and get

> > > into anybody's car, " and " You hear about these kids who start

cars

> >and drive

> > > away, " and blah blah blah. I didn't think too much of it

because

> >I'm pretty

> > > used to getting second-guessed by my elders, and I let it go.

> > >

> > > But tonight I'm kind of upset because my mom just returned

from an

> >extended

> > > stay with my grandpa and she told me that my grandpa said, and

she

> >just HAD

> > > to agree, that he was scared about and how fascinated he

is

> >with cars.

> > > I said, " Honestly mom, I haven't met one kid 's age who

isn't

> >a little

> > > fascinated with the steering wheel. " And she said that he

might

> >think it's

> > > okay to just get in someone's car and he might accidentally

start

> >the car. I

> > > said, " Mom, you know, the difference is that I watch my kid. I

> >don't let him

> > > run amuck and then see him driving down the road. " If I let

> >him " drive, " it

> > > is in a controlled environment. He's not going to start the

car

> >if I'm

> > > there. And she was like, " Well, I can't really blame him

because

> >I've been

> > > scared about it too. "

> > >

> > > Am I reading too much into this? I feel like it's a slap in

the

> >face. I

> > > mean, I never hear what I'm doing positively for . If I

even

> >dare tell

> > > my mom that I just gave a bath, I get the whole

> >speech, " Now, you know

> > > never to leave him in the bath by himself, right? " And when I

> >say, " Yes.

> > > and I never leave him, not even to answer the phone, " she

> >says, " Oh, I know

> > > you wouldn't. " I told her tonight I bought a kiddy pool

and

> >filled it

> > > up. I hear: " Oh, be careful and don't let him around it when

> >you're not

> > > there. " I mean, I know I'm only 24 but I do have a brain in my

> >head and

> > > plenty commonsense. I know these are valid concerns and awful

> >things that

> > > happen to babies, like drowning in a bathtub or pool, but my

mom

> >knows I

> > > watch like a hawk. And my grandpa doesn't have one

positive

> >thing to

> > > say about how is turning out, and can't just say that

> >something is cute

> > > or that is smart to know which key goes where, but pretty

> >much is

> > > grasping at straws to create a situation that, in my mind,

doesn't

> >have a

> > > good chance of happening unless I'm not doing my job. Now, I

can

> >understand

> > > if I were in the house flapping my jaws and was outside

by

> >himself

> > > getting into cars, but, hello, I'm the one who lifted him in

> >there. He

> > > couldn't climb into that SUV, and I was standing right there.

And

> >then of

> > > course, I'm the one who takes the criticism for some reason,

the

> >one who is

> > > married, 24, has a college education, a good job, but my

grandpa

> >doesn't have

> > > one thing to say about my 18 year old cousin who has two

children,

> >one 2, one

> > > 8 months, no education past 8th grade, scumbag boyfriend, and

> >whose daughter

> > > is IN CONTROL, and she won't discipline her because she thinks

> >it's cute.

> > > AAAAAHHH! I'm sorry everybody. I'm just sick and tired of

> >criticism. And

> > > it's not just my mom and grandpa. I get lectured for not

having

> > in

> > > three layers of clothes every time the darn sun ducks behind a

> >cloud from my

> > > grandma. I go to pick him up from their house after work and

the

> >heater is

> > > up to friggin 90 degrees and he's asleep under two blankets,

> >sweating. When

> > > he had croup, she argued with me that there was just NO way

that

> >those

> > > doctors could be right about taking him outside at night to

> >breathe the night

> > > air to clear up the croup. No, better to sit inside and let

your

> >heater

> > > breed the germs.

> > >

> > > Allrighty, feel better now. SO SORRY ANYONE WHO MADE IT THIS

> >FAR!!! IF YOU

> > > HAVE MADE IT THIS FAR, THANKS FOR LISTENING!!!

> > >

> > > Kellie, mom of , 18 months

> > > Olympia, WA

> >

>

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