Re: To Pam...Daryl

[Guest guest]

Daryl, what a way to describe a computer virus! I don't blame you

for being sickened. I'm glad he's willing to get tested and I hope

everything is clear for your sake.

My relationship isn't perfect by far. We have a LOT of work ahead of

us. Marriage is work - all the time, not just sometimes. My pastor

told us that " commitment is: realizing and accepting that there will

be periods of unhappiness. "

We all have had terrible times in our marriages, but we (I) made a

commitment and will try my best to keep my word. I can't do it

without God's help though.

I'm praying for you every day Daryl. You and the whole group. God

will give us the strength we need to make it through.

Love ya.

Pam

> > > > I am at a friend's house using her comp. because mine keeps

> > > getting

> > > > these " error messages " that I'm getting e-mails with a virus.

> > Does

> > > > anyone else get this problem? The only thing I do on my comp.

> is

> > e-

> > > > mail pretty much from this group.

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > My husb., says it's like I'm sleeping with strangers

> > > without a

> > > > condom-what a statement coming from a lying cheater like him.

> I

> > > felt

> > > > like slapping him when he said that. I'm on a roller-coaster

> of

> > > > emotions every day trying to live with a man who says that he

> > > loves

> > > > me, but has hurt me so badly. If I'm distracted, it's not too

> > bad.

> > > > When I have time to think, I feel awful about myself and him.

> > > >

> > > > I had a wonderful trip with the girls, I wish that you all

> could

> > > have

> > > > come,too! It was the support system that I needed and all the

> > > girls

> > > > were so kind to me. It reminded me or a 4-day long episode of

> Sex-

> > > in-

> > > > the-City.

> > > > Living with for 7 yrs., I've kind of gotten used to

> living

> > > in

> > > > a intimate-free marriage and have started thinking that

> > > it's " normal "

> > > > to have a husband who doesn't care about fulfilling my needs-

> > like

> > > > making me feel attractive and sexy. Hearing the girls talk

> about

> > > > their healthy relationships was a big wake up call for me. I

> > > deserve

> > > > to be married to a man who wants me.

> > > >

> > > > did go to his 1st sex addiction support group last

> night.

> > He

> > > > said that he did alot of talking but wouldn't tell me

anything.

> > > > It's some big secret. I guess that I have to give him time,

> but

> > it

> > > > would be nice to know what I'm up against. I don't know if

his

> > > > addiction is about just videos, the internet, other women, or

> > > what. I

> > > > feel like I have a right to know!! I called our therapist, in

> > > tears,

> > > > and she said that he has to feel comfortable to talk with me

> and

> > > not

> > > > be pressured. I can't believe that for 7 yrs., I thought that

> my

> > > > husb. wasn't attracted to me or had no sex drive and it turns

> out

> > > > he's had this secret all along. It makes me so sad.

> > > >

> > > > Anyway, I have hundreds of E-mails to read when I get my

comp.

> > > back-

> > > > my home # is 702-361-6442 if anyone has any advice for me on

> this

> > > > huge mess!!

> > > >

> > > > Patty and I are driving L.A. on Mon. to see Dr. Broski to do

> this

> > > > live blood analysis. Yesterday, I actually found a place on

> Las

> > > Vegas

> > > > that does it. I don't think she is a M.D. though. Does that

> > > matter??

> > > > I'm so excited about it. Coleen and Anita have really gotten

> > help!

> > > > Love, Daryl