Re: I AM HOME /Kacey

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Hi Kacey and thanks for writting to me. Yeah it sucks that my sister

went to the Dr she did because he is such a MR big shot. The surgeon

I used was also going to be her surgeon, he was pretty big too, did

all the girls at world gym in Burlingame Ca, a city right outside San

Franciso. Of course after what I went through she found a different

surgeon to do hers, ha ha, yeah not stupid enough to get those rotten

textured things. Since her ex husband had died and forgot to change

his will she ended up inheriting $50,000 so she bought a cute little

sports car and a boob job. Apparently he did a lift too and that way

she did not have to end up with huge D cup boobs like I did. I could

not afford the lift too when I got my implants. My PS lied and said

they would look ok without a lift, but they looked bad. I had the

double bubble on one side. He would have fixed it but by then I was

already sick so I was not going to waste time fixing them when I knew

I would be gettting them out anyhow.

As far as the whole sex thing goes, yes I try to talk with my

daughter and also my nieces about it without coming down hard on

them. I know that I was sexually active at a very very young age and

so I know that by yelling or telling them not to, that alone is not

going to work nor is it going to make them listen, so the best I can

or could do esp for my niece who is already sexually active is to

explain to her that she needs to really think about if it is worth it

to have sex at her age, I asked her if she is really enjoying it or

if it is just something she is doing because she feels presure, or

obligated or if the guys are making her feel like she has to or they

will leave her. Of course her answers were not completely honest I am

sure but she does not really like it. she told me she only enjoyed it

once. I told her that at her age it is hard to enjoy something that

is meant to be a beautiful and wonderful experience with the right

man. I also tried to tell her that while waiting for marriage may

seem really silly or old fashioned that looking back on it now I wish

I had at least waited until I had found the right person and at least

been more emotionally prepared for it. I think about half of what i

said made it to her brain. That is ok though, whatever part could get

in made it worth doing it. I also warned her that there are prices to

be paid for having sex at a young age and that among those are

diseases and pregnancy. She of course does not want a baby at 14(she

will be 15 in 2 weeks) and neither does my 12 year old daughter,

although she has been physically capable of having a child for 2

years now, can you imagine? These girls now a days are bigger and

more mature looking than we were. I mean maybe it just seems this way

but I dont know. My niece is 14 and a size 34 C and her friends that

I met are all tiny skinny girls with big breasts, her best friend is

a DD cup. I cannot imagine the pressure that must be put on her. WOW.

Guys are so into boobs at that age. She def gets allot of attention

as does my niece. My little girl has had a weight problem but she has

thinned out some and I can see that she is going to be tall. SHe is

already my height in one year she grew over 3 inches! So her weight

seems more evenly distributed. THank goodness she has not got huge

breasts, although she is already a C cup too but she is heavy so it

does not stand out so much as my petite niece. My niece weighs about

10 pounds more than me, so she is still really small.

Anyhow I have two nieces from my first husband and I told them when

i divorced that they would always still be my nieces. THeir

mother abandoned them and their father has been in and out of their

lives so I really bonded with them when I lived in CA and they still

really love me and I love them. I feel bad about the oldest, ,

she has already had allot of sexual relationships, and she ended up

dropping out of High school. Sad! She has a pretty good job in an

upscale department store but still, I had hoped for more from them. I

keep encouraging my daughter that if she does not want to go to

College then she should try to do hair like her aunt Patti ( my sis)

who makes really great money. I want her to do something she likes ya

know and if college is not what she is meant to do then maybe hair

will be a good choice for her. She is only 12 so lots of time for

that.

Anyhow my oldest niece also got an STD and so she has now

slowed down and is in a comitted relationship. She will be 18 in a

month and is living with a guy a year older than her. I know allot of

their issues come from their mother abandoning them and then their

father not being there or when he was he was on so many pain meds

from a back injury that he wasn't much of a dad for them.

One thing that I am grateful for is that my daughter has a dad that

loves her. He is not a great person, and he has cheated her out of a

relationship with me, and he does not know how to discipline her or

control her at all, he does at least love her. I am praying that the

whole father daughter thing will not be an issue for her. I don't

know what else to do other than the fact I have told her before she

jumps into a sexual relationship with just anyone that she should

really think about it and decide if it is something she is doing

because she wants to or if it is to make a boy like her. I told her

that when boys want sex they will say anything to et it and then

later they forget all about the lies they said prior to getting what

they want. I also told her that if she decides it is something she

def is going to do and no way to stop her or change her mind the very

least thing she MUST DO IS USE A CONDOM, I hate having to just put it

this way but what are my options.

At a young age I decided I was going to get involved with someone and

I went to planned parenthod and got put on the pill and back then the

STD's were not like now, there was no aids so they did not give you

condoms just the pill and I was on my way. I would hope that if my

kid decides to do this that she will be smart like I was and go get

something. AND USE CONDOMS. This is the most important thing for

these kids.

Gosh I hope that no one is upset I am taking so much space up on this

group with this issue but most of us on this site have kids or at

least grandkids, nieces etc, so this does affect most of us direct or

indirectly.

Well Kacey I must say that not only are you an excellent girl to talk

about the horrors of implants but maybe you will also aspire to be a

speaker to young kids about sex and the risks. Do you know that 1 out

of 4 adults has genital herpes? I found this out when I found out

about 11 years ago that I had them. It is not a pleasant thing to

have. I mean I hardly ever get the sores anymore, but I got them from

a guy I was living with, we were in a comitted relationship and he

did not even know he had them, he was a carrier. So it was a big huge

surprise. It was a nightmare that first year. After that it kind of

went away and now only happens if I get very stressed.

Well I should wrap this up by just adding that no matter what happens

with my sister I love her very much and plan to try to be there when

and if she choses to come to me. I have made peace with her and she

knows that I won't be there to revel in her illness, I would never do

that. I think she fears that I will try to tell her " I told you so "

but I won't.

I would not do that.

Anyhow, I guess I have shared enough of my extremely personal

information for the day. I know that this is a safe place to share

and I trust all of you and besides that I have no shame of my life, i

have made some bad choices and certainly paid the price for them,

however I do believe that my trials have made me the woman I am today

and that is a woman I am proud to be. I have some issues I am working

on for sure, but everyday I see the stronger side of me and the good

in me and along with gods help I am becoming a better person everyday.

I only hope that I can continue to give back what has been givne to

me.

hugs to all

, " kaceybu02 " <kaceyalong@h...> wrote:

> Hi ,

>

> Well, happy early birthday! I hope you and your hubby have

wonderful

> ones! As if regular plastic surgeons aren't convincing

> enough....your sister had to go and get someone who deals with the

> stars. Boy, the dumb luck. You're so great to be there for her.

It's

> so sad though, you two probably won't be close until she admits

that

> implants could make her sick. But when that day comes, you two will

> probably never be closer. There's hope in every situation. I can't

> wait for the day when all my sisters openly love each other.

>

> It's so great that you're willing to share your personal stories

> with the young people that are sexually active. People really don't

> understand that you can get STD's from even the only person you've

> ever been with. That's the tricky part...you'd think you'd be safe

> if the two of you dated for years. Maybe this will get to be the

> next issue some of us will be able to address. Like I said, I'll

> have to build myself up for this one. Oh, and I'm determined to

try

> and help my future children stay away from sex until they're ready.

> I think that one of the keys to this is to have a loving, father-

> daughter relationship. That would have definitely helped me. Young

> girls seek male attention. Period. Little girl babies seek male

> attention. Heck, it doesn't go away....we will ALWAYS seek male

> attention

>

> And thank you so much for your encouragement! I love all of my

> silicone sisters Everyone here, and that has gotten sick from

> implants IS my new family. It would be wonderful if we could all

> meet one day. And I bet you anything....we will.

>

> Kacey

>

>

>

>

> > > > Hey girls I am back home. Yep ya all can get ready for my

> lenghty

> > > > messages, which I am so sure you all missed so much ha ha ha.

> > > > Seriously I hope that you did all miss me a litte bit???? It

> is

> > > nice

> > > > to think you all did. Even if I do talk too much.

> > > > My trip was really a good trip other than the fact that

things

> > > with

> > > > my daugther are not any better. She is just at that age where

> all

> > > > that matters is her freinds. So for that reason allot of the

> > > things

> > > > we had tried to plan to do and to include her in fell apart.

> We

> > > did

> > > > get her to Montery to the beautiful but pricey aquarium. Has

> > > anyone

> > > > else ever been there? It is really cool but so many people it

> is

> > > kind

> > > > of hard to see the fishes and things. Probably would have

been

> > > better

> > > > to do on a Weekday.

> > > > We also did get her to go to Stinson Beach, which was

gorgeous

> > (it

> > > is

> > > > right across the golden gate bridge) but worlds away from the

> > > hubub

> > > > of San Francisco. I also took my niece along (she is only 14

> and

> > > > already having sex and it is really hard for me cause I

wanted

> to

> > > > shake her and tell her to stop) man what a world we live in

ya

> > > know.

> > > > And the other big family thing we did was the little ferry

> boat

> > > trip

> > > > and tour of Alcatraz prison. That was really cool. I lived in

> the

> > > Bay

> > > > area my whole entire life and that was the first time I ever

> got

> > > out

> > > > there. I was bummed my sister did not end up coming, esp

since

> we

> > > had

> > > > bought and resevered her a spot. She said she was too anxious

> to

> > > be

> > > > around crowds. TO me she said she is not sick and that it is

> just

> > > > depression and anxiety (which she has had for years) but my

> hubby

> > > > overheard her telling my mom that she could not remember the

> last

> > > > time she did not feel like she had the flu. I can only assume

> she

> > > > won't talk to me about it cause she assumes I will tell her

it

> is

> > > her

> > > > implants. At any rate she puts on a great act, but hey how

> many

> > of

> > > us

> > > > here all did that??? Plaster that smile on and when people

ask

> > you

> > > > how you feel you want to scream " LIKE CRAP " or worse, instead

> you

> > > > say " I feel fine "

> > > > I did make my peace with the whole thing, yes it was hard to

> see

> > > her

> > > > with implants but I feel I am pretty much over my boob envy,

> and

> > I

> > > > sure don't envy being her with those silicone gel implants in

> my

> > > body

> > > > doing who knows what to her health.

> > > > Anyhow it feels good to be home, it was a fun trip but also

> > > stressful

> > > > with my daughter constantly on the phone to her friends and

> > seeing

> > > my

> > > > sister all nervous and my mom seeming kind of weirded out on

> the

> > > > whole thing too.It was very strange, so yeah, good to be back

> in

> > > > Idaho for me. I love my family but I don't miss living in

that

> > > > overcrowded part of this Country at all. I never EVER thought

> I

> > > could

> > > > leave California, and now i realize how much i truly love

> Idaho.

> > > > I need to get a few hours of free time to read all the posts

> and

> > > see

> > > > if there is anyone that I can help, ya know me, always

wanting

> to

> > > > help.

> > > > I have been praying girls, allot, and praying that you all

> have

> > > seen

> > > > my change and that god is helping to giude me to be a better

> > > person,

> > > > a better friend and a better source of support on this site.

> > > > God is working through each and everyone one of us here, I

> firmly

> > > > believe that. I also believe that my opinions are not always

> > > right,

> > > > or the only way, and that even when I believe strongly in

> > > something

> > > > that does not mean I have to shove MY BELIEFS OR OPINIONS

down

> > > anyone

> > > > else's throat.I really love to help people, and try to share

> the

> > > > knowledge that I do have, I just want to do it in a gentler

> way.

> > > > So with that being said, and me feeling about as happy,

> content,

> > > > healthy and wonderful as I could ever ask to feel I am going

> to

> > > wrap

> > > > up my little message and just say that I really love you all,

> > your

> > > a

> > > > wonderful group of strong,beautiful women and I feel

> priveledged

> > > and

> > > > honored to be a part of your lives.

> > > > hugs to all

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >