Re: Finally... terry/everyone.

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Terry

I think it probably feels good to get this out after all of your holding in of your feelings. I hope it doesn't stir up a bunch of crap with everyone as all of us have had our own experiences - good or bad - and should be able to express our opinions without worrying about what others think. I am tiring very quickly of all the negative posts here from woman to woman and it is stressing me out to the point of not even reading some of them as I know there will be "arguing" involved. We are all in the same boats here - we are all here because we were hurt/sickened/maimed or a combo of the above from different surgeons around the world We are here for support - not to fight. If someone has had a bad experience or good we should be able to post our feelings without prejudice. I know everyone here has a strong opinion about their surgeons. I have had a horrible experience with my original surgeon and great one with my explanting surgeon. I am sure there are other women around that think the opposite about these doctors. I think we should all be allowed to post our experiences so that others can draw whatever conclusions they want from them and make an informed decision on this very important life saving subject.

I think that is what harmed us all - NOT having the opportunity to make an informed decision as we were lied to or led away from the "possibilities of illness" that have now made some of our lives, including mine, unbearable. If I were new to this group I would want to hear all of the stories - good and bad so I could make a decision where to go for my explant.

Also, my opinion, if I were new here and read half the crap posted here in the last day I would probably not come back to the site as it is is stressful enough to be new at learning about your implant illness and pending surgery without having to listen to all the bickering and bitching going on between everyone lately. I think it is a terrible way to welcome/help all the new women that are flocking to our site looking for answers lately.

Remember - we are here to help and support whether we agree or not about others positive or negative experiences. Everyone should be able to relate their experience without fear of being verbally attacked.

Sorry for the long, negative post but I am sitting here this morning reading all of these messages, I am just getting over a flare and they are stressful.... meanwhile I am waiting for a hurricane to hit my home and millions of others within the next 24 hours and it seems so petty to be fighting now when so many people are getting ready to lose their lives, homes - everything they have. In this type of situation, "who's doctor is better" doesn't seem near as important. Support and love does.

shari