Re: Xanax and sleep..Kathye

[Guest guest]

--Kathy, you have been thru so much, and come so far, that you are

and have always been a great inspiration to me. I am glad I found

you on this sight. hugs TERRY

- In , " mikat828 " <mikat828@y...> wrote:

> -

> Thanks LM. THere is alway so much support on this site--for every

> kind of problem we are going through. I really love the way we all

are

> there for each other! It was very hard coping with mike's death.

It

> was sudden and very unexpected. Yet, looking back, I can really

see

> how God protected me and brought me through. I think the thing

that I

> learned most is that life is hard --very hard--for alot of people.

> And we are just not taught coping skills in this country. In

> countries torn by devastation, starvation, war, etc, I think

children

> get tough very young. Here, we try to protect our children and

make

> them think " you grow up, get married, and live happily ever

after " .

> Then when things get tough, we immediately want it to end. But it

> doesn't. I remember when he died the hardest thing was knowing

that

> there was no fix. I always believed there was a way to change

things

> if you didn't like them. NOt only could I not change the

situation, I

> knew that going through it was going to be hell. Not like waiting

out

> the flu. Or any other bad thing that had happened up to that

point.

> It is a very humbling experience to go down into that pit of

> despair and not know when, if ever, you were ever going to come

out of

> it.

> Before I could recover from that loss, this illness took off.

Another

> thing beyond my control and endlessly painful. And then the

> depression became chronic and severe. So many times I wanted to

give

> up and thought I could stand it no more. Days, weeks, years went

by.

> I would have never believed that I could stand it--but as you

> know--you have no choice. You just keep hanging on well after you

are

> sure you can't hang on any longer. And in it all, God always just

> kept me from the brink. I think I was a pretty weak person who

didn't

> know how to depend on God. This taught me alot. I think I have

> learned I have a much greater capacity to endure whether I want to

or

> not. And when I was in my greatest pain, God brought someone into

my

> life that brought me alot of joy. Never have I been more sure of

> anything in my life that God brought my current husband to me. I

> never thought I could love again, or would find someone I loved as

> much as mike. In fact, I was never intending on looking. But I

met

> Dale in my grief support group, and he is the most compassionate,

> loving, caring man I have ever met. He has supported me through

> everything. He took such loving care of his wife while she was

dying

> of colon cancer. Just about every day I thank God for him and for

the

> blessing he is in my life. So I have found that I can love two men

> equally. And there is always hope for all of us who are alone

that

> God sees our hearts and knows what we need before we even ask

Him. I

> love the verse " For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord,

> " plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope

and

> a future " . Things in my life are far from perfect, but I still

feel

> vey blessed. Geez, I am sorry, to write a book. I know you didn't

> really even expect a reply. I just wanted to share that we are

alot

> stronger than we can possibly imagine and that life always has the

> possibility for change. I loved a line in this one movie where the

> girl says " life can change with every breath we take " . It is so

true.

> I hope and pray for all of us on this site that life changes for

the

> better!

> Hugs, kathy

>

>

>

>

>

>

> -- In , Jane Doe <oceanlilly_csu@y...>

> wrote:

> > Hi Kathy!

> > I feel so bad for what you have been through too. How do you cope

> with loosing your husband? This must be so hard.

> > Hugs,

> > -Marie

> >

> >