Guest guest Posted May 22, 2005 Report Share Posted May 22, 2005 Hi everyone, I was just wondering if anyone's CMT affected their marriages. Apparently, mine was the reason for our recent separation. Also, can stress make CMT worse? Thanks, Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2005 Report Share Posted May 23, 2005 Hi Jen, Any disability can affect a marriage. 2 months after I got married I hurt my back and my marriage went down hill after that. plus my wife was disabled before we got married and it didn't bother me. My marriage lasted 9 months. it would have been less but I needed her income to help with the bills. but after 9 months I couldn't take it anymore and told her to get out. It wasn't until after she left that I found out I had CMT and yes stress can affect it. I was even engaged to someone with MS and she didn't seem to understand when I couldn't do things. you just have to get lucky and find the right person. Tommy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2005 Report Share Posted May 23, 2005 Jen, I'm not sure CMT has affected my marriage as much as the depression from the inability to be the person I was 10 years ago, when he married me. We don't have any problems, directly resulting from the CMT but when I do get depressed I'm sure it plays a big role in my husband always being the " pick me up and dust me off " type. That gets old fast. I hope you find a partner that wants to understand, and wants to be there until the very end, to death do you part. Canaan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2005 Report Share Posted May 23, 2005 I have also been married 21 years and he loves me just the way I am. There are good men out there. I agree you should look for a better man......=). LaDonna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2005 Report Share Posted May 23, 2005 Hi Jen, I'm not married but do live with my boyfriend. Our relationship at times is tense I think because of CMT. From my point of view he doesn't understand the pain and fatigue and he thinks I am " milking " the symtoms. From his point of view..well he doesn't understand the pain and fatigue and thinks I'm " milking " the symptoms. I try to do everything I have always done I just don't do things as fast or as often. I've had to learn to let go of housework and shopping for long periods of time. He doesn't mind that part of it but he thinks I am ignoring him when I tell him I need to lie down or need a nap. It's taken ALOT of talking and sometimes arguing. Just when I think we have it all worked out it seems to rear it's ugly head again. Stess does affect CMT..makes it much worse in my case. When things are tense here my pain level shoots sky high. It hits really hard when there doesn't seem to be enough time in the day. I've been doing some serious thinking on how to re-adjust life's struggles and do away with things I don't really need to deal with. I'm sorry about your separation and I hope things work out for you. I've asked my boyfriend to check out the forums and websites but he feels if he needs to know something he'll get his information from me. I feel he might understand more if he did read the posts and such. So you can see we butt heads alot on this subject. Good luck to you! Elaina/NY Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2005 Report Share Posted May 28, 2005 Jen, It's really interesting, this talk about CMT and marriage. This is something that has been bothering me a long time but I guess I never want to think about it. When I was in college I was IN LOVE with this man who was a roofer and because he was physical outdoors, he was always happy to remain indoors (where we could be physical alone - WITHOUT people grading me on my walking). Anyway, we dated for FIVE years and I still think about him till this day. I had stupid people telling me that if he hadn't proposed by then that I was wasting my time and other negative shi about him. Anyway, sadly, I met and married who I never really felt much for and I still think about Larry till this day. I've mentioned that, because of the man iI married that I do have a wonderful son and I would NOT trade him fo the world but, I don't feel like there's any reason that people with CMT should not be happy and yet, by listening to others, I felt like Larry would never really accepts me even though, now I see he did. We hung out with some other couples once in a while, went to a football game, etc and he was always himself to me, whether around others or not. I guess we learn as we go and good things always come out of things that we never thought were so good. Dawn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 30, 2005 Report Share Posted May 30, 2005 , So glad to hear that things worked out relationship wise. I too am in constant pain. The mornings and getting up after sitting for any amount of time is the worst. It's getting so I am not even comfortable in my favorite recliner. Bed is the only comfortable place to be. For me that's the real downside to all of this. I try not to let life pass me by but it seems to be getting harder and harder to be " involved " because I am only out of pain when in my bed. Really stinks sometimes. But I am very happy that you got everything straightened out. Good for you!! Elaina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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