Reply to 'Eggshells' :) Re: Fw: Suggestions????

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Hi Joni,

I'm with you. No disorder should be an excuse for bad behaviour. I

also believe in your views on Tough Love. My children all understand

about consequences, its been a part of their life. they know that

mistakes and bad choices still have value provided you learn from

them. I have parented my 3 children this way and I have never had a

problem with rudeness or disrespect. Most of my friends think I'm too

hard but I'm happy with how they are.

I hope " walking on egg shells " will take on board your point of view.

Kerrie

> >

> >

> > Hello List

> > I'll try not to make this too long. I am an old list member from

a

> few years back that has a, now,17 year old son w/ ocd, adhd, major

> depression, insomnia, problems with major anger/rage and possibly

TS.

> >

> > He's been diagnosed for 7 years now and I feel quite discouraged

as

> we have tried many different things but it seems we are not much

> further today than we were in the beginning, other than being a bit

> more educated.

> >

> > He's tried Clonidine, Imiprimine, Luvox, Zoloft, Risperdol and

> Imovane. A short while ago his psych said the " best way to find out

> if he is getting any benefit from the meds is to take him off them "

> so that is exactly what we have done. Only I am a little smarter

this

> time and have titrated the Zoloft and Risperdol down very slowly.

He

> is now completely off. There have been no changes yet. He is still

> VERY depressed, moody, lacks ANY motivation, his ocd symptoms are

> about the same with control issues, contamination fears, etc. I

know

> that he is not suddenly going to get well without the meds. I just

> don't know where to go from here. He doesn't go to school, has an

> extremely limited social life, doesn't work, mostly spends his time

> playing video/role playing games on the computer, and doesn't get

any

> exercise

> > We have devised a basic contract in regards to the minimal

> expectations that we would like to see ie: personal grooming,

picking

> up after himself, school, computer time, and controlling his anger.

> The hard part is we really can't even inforce the contract as this

> makes his depression/anger worse and then life is very difficult

for

> all of us in the family.

> > We are receiving the help of a " therapeutic counsellor " that has

> been helping with the anger management etc. and CBT once per month

> working on some E & RP.

> > The problem is he knows what he needs to do but has NO motivation

> to do it.

> > The rest of us are getting depressed seeing this and feeling so

> helpless and frustrated.

> > There's so much more but I promised not to make this long.

> > Any suggestions?????

> >

> > Thanks in advance,

> > Just call me... Walking on eggshells.