Joni

[Guest guest]

I meant to say in my last post, when I finally decided it's over, I'm not

continuing this endless cycle of reassurance anymore, my daughter behaved as

though she was in some way very relieved. Not that she wasn't still

miserable, and had huge doubts that anything could make OCD get small, and

certainly she didn't really understand at that point how not answering the

questions could do this. But it was like, Mom's back, Mom's in charge the

way she's supposed to be, maybe what Mom's telling me *could* be true.

That's when I realized that by kowtowing to OCD, I was making him even more

frightening and real than he already was. By finally behaving like the

parent I had always been until OCD, I seemed to cut the bully off at the

knees in Kel's eyes and make telling him no at least thinkable.

Kathy R. in Indiana