Guest guest Posted March 13, 2002 Report Share Posted March 13, 2002 Sorry the day hasn't started well, Sheri. I hope writing about your frustrations made you feel somewhat better. I think complaining DOES help as long as, at the same time, you try to figure out what you are going to do to solve your problems or, at least, come up with some strategy on how to cope with them. It sounds like you are trying your best to make your life better. How is your ex? Does he have cancer? Can he help you move? Do you belong to a church? Can they help you? [ ] One of those DAYS > Good Morning All, > I just sit here this morning having one of those days. > It seems so stupid where I have no clue where to turn. > I would enjoy going back to bed placing covers over my > head and hiding. And yet I know having a pity party > isn't going to help. > By the end of the month I will be moving to a better > apartment yet have no way to move. A whole other > story. > I finally decided weight club is a great idea, got on > the scale this morning and shocked myself. I kept > asking myself may be my brace was on but I wasn't > awake to see it!! No not the problem. Why can't my > weight equal my bank account at the moment. > I feel writing does help, and I can sit here and feel > sorry for " poor " me or try again and get back into the > world. Complaining doesn't really help does it. > Well I think I will get moving. start writing down > what I eat and drink water. > I just thank God for you all and all the work and > information I get from reading all the post. And soon > I will send a recipe that we all can use months down > the line. > Thanks and you know my love and prayers never leave > any of you, Sheri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2002 Report Share Posted March 13, 2002 I have had one of those weeks. Remember when I told you all that the school was bugging me about how much school was missed. The lawyer got that truancy stuff taken off my and 's record. They will no longer mess with me. Get this, a week and half after the lawyer contacted the school, I get a the same truancy letter about . All but 2 of 's absences had a drs note. I met with the lawyer today and I showed him all of notes of jared's illness. Remember he was very sick for awhile. here is a list for the last 5 months. 10/3/01-sick appt-Fever, Pneumonio 10/15/01-sick appt-Bronchiolitis 10/23/01-sick appt-Asthma, Acute Otitis Serous ER visit-hives from head to foot 10/31/01-Pneumonia, Viral Syndrome, CBC,Glucose Dextrostick, mono test, Differential smear 1/8/02-sick appt-AcuteOtitis Media, Upper Respiratory Infection 1/25/02-Hearing test as well as Chronic Otitis Media 2/6/02-Pre-op for Chronic otitiis Media, Chronic Adenoiditis 2/7/02-Surgery-tubes inserted and Adnoids removed 2/14/02-post0op for Chronic Otitis Media and Chronic Adenoiditis, Hearing test 3/11/02-sick visit, Sinusitis one time he didn't have a note is because he pitched a fit and wouldn't get on the bus. The other time he had a dentist appt and I forgot the excuse. The lawyer asked how much school he missed in October. I told him he missed 3 to 4 weeeks. He said because is in LD for speech and Lang. that they should have contacted me to set up some kind of teaching session with him. They didn't. Anyway I decided that I am going to the Early Turancy Program ( at the court house with the DA) I have spent the last 2 days getting everyone's medical papers from now dating back to 2000. it has dr. itemized bills, prescription rect's, Dr's letters, how much we spend on insurance every month and total of copay's for each person, wrote down what each med we got was and what it was for and why. Some are pain meds for headaches, stomach meds for , xanax for me on occasion. Surgeries and testing. Basicly I filled up a whole legal pad and its our whole medical life story from 2000 to date.I plan on laying it in front of the DA(who by the way is good friends with my lawyer and my lawyer already talked with him about some of our troubles with the school), anyway, I have proof with all the medical stuff. I am going to tell him that I am a stay at home mom, I work very hard with the boys and their school work. I always know where they are so its not like they are skipping school, we always make sure they have uniforms that fit, school supplies(that also means replacing supplies that have used up), we pay for and they attend field trips. Iam also going to tell the DA that I see kids in our neighbor hood that aren't taken care of very well and they miss lots of school. There are kids in that school that are abused(they go to school with brusies about the face) , the school knows they are abused and that their parents are drug users etc. I want to know why they have to harrass me every year. I know its all because I hired a lawyer for jesse so he could get all his services which by the is only for special needs and learning disabilities. He does have special needs but he is far from having disabilities. They STILL will not identify him as disabled so no 504 plan which is a federal thing. They will not get it through their heads that there is also a Federal Act protecting sibilings of a chronicly ill child. It means that they will miss school once in a while or often due to their sibilings illness. My kids have missed school many times cause of lack of sleep because of as well as worry about him when he is really sick or has surgery.Those absences should be excused. They will not excuse them. Here is another good one. , and all had a dentist appt. we were there for almost 3 hours. The next day 's teacher asked why he was out the day before and he told her that he had to have sealants put on his teeth. She told him that was no reason to miss the whole school day. I sent a note explaining that 2 other of the boys also had appts with the dentist and we were there for 3 hours. She said again that was still no excuse. You see if your child has an appt at 9am which is usually when a dr office opens, if your child isn't signed into school before 10:30 or 11am or if they are signed in after that time they will make the child absence even if they are there. I decided that if an appt goes past that time slot and they will be maked absent anyway why even make them go. We always make up the work they miss so there shouldn't be any problem. In there minds though I am the evil parent who doesn't care about her children. Ok now i feel much better. I don't know what I would do without all of you and this group. Seems like the only time i post is to whine or vent. Love to all and sending healing thoughts to you all, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2002 Report Share Posted March 13, 2002 Dear , Thanks for the positives, still trying. My daughter is home from school and in a few hours she goes with dad until Sunday, so mom wants to play!! Thanks for asking about my ex, I forgot I complained on that end as well. So far haven't found anything. Yesterday he went to my neurologist. It's funny he went with me years and years ago once and told me he didn't really like him. Well I always did and yesterday after the appointment he said he did like him. So go figure, men I guess huh!!! Am a member at a church further from me and haven't been to that one in a while. Just been going to one closer to here. I do know that God has a plan for me I just wish HE/SHE would care to share it about now.!!! Thanks again, know you are always blessed, everyone else is two, Sheri --- <Matsumura_Clan@...> wrote: > Sorry the day hasn't started well, Sheri. I hope > writing about your > frustrations made you feel somewhat better. I think > complaining DOES > help as long as, at the same time, you try to figure > out what you are > going to do to solve your problems or, at least, > come up with some > strategy on how to cope with them. It sounds like > you are trying your > best to make your life better. > > How is your ex? Does he have cancer? Can he help you > move? Do you belong > to a church? Can they help you? > > > > > [ ] One of those DAYS > > > > Good Morning All, > > I just sit here this morning having one of those > days. > > It seems so stupid where I have no clue where to > turn. > > I would enjoy going back to bed placing covers > over my > > head and hiding. And yet I know having a pity > party > > isn't going to help. > > By the end of the month I will be moving to a > better > > apartment yet have no way to move. A whole other > > story. > > I finally decided weight club is a great idea, got > on > > the scale this morning and shocked myself. I kept > > asking myself may be my brace was on but I wasn't > > awake to see it!! No not the problem. Why can't > my > > weight equal my bank account at the moment. > > I feel writing does help, and I can sit here and > feel > > sorry for " poor " me or try again and get back into > the > > world. Complaining doesn't really help does it. > > Well I think I will get moving. start writing down > > what I eat and drink water. > > I just thank God for you all and all the work and > > information I get from reading all the post. And > soon > > I will send a recipe that we all can use months > down > > the line. > > Thanks and you know my love and prayers never > leave > > any of you, Sheri > > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 2002 Report Share Posted March 14, 2002 Dear Sheri...I'm sorry you're feeling discouraged. I'll keep you in my heart & in my prayers. Hugs of Hope... Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 16, 2002 Report Share Posted March 16, 2002 Hi , You look ready and then some. But I would like to suggest that you don't mention the other kids because it really is hearsay. And you really don't know for sure if they aren't doing anything. Not only that, I learned early don't volunteer any extra information. But not in the case of the kids. I wouldn't mention the reason you kept the boys home the rest of the day after their dentist appt. either. When do you go? ~Sue Re: [ ] One of those DAYS > I have had one of those weeks. Remember when I told you all that the school > was bugging me about how much school was missed. The lawyer got that > truancy stuff taken off my and 's record. They will no longer mess with > me. Get this, a week and half after the lawyer contacted the school, I get a > the same truancy letter about . All but 2 of 's absences had a drs > note. I met with the lawyer today and I showed him all of notes of jared's > illness. Remember he was very sick for awhile. here is a list for the last 5 > months. > 10/3/01-sick appt-Fever, Pneumonio > 10/15/01-sick appt-Bronchiolitis > 10/23/01-sick appt-Asthma, Acute Otitis Serous > ER visit-hives from head to foot > 10/31/01-Pneumonia, Viral Syndrome, CBC,Glucose Dextrostick, mono test, > Differential smear > 1/8/02-sick appt-AcuteOtitis Media, Upper Respiratory Infection > 1/25/02-Hearing test as well as Chronic Otitis Media > 2/6/02-Pre-op for Chronic otitiis Media, Chronic Adenoiditis > 2/7/02-Surgery-tubes inserted and Adnoids removed > 2/14/02-post0op for Chronic Otitis Media and Chronic Adenoiditis, Hearing > test > 3/11/02-sick visit, Sinusitis > one time he didn't have a note is because he pitched a fit and wouldn't get > on the bus. The other time he had a dentist appt and I forgot the excuse. > > The lawyer asked how much school he missed in October. I told him he missed 3 > to 4 weeeks. He said because is in LD for speech and Lang. that they > should have contacted me to set up some kind of teaching session with him. > They didn't. > Anyway I decided that I am going to the Early Turancy Program ( at the court > house with the DA) I have spent the last 2 days getting everyone's medical > papers from now dating back to 2000. it has dr. itemized bills, prescription > rect's, Dr's letters, how much we spend on insurance every month and total of > copay's for each person, wrote down what each med we got was and what it was > for and why. Some are pain meds for headaches, stomach meds for , xanax > for me on occasion. Surgeries and testing. Basicly I filled up a whole legal > pad and its our whole medical life story from 2000 to date.I plan on laying > it in front of the DA(who by the way is good friends with my lawyer and my > lawyer already talked with him about some of our troubles with the school), > anyway, I have proof with all the medical stuff. I am going to tell him that > I am a stay at home mom, I work very hard with the boys and their school > work. I always know where they are so its not like they are skipping school, > we always make sure they have uniforms that fit, school supplies(that also > means replacing supplies that have used up), we pay for and they attend field > trips. > > Iam also going to tell the DA that I see kids in our neighbor hood that > aren't taken care of very well and they miss lots of school. There are kids > in that school that are abused(they go to school with brusies about the face) > , the school knows they are abused and that their parents are drug users etc. > I want to know why they have to harrass me every year. I know its all because > I hired a lawyer for jesse so he could get all his services which by the is > only for special needs and learning disabilities. He does have special needs > but he is far from having disabilities. They STILL will not identify him as > disabled so no 504 plan which is a federal thing. They will not get it > through their heads that there is also a Federal Act protecting sibilings of > a chronicly ill child. It means that they will miss school once in a while or > often due to their sibilings illness. My kids have missed school many times > cause of lack of sleep because of as well as worry about him when he is > really sick or has surgery.Those absences should be excused. They will not > excuse them. Here is another good one. , and all had a > dentist appt. we were there for almost 3 hours. The next day 's teacher > asked why he was out the day before and he told her that he had to have > sealants put on his teeth. She told him that was no reason to miss the whole > school day. I sent a note explaining that 2 other of the boys also had appts > with the dentist and we were there for 3 hours. She said again that was still > no excuse. You see if your child has an appt at 9am which is usually when a > dr office opens, if your child isn't signed into school before 10:30 or 11am > or if they are signed in after that time they will make the child absence > even if they are there. I decided that if an appt goes past that time slot > and they will be maked absent anyway why even make them go. We always make up > the work they miss so there shouldn't be any problem. In there minds though I > am the evil parent who doesn't care about her children. > > Ok now i feel much better. I don't know what I would do without all of you > and this group. Seems like the only time i post is to whine or vent. > > Love to all and sending healing thoughts to you all, > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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