Re: Me; son following her from room to room

[Guest guest]

Hi, Cathelean!

Your list of questions from made me laugh (well, I figure it's

either that or cry!) A cruise ship director of entertainment!!! LOL

LOL Unfortunately, I don't have any clever responses to the daily

(hourly) inquisition. What is worse is that once has a plan,

he feels that he needs to accomplish everything on it...even if he

has over scheduled and not allowed for " transition time " (big issue

with ). So at the end of the day, he feels as if he has

failed if his list is not complete. Spontaneity is not in his

vocabulary. In fact, when plans suddenly change, he is very

aggitated and uncomfortable. This is nothing like he used to be. So

sad, so sad.

I suggest you and I find some really good ear plugs! Hang in there!

Melinda S.

Dallas

> Hi Me,

>

> In some post during the past few days I read where you said your

son 'follows you from room to room to come up with a daily plan'

YEEKS!!! My , 6 11/12ths, does this too! I feel like I work on

a cruise ship as the director of entertainment. She constantly asks,

when? where? why? what time? what time? what time? now we're gonna do

what? in what order?

> Tonight I took her, my son and a friend of each of theirs'

swimming. 6:30-8:3:30pm. and she literally could not stay in the pool

for watching the clock; what time are we getting snack #1 ? snack

#2 ?, when will the life guards take a break? how long has she/he had

the goggles (we were taking turns), when are we leaving? Poor

child... what life must seem to her!11 But she is so sweet and dear

to my heart - I wouldn't trade her for the entire world! And that's

a positive fact!!!!!!

>

> Do you have any clever responses you say to your son when he is

planning your life?

>

> Blessings to you and your family,Cathelean in Illinois - 6

11/12ths yr., Anxities, OCD - on ZoloftNolan - 4 yrs., seemingly 'all

boy' though 'clothing' issues are surfacing (UGH)Dearest Hubby - Work-

aholic, but I think I'd still recognize him - the kids kinda look

like him.

[Guest guest]

Dear Cathelean,

Your daughters anxieties about time remind me of my daughter's worries two years ago when she was 6 11/12!!! She used to obsess about "being late" so much that even her brother (only 3 at the time) used to say "just stop talking about being late!!!!" She had to know EXACTLY what time it was, all the time, and worried constantly about what time things started and stopped. She used to set an alarm to wake her up at 4 a.m. so she wouldn't be late to school. This was when her OCD was at its worst and we were just starting (again - long story) to seek treatment. How we handled it at the time was to remove all clocks that she could see (tape on the dashboard clock, since the car was the worst) and refused to answer questions about time. I also told her I would bring her to school late one day to see how awful it would really be (she said that was torturing her and was probably against the law). Luckily for us we got medication (at the time, Paxil) which worked well, and that worry is no longer even in our lives. (Of course it was replaced by others...) I know it's awful to watch your child go through this, but have hope - you don't have to be an entertainment director forever! Maybe you could tell your daughter once (in the morning) or even write it out once, what the daily schedule will be and then refuse to answer any more questions about the topic? Trust me, this too shall pass...

Hang in there,

in Reno