Re: victory/Melinda

[Guest guest]

Hi, Vivian! So good to hear from you! Yes, since I saw you at

conference things have gone downhill around here. Much of it

probably is due to the stress of school (we started on Aug. 3).

Getting two guys to band at 7:15 in the morning...GEEZ! Late night

homework. I am like you...thee thought of a whole year of this makes

me nauseous. At least marching band only lasts through Nov. But I

am hoping that at least my life will improve now that I am letting

things go.

I did praise for his decision at dinner last night. But I

will try not to go too overboard. I am concerned about sending the

message that eating normally is " abnormal " . I also don't want him

doing this for reassurance and praise from me. He is so dependent

and tied to me, I could see this happening. I want him to do this

for himself. I said, " You must be very proud of yourself to decide

to suffer anxiety and break a destructive habit. "

I'll keep you posted.

Good luck on the beginning of school...I hope it will be nothing like

you envision!

Melinda

PS: How did like Philmont?

So this is our first victory...me-

> giving up responsibility and -tentatively

> taking it on.

> WOW.....way to go ! Good for you Melinda!

> I am so happy to hear how he was able to finish dinner

> on his own. Did you let him know how proud you were of

> him? I do hope he will continue to get the therapy

> that he needs, and it is great that he is agreeing to

> medication. It is a hard road for these kids....but

> they can do it!

> Melinda I could just feel your frustration in your

> posts. Yesterday we had a taste of what it could be

> like when school starts. got into the bathroom

> and Alana needed to get in there to get her clothes

> and shower. She was going to go try out for the soccer

> team and was nervous. (so her anxiety level was up)

> Well of course to all the clothes in the

> bathroom hampers are dirty...so why would she want

> them? (she had not done her laundry!) and Alana could

> go upstairs to shower...and she didn't need her makeup

> to go try out for soccer....he was going on and on. My

> anxiety went up (I was going to the dentist in 20 min

> and Alanas try out was in 1 hour)

> and I was thinking DAMN him! He needs to get out! He

> finally did get out.....I had already left for the

> dentist. BUT...I have been thinking a lot about

> school and need to get the kids back in the mode of

> being ready and keeping the other person in mind.

> I have noticed my anxiety level spiking and it upsets

> me enough to NOT want to go through it again.

> I have actually thinking about meds for myself!

> I don't think I am strong enough to put up with much

> this year!!!

> take care, Vivian

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