Elly

[Guest guest]

Sorry that you don't feel like discussing what's going on in your life right

now, Elly, but you know we'll be here if and when you

do! Glad you enjoyed the article, but I wish you were feeling better. I'll be

thinking of you and hoping for better days ahead for

you.

RE: [ ] Maybe a dumb ?

Hi!

I've been mostly lurking lately, much going on in my life that I don't feel

like talking about(maybe later). I've been having much joint stiffness

lately, and living in the damp, chilly NW doesn't help at all! The article

you sent, , was very insightful. It helps knowing that it's not all in

my head!! Have a good day, and as pain free as possible! Now back to lurking

for now!

Elly Cyr

Arlington, WA

[Guest guest]

I just feel very overwhelmed by the immense responsibility that being a

single mother entails. I feel very isolated and lonely at times, especially

at night when the kids have gone to bed and there are no humans to talk to

in person. My friends are all married, or they like to hit the singles clubs

and go dancing, which isn’t my thing at all! Besides, it just plain hurts to

be on my feet for any length of time. The last time I went out to a club was

after our company Christmas party and I paid for it dearly for a couple of

days! I’ve immersed myself in my real estate career and volunteer at my kids

’ schools, with Boy Scouts and every once in awhile at our local animal

shelter, so it isn’t that I’m not around people. I’m starting to feel the

need for a meaningful male relationship, although neither my husband nor I

have filed for divorce yet, so I feel like I’m still “off-limits”. I need to

start divorce proceedings, I just haven’t come up with the extra money yet

and my credit cards are just about maxed out while I wait for a closing to

happen! I’ve also been very anxious lately, but haven’t yet shared this with

my PCP. My Mom has been under the care of a Dr. for many years for Bi-Polar

treatment, my sister suffered from severe post partum depression and had to

be hospitalized for about a month, and my oldest brother committed suicide 3

½ years ago and I have been dearly missing him lately. So, I’m worried that

I may have the “family disease”. I recently lost my mother in law to a brain

aneurysm and my husband’s family s dealing with it by going about business

as usual. My family is across the country. I’m kind of feeling homesick for

New England and my old friends and stomping grounds! My family has suggested

I bring the kids East this summer and I’m leaning toward that direction!

Enough for now! Gentle hugs to you all!

Elly

[ ] Elly

Sorry that you don't feel like discussing what's going on in your life right

now, Elly, but you know we'll be here if and when you

do! Glad you enjoyed the article, but I wish you were feeling better. I'll

be thinking of you and hoping for better days ahead for

you.

RE: [ ] Maybe a dumb ?

Hi!

I've been mostly lurking lately, much going on in my life that I don't feel

like talking about(maybe later). I've been having much joint stiffness

lately, and living in the damp, chilly NW doesn't help at all! The article

you sent, , was very insightful. It helps knowing that it's not all in

my head!! Have a good day, and as pain free as possible! Now back to lurking

for now!

Elly Cyr

Arlington, WA

[Guest guest]

hi elly. i understand how you feel as i have been a widow for 9 1/2 years. i

too miss the companionship and it seems weekends are the hardest for me. my

son is 18 now. senior in h.s. working, and a life of his own. so i have been

spending alot of time alone. most of my friends are married or signifacant

others. i have found a couple phone lines that i have a dating ad on and i

get responses. but i am also not feeling well most days and i really don't

feel i should burden anyone with my disease and problems. it makes it very

hard for me. kathy in il

[Guest guest]

I'm sorry that you have so many burdens right now, Elly. I do really

understand about raising the kids alone - the huge responsibility, the

isolation. Does your husband live close enough to help out with the kids

ever? Or is that out of the question for other reasons? It would be nice

if you had a break and had some time alone, even if it's only every

other weekend. That's the arrangement we have and, although I love the

kids, I value those two days of peace every two weeks.

As long as you don't think there is any chance you would want to

reconcile with your husband, I don't see why you can't date. Not that

I'm recommending that necessarily. Only you can know if you are ready to

do that.

It sounds like you have plenty of reasons for feeling anxious, but

please do run it by your PCP if you have a good relationship with him or

her. You have many pressures and unsettled issues. The idea of getting

going on the divorce and the money needed to do it is probably enough to

make anyone anxious. I know I had many nights of fitful sleep. How are

you sleeping these days?

Would you ever consider joining a support group for people going through

divorce? They sometimes offer them at local churches (at least around

here). It might help to talk to other people in similar situations.

Sorry to hear of your mother-in-law's death. I'm sure there are a lot of

difficult feelings to work through about that, especially given how your

husband's family is reacting. It's confusing and upsetting, I'm sure.

Taking your family up on the offer to visit over the summer sounds like

a grand idea! If you're going to stop at O'Hare on the way, let me

know - I'd come to meet you.

I'm hoping for happier, less stressful days for you, Elly. I believe

they will come.

RE: [ ] Elly

I just feel very overwhelmed by the immense responsibility that being a

single mother entails. I feel very isolated and lonely at times,

especially

at night when the kids have gone to bed and there are no humans to talk

to

in person. My friends are all married, or they like to hit the singles

clubs

and go dancing, which isn't my thing at all! Besides, it just plain

hurts to

be on my feet for any length of time. The last time I went out to a club

was

after our company Christmas party and I paid for it dearly for a couple

of

days! I've immersed myself in my real estate career and volunteer at my

kids

' schools, with Boy Scouts and every once in awhile at our local animal

shelter, so it isn't that I'm not around people. I'm starting to feel

the

need for a meaningful male relationship, although neither my husband nor

I

have filed for divorce yet, so I feel like I'm still " off-limits " . I

need to

start divorce proceedings, I just haven't come up with the extra money

yet

and my credit cards are just about maxed out while I wait for a closing

to

happen! I've also been very anxious lately, but haven't yet shared this

with

my PCP. My Mom has been under the care of a Dr. for many years for

Bi-Polar

treatment, my sister suffered from severe post partum depression and had

to

be hospitalized for about a month, and my oldest brother committed

suicide 3

½ years ago and I have been dearly missing him lately. So, I'm worried

that

I may have the " family disease " . I recently lost my mother in law to a

brain

aneurysm and my husband's family s dealing with it by going about

business

as usual. My family is across the country. I'm kind of feeling homesick

for

New England and my old friends and stomping grounds! My family has

suggested

I bring the kids East this summer and I'm leaning toward that direction!

Enough for now! Gentle hugs to you all!

Elly