Guest guest Posted May 1, 2002 Report Share Posted May 1, 2002 Hi , Thanks for sharing how well that went. Hopefully I'll be putting the advice to the test soon, too! :-) Hugs, Carol in FL [ ] Advice taken I just wanted to let you know that I did use some of the advice given about intimacy. My " special friend " came over yesterday and we tried some of the info that I read from several of you. First of all, we made arrangements ahead of time. I made sure to take my meds at the proper time so that they would be at their peak. I also took a nice hot shower right before he arrived. This helped tremendously. We have always had an extremely open conversational relationship, but we took the time to listen to each other a little more seriously this time. We tried many things and if it didn't work or caused pain for either him or myself, we voiced the problem and tried something else. I also learned a valuable lesson. Don't jump to conclusions. Talk about concerns. I found out that my feelings of rejection were unfounded. He was concerned about me and did not want to hurt me, so he waited for me to make the move. I was feeling insecure because of my weight gain and joint pain and restrictions and (frankly) was a little embarrassed of the whole situation. This made me uncomfortable to make my feelings known and when we were intimate and I really couldn't enjoy it. Yesterday, however, many of the insecurities that I had were dealt with in a positive way. We both have a much better understanding of each other and our limits. I know that I can voice my concerns and will not be laughed at. I also know that my weight gain does not bother him. He cares about me and wants to feel close to me no matter what the scale says. Needless to say, I had an extremely enjoyable day yesterday. So please everyone, don't assume that you know how the other person feels. Talk to them. Ask questions. Try new things. You won't be sorry. I promise. Stacey in PA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 2002 Report Share Posted May 1, 2002 i'm glad you had a nice time. hopefully i'll have some fun soon too!! kathy in il Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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