Re: Tess-Surgery Needs

[Guest guest]

Hi Tess,

Any resolution with your surgical equipment needs? I guess it is kinda late

to ask but I came across the e-mail and I was wondering if anything panned

out for you. Was your insurance carrier any help to you? Sometimes, they

are more of a problem than they are worth. You could try making the sugar

free popsicle yourself, I know that I made them in copious quantities for the

girls when they were little.

Sometimes, our wonderful federal agencies just don't have a clue as to what

" real " life is.

Give your daughter a chance. She is probably very eager and anxious to help

you and give back a little bit what you gave to her. I know with

(middle daughter, mildly disabled), she will get me anything that I ask her

for, sit with me in bed and do just about anything that she is capable of.

She is only 15, but she is kinda grown up with Mom being sick and this is a

way of life for all my girls. I am not very proud of this and this was

certainly not the life I wanted for any of them, but the lemons started

coming our way and we just got out the juicer and made our famous lemonade.

I don't have much money, but I am so very rich in what God has given me in

the way of my children. If it weren't for them, I truly believe I may have

cashed in my chips a long time ago. Nothing like a child's hug (no matter

how old they are) to get the endorphins pumping and making the old lady feel

better. Of course, for good measure, I had to throw in a very large dog and

two very spoiled cats just for good measure! LOL

Well, Ron is moaning in his sleep, tummy troubles, so even if I do get some

relief from the pain, I will have to listen to that for the rest of the

night. It is going to be a long weekend. I don't get it, he eats three

times what I do and I am the one who looks like what he eats. Life is just

not fair!!!! Ooohhhh, I can hear his tummy grumbling, I better look out for

a noisy night!

Talk to you later, kiddo

Debs

[Guest guest]

Dear Debs...thankyou for asking. Everything has fallen into

place...some blessings from unexpected sources, and I feel blessed &

grateful. Even the recliner thing worked out...I called 2

Rent-a-Centers...one offered a recliner for about $17. per week, no

deposit, no long-term committment (I hope to only need it 2-3 weeks.)

The other branch of the same company required a month's committment at

$80. PLUS a $450. deposit!!!!!!! If I had that kind of money I'd buy

one!!! But it all worked out for the best. The recliner is being

delivered today.

We have foods in the frig & cupboard. My nighties should arrive soon.

I've been doing my throat & deep breathing exercises.

My girls are angels. Emmy, the one who lives with me, is chomping at

the bit to be my nurse! My oldest daughter, Christena, was none too

happy that the insurance wouldn't allow a day before admit for

monitoring. The Respiratory Pulmonologist will be available to my ENT

that day, and will see me there. My youngest, Genevieve, is very

affectionate. All three will be there to lend their precious & unique

qualities to the adventure. Something I need to learn is to LET them

take care of me. They are so full of love and giving...they all had

rough times in their growing up years, and my dreams of a white picket

fence, perfect childhood for them didn't come true. But the love

carried through. I've often thought if God offered me the chance to

carry some babies, biologically, to term, I'd say no thanks, Lord, I

already have MY children. They are so precious. From the second they

came into my life they were my beloved children.

Dear Debs, thank you for being my sweet, wonderful, silly, lovable,

wonderful friend. I am very grateful for you. See, you're DOUBLE

wonderful!

Much Love & Cartwheels to Florida Hugs....

Tess

[Guest guest]

Tess, my dear,

I am so glad that God has answered all of our prayers and things fell into

place. Recliner, good medical support, goodies in the frig and most of all

the important nighties, yep, you are ready! LETTING the girls help is the

hardest thing I have to do. I am still at times no good at it, but I try to

let go more each and every day. My Dad was a boss and my Mom would often say

that he would forget where he was at times and not the boss at home too.

Well, unfortunately, I must have inherited this trait also. But my girls

aren't little any more and more than capable of doing a GOOD job at so many

things, IF I LET them. Very hard, giving up control.

Now, as far as your children are concerned. The white picket fence is only

in your mind, the girls don't have anything to compare to. So in their mind,

this IS life and it sounds like you did a wonderful job with them. I was

told shortly after adopting that adopted children don't grow in your

womb, they grow in your heart. No truer words were ever spoken! Shortly

after we brought her home, she developed some allergies and I told Ron, of

course she would have allergies, cuz I had them. Ron says, um Deb, she is

adopted!

I just never thought of that! I certainly wish things had been different and

easier for my family too, but this is the course that God set out for us, so

this is the road we travel. Looking back, we have been very fortunate in the

people we have met along our journey who have lent a hand or a prayer and

made the trip a little easier. It has also made an impression in my

daughters and how they live their lives. I have two in high school and by

today's standards they are good kids. They both help teach Sunday School

with their Dad each week, without being forced!

Oh well, I had the chili for dinner tonight. The sun never did come out

today and now I think I will put an old movie in, probably The Long Long

Trailer with Lucille Ball and Desi Arnaz. It just doesn't get much better

than that. Ron took the girls to Blockbuster to get some action or horror

movie and Vickie went to her boyfriends house. Ah, quiet bliss, just me, the

dog and the two cats. Well, almost quiet bliss!

Saturday night angel hugs,

Debs