Needing to get creative with... SEX :)

October 30, 2006

ok, onto a delicate subject...Sex!...I'm really needing some advice.

I'm finding like many of you that my flexibility is causing a big

problem in my ability to have intercourse. Most specifically my

hips are extremely tight.

My current boyfriend (that I brought up in the previous " Illinois "

post) and i have tried to get creative in this area, but it is

difficult because he has CP so he cant fully support me in some

positions (like me being on top) due to his own disability.

We tried traditional missionary and just started laughing because we

got about halfway there but my legs were just to tight to get in

close...we tried on our side like spooning but we both dont see

how " it " can reach (he's of average to large size), then we tried

him laying horizontal to me--which sort of worked but was an awkward

non intimate position....also tried him sitting up at the base of me

but think we will have to put a pillow or something under my butt.

HELP! this is so frustrating and we need more ideas on how to DO IT!

Also, Ive considered long before this problem arose getting the

ligaments/tendonds in my hips surgicaly cut---does anybody know

about this surgery, its success/recovery?...is it possible to avoid

this just from stretching or am i permanently stuck in this position

unless i go under the knife.

You can email me privately if you feel more comfortable.

November 10, 2006

Hi ,

I know this post was posted LONG ago. As you can see I'm very behind on

email. I wanted to say congrats on the new bf and hi *waving* to Rob. I saw

he

joined our little group . Do either of you have a hoyer lift? Many

couples I know have had success w/it in regards to intercourse and more. Also

there is a site that has neat, but pricey, pillow like thingies (for lack of a

better word). Another DA person referred me to the site. I've never tried

any, but maybe they could help. Here's the site:

_http://www.liberatorshapes.com/products_shapes_gamma.php_

(http://www.liberatorshapes.com/products_shapes_gamma.php)

Also, this might be an obvious idea but when and I were exploring this

adventure (it is an adventure, isn't it) I looked at many sites that had Kama

Sutra positions and there are LOTS of interesting positions out there.

Here's a few sites I happened to save, but there are MANY sites out there w/more

positions.

_http://www.lycos.ie/kamasutra/index.html_

(http://www.lycos.ie/kamasutra/index.html)

_http://users.forthnet.gr/ath/nektar/kma/main.htm_

(http://users.forthnet.gr/ath/nektar/kma/main.htm)

_http://www.condoms.au.com/positions/positions.html_

(http://www.condoms.au.com/positions/positions.html)

I had my hips, hamstrings, and knees released years ago and the surgery for

me was unsuccessful in the long run. We found out my hips were for the most

part fused, and the gained very little range in my knees. They also hit a

nerve in my right thigh somehow causing me a lot of pain post-op hindering my

rehab. The pain did get better after months of rehab, pain injections, and

tactile therapy. Now my sensation is just weird there. It feels like pins and

needles when touched.

Feel free to ask any ?'s if I can be of more help.

Smiles,

Kimi

In a message dated 10/30/2006 4:28:14 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

laurenmarie791@... writes:

ok, onto a delicate subject...Sex!ok, onto a delicate subject...Sex!<WBR