Guest guest Posted January 19, 2008 Report Share Posted January 19, 2008 My friends are in the newspaper...A cute article on seizing the moment. Alana See: http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/01/18/CMC1U1GIA.DTL Iva Walton and Judy : Lust at first sight by Louise Rafkin Friday, January 18, 2008 It happened backstage, and it happened fast. In 1996, Judy , now 47, was performing in a Bay Area dance festival as a member of AXIS Dance Company, a collaborative group of dancers with and without disabilities. Iva Walton, now 48, was the production manager. " As soon as I saw her, " says Judy, admiring Iva's 6-foot-plus stature, " I thought, 'I want one of those.' " Iva, too, was immediately drawn to Judy, whose charisma and sparkly blue eyes are what one first notices, not her wheelchair. The two women say sparks flew with word one. " After a single conversation, " says Iva, " I knew I'd met the perfect person for me. " Two days later Judy called for a " coffee date, " and even though the punctual Judy notes that Iva was hours late to the rendezvous - " I was cleaning my house, I wanted it perfect in case Judy came over! " Iva protests - by the end of lunch they were ensconced in Judy's bedroom. Both were done with dating, and realized the magic in their attraction was how complete it felt: fire, passion and intellectual companionship. " Judy moved me in a way that I had never been moved before, " says Iva. They entered into a summer of bliss, though Iva's third-floor Mission walk-up did pose a problem. After a few rounds of carrying Judy's wheelchair up the stairs, followed by a second trip with Judy, the two decided the wheelchair was extraneous. " We never got out of bed anyway, " Iva says. The two played out the cliched joke about lesbian merging: What do lesbians take on the second date? Answer: a U-Haul. By the end of three months, they were settled in Judy's accessible East Bay apartment. Twelve years later, Judy, now artistic director of Axis, travels three or four months of the year with Iva accompanying her as tour assistant. They are often challenged by ignorance about disability; people address conversation only to Iva, or sometimes assume she is Judy's nurse. When home, they are slowly renovating a cute house in the Fruitvale district of Oakland - luckily Iva is a tile contractor. Judy just marked 30 years of being in a wheelchair, ever since a " stupid teenage car trick. " She says the most remarkable thing about their partnership is how they have improved each other's lives. Iva says, " Judy is one of the most independent people I've ever known: I've dated people more disabled than Judy, even though they weren't. " On seizing the moment, regardless: Iva If I had let the wheelchair scare me off, I wouldn't have honored what was happening between us. Judy You can meet the right person at the wrong time, but we both knew we were in a window of it all being right. Louise Rafkin has contributed to the New York Times, the Washington Post and NPR's " All Things Considered. " Couple suggestion? Send brief story to Onthe Couch@.... http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/01/18/CMC1U1GIA.DTL This article appeared on page P - 28 of the San Francisco Chronicle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Alana, Great article! The photo was so nice, I'm sure they love it. I'm not big on posed shots, but the shot made it feel so natural! I thought the article was neat that they didn't even really mention anything to do with a disability. I had to laugh, reading the article I can see what a difference it is of a newspaper in SF than around Eastern Ohio/Western PA. You would have NEVER seen an article written like that in our newspaper. I could just imagine what the letters to the editors would say if they talked about two women in lust! *lol* No, the article here would have been all focused on the disability, and it would have been turned around somehow about how the disabled can't find someone to marry.. yada yada yada... Very refreshing article. Thanks for sharing! -- Later, Mike Briggs Photography Gallery - http://www.pbase.com/photogrif/ My Space - http://www.myspace.com/photogrif Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2008 Report Share Posted January 21, 2008 Hi Mike, I'm really glad you liked it! Yes, the picture is awful cute, and whenever I see Judy and Iva they truly are beaming like that even after all these years...Not to mention they're both gorgeous anyways - I'm especially a sucker for butch women. ;-) Like I was saying off-list, while the sexual orientation aspect of the story is pretty run-of-the-mill here and the press isn't generally homophobic, it's still a little unusual to have a story about disability and sexuality that doesn't read like a sociology text. Even in the S.F. Bay Area it uncommon to have ANY article that mentions disability without encumbering it with the usual sappy inspirational platitudes. But in this piece they're just regular girls who fell in love and are still hot for each other after all these years. :-) I also like that they mention Judy's job as an expected matter-of-fact, not a miraculous and heroic feat. Funny, the Bay Area has come a long way about sexual organization, but not as far on disability. This article is a good step. Cheers! Alana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2008 Report Share Posted January 22, 2008 hey could some one please send the link for the article id love to read it thanks lauramechelle Photogrif <briggsm@...> wrote: Alana, Great article! The photo was so nice, I'm sure they love it. I'm not big on posed shots, but the shot made it feel so natural! I thought the article was neat that they didn't even really mention anything to do with a disability. I had to laugh, reading the article I can see what a difference it is of a newspaper in SF than around Eastern Ohio/Western PA. You would have NEVER seen an article written like that in our newspaper. I could just imagine what the letters to the editors would say if they talked about two women in lust! *lol* No, the article here would have been all focused on the disability, and it would have been turned around somehow about how the disabled can't find someone to marry.. yada yada yada... Very refreshing article. Thanks for sharing! -- Later, Mike Briggs Photography Gallery - http://www.pbase.com/photogrif/ My Space - http://www.myspace.com/photogrif --------------------------------- Sent from & #45; a smarter inbox. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 22, 2008 Report Share Posted January 22, 2008 lauramechelle, Here's the posting again. >Alana wrote: My friends are in the newspaper... A cute article on seizing the moment. Alana See: http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/01/18/CMC1U1GIA.DTL <http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/01/18/CMC1U1GIA.DTL> Iva Walton and Judy : Lust at first sight by Louise Rafkin Friday, January 18, 2008 It happened backstage, and it happened fast. In 1996, Judy , now 47, was performing in a Bay Area dance festival as a member of AXIS Dance Company, a collaborative group of dancers with and without disabilities. Iva Walton, now 48, was the production manager. " As soon as I saw her, " says Judy, admiring Iva's 6-foot-plus stature, " I thought, 'I want one of those.' " Iva, too, was immediately drawn to Judy, whose charisma and sparkly blue eyes are what one first notices, not her wheelchair. The two women say sparks flew with word one. " After a single conversation, " says Iva, " I knew I'd met the perfect person for me. " Two days later Judy called for a " coffee date, " and even though the punctual Judy notes that Iva was hours late to the rendezvous - " I was cleaning my house, I wanted it perfect in case Judy came over! " Iva protests - by the end of lunch they were ensconced in Judy's bedroom. Both were done with dating, and realized the magic in their attraction was how complete it felt: fire, passion and intellectual companionship. " Judy moved me in a way that I had never been moved before, " says Iva. They entered into a summer of bliss, though Iva's third-floor Mission walk-up did pose a problem. After a few rounds of carrying Judy's wheelchair up the stairs, followed by a second trip with Judy, the two decided the wheelchair was extraneous. " We never got out of bed anyway, " Iva says. The two played out the cliched joke about lesbian merging: What do lesbians take on the second date? Answer: a U-Haul. By the end of three months, they were settled in Judy's accessible East Bay apartment. Twelve years later, Judy, now artistic director of Axis, travels three or four months of the year with Iva accompanying her as tour assistant. They are often challenged by ignorance about disability; people address conversation only to Iva, or sometimes assume she is Judy's nurse. When home, they are slowly renovating a cute house in the Fruitvale district of Oakland - luckily Iva is a tile contractor. Judy just marked 30 years of being in a wheelchair, ever since a " stupid teenage car trick. " She says the most remarkable thing about their partnership is how they have improved each other's lives. Iva says, " Judy is one of the most independent people I've ever known: I've dated people more disabled than Judy, even though they weren't. " On seizing the moment, regardless: Iva If I had let the wheelchair scare me off, I wouldn't have honored what was happening between us. Judy You can meet the right person at the wrong time, but we both knew we were in a window of it all being right. Louise Rafkin has contributed to the New York Times, the Washington Post and NPR's " All Things Considered. " Couple suggestion? Send brief story to Onthe Couch@... <mailto:Couch%40sfchronicle.com>. http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/01/18/CMC1U1GIA.DTL <http://sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2008/01/18/CMC1U1GIA.DTL> This article appeared on page P - 28 of the San Francisco Chronicle -- Later, Mike Briggs Photography Gallery - http://www.pbase.com/photogrif/ My Space - http://www.myspace.com/photogrif Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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