Re: Re: Body Image/

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Thanks for the kind words Kimi...all the best to you.  If you believe it, it

will happen!

Tania

 

 

 

From: Moss <_lindajmoss@ gmail.lin_ (mailto:lindajmossgmail (DOT) com) >

Subject: Re: Re: Body Image/

_@ groSMAfrie_ (mailto:@gro ups.com)

Date: Tuesday, November 11, 2008, 11:45 PM

re #1 a lack of sex in a relationship would be a bonus for me! ;-) seems i

dont have the sma bit that gives a high sex drive!

#2 i agree jen. also meg how would you feel if a non disabled person

rejected you as partner material based solely on the fact that you would not

be able to provide physical care for him/her in case he needed that sort of

help in the future?

linda

2008/11/12 Jenifer Woody <mom2armybratz>

> I don't mean to stir a hornet's nest, but there are two things about

> this that I am curious about.

> #1 would be the intimacy part. I am not a chair user, but I still find that

> while sexual contact is great, the REAL intimacy comes more from the

> conversation, cuddling and other less sexual acts. A lack of sex in a

> relationship would not be a deal-breaker for me.

>

> #2 is the part where I might *possibly* get myself in a little trouble, but

> I have to ask anyway.

> Isn't it just as bad for a person with a disability to discriminate against

> dating another person with a disability as it is for an AB person to do the

> same? I mean..... isn't that kind of like self-discrimination ?

> This is absolutely only my humble opinion, but a relationship should not be

> built around what a potential mate can or can not do for you. I understand

> the pragmatic concerns (actually I've been accused of being TOO pragmatic

> about relationships) but those can be worked around can't they? I would

> think that finding someone to share love and companionship, regardless of

> physical ability, would be far more important (and DIFFICULT!) than finding

> someone to provide physical care.

>

>

> Love and Hugs

> Jeni

>

>

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> From: Maggie Witkowski <meg62977 (DOT) com <meg62977%40. com>>

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> Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 3:27:16 PM

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>

>

> But isn't it very hard to be intimate when both people use a wheelchair? I

> want to find a man who would be able to help me in case a PCA doesn't show.

>

> Meg

>

> ____________ _________ _________ __

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> Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 3:11:24 PM

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>

> I used to not want to date disabled women because I thought it would be too

> hard to have sex, but it was the best thing I ever did! I couldn't be

> happier! Nobody really understands a disabled person but another disabled

> person!

>

> Kemp

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> From: @gro ups.com [mailto:@ gro ups.com] On

> Behalf Of Alana

> Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 12:15 PM

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> It's not any easier with girls; trust me. In fact, the women I've

> dated or almost dated generally had a much harder time bringing up

> concerns they've had about my disability. The guys have been at

> least more honest about their reservations.

>

> Date whomever you're attracted to...boys and/or girls...it's work

> either way, and well worth it most of the time.

>

>

> >

> > Alana and ,

> >

> > Your stories are definitely inspiring. I don't believe that I have

> > low self-esteem, however I have always struggled with feeling

> > uncomfortable around guys who I am interested in. I am very

> confident

> > in my personality but tend to be self-conscious about the way I

> move.

> > I find myself trying to move my arms as little as possible (even

> > though I tend to " talk with my hands " by wiggling my wrists back and

> > forth), even worrying about the next time I have to struggle to put

> my

> > hand on my joystick. I know that I should have the " if they can't

> > handle my uber-gimpy package then f*** 'em " attitude, but sometimes

> > it's hard when it seems as though every guy I meet is only

> interested

> > in me as friends. Even the seemingly really sweet guys that I meet

> > online initially tell me that my disability doesn't matter to them,

> > but ultimately end up changing their mind. It just gets a little

> > frustrating when you are 23-years-old, think you are doing

> everything

> > right, yet still have never had a boyfriend. Maybe the only

> solution

> > is to switch to girls for awhile

> >

>

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