Re: Re: Feeling Selfish and Sorry.........

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> << AND DH doesn't help.....just get a sitter and we'll go out....yea

> right!

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> Loriann:

> I know what you mean! DH says, well, you've got all these

> services.....why

> don't you use them?

I have always said, and now I must re-iterate, that if it were not for my

wonderful older children, I dont' think Matt woudl be living with us. I

thougth of foster placement right before we got the autism diagnosis, and

have considered it a few fleeting times since. I dont' mean to brag, or

to sound " upity " , but I do want to give proper credit to my wonderful

older children. , age 16, cooks most nights for me. Is finishing up

her Sophomore year, doing homeschool, basically teaching herself, and the

curriculum we have choosen is VERY difficult. She maintains a low A-high

B average. Marie, age 15, is Matt's favorite person in the whole world,

including counting me. He adores her. She adores him. she is also my

" wild child " and I know that she will be his fierciest supporter. She

goes to IEP meetings with me and is very vocal! (Sometimes too vocal with

me) She HATES homeschooling, but I am not ready to be a grandma at 38, so

she is home (If you get my drift) It has been very difficult on her to be

home, but she is doing ok. Maintains a B-C level in school. Dan, age 14,

finishing up 8th grade, but not ready to do 9th, so he will " take a year

off of the curriculum, to hone reading and writing skills. " He is so good

at seeing when I need a break, and while it is not often, he will

occasionally offer to keep Matt home so he doens't have to go with me to

run errands. Tough position being the only male, other than Matt. He will

be an excellent sales man someday, or an attorney, if he can get this

reading thing down. He loves to argue! , age 11, has been

complimented many times on her ability to get along with children of all

ages. She is 15 months older than Matt. Her babyhood ended on August 23,

1990, when Matt was born. Poor baby. She helps as much as she can with

him. Any one of them can watch him while I go to the store, or to the

bathroom. They are my angels, and all this discussion of babysitters has

reminded me that I need to thank them much more than I do.

Thanks to all of you.,

Love

S

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laura, i knolw what yu mean, we have a supposedly repitabale company, but yet

they are low on staff and we keep getting the low end of the deal, with no to

little services available, we have the max hours and have been unable to use

them ive been very verfrustrated having to go to every activiy with nathan to

help him stay on task thats their job so i can have a break or just droop him

off like the other kids not to have to stay every single event, i do have to

say nathan is coming along nicelly, he attended a whole week of daiy bible

school, and didnt have one problem, i didnt get one phone call and he didnt

have a helper with him, he was in the 1st grade class with his little brother

and did well even said an occasional word when talked to but wouldnt talk as

he does at home, but he is learning. shawna.