Feeling Depressed and Defeated

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Hi All:

Today we the caregiver who is really good with Ray in that she doesn't

allow him to get by with everything even though we can get punched for that.

She is also an aide in his classroom during the year. We have similar

attitudes about that. Following his bath we took him into town to one of his

favorite restaurants. I was a little worried about the amount of clothes he

insisted on wearing on such a hot day. Don't know how much role that played

in the following:

He was good at lunch and at Walmart. However, we got the grocery store he

was punching both of us. Kathy told him not to punch his Mom and I think

that may have set him off. One time he got really mad at her for that in the

past but never this bad. He started to pick up meat and throw it. She

stopped him. He threw himself on the floor. Kathy stood nearby while I did

part of my shopping. They caught up to me several minutes later but he was

distracted by displays of pop. Kathy tried to block him from getting it being

afraid he might throw cases of pop. He scratched her trying to get around

her. He laid on the floor in a middle isle for what seemed an enternity.

People stopped, some sneered, MANY starred and some mummured comments. I

was afraid some one was going to run over him. I knew that having both of

us on top of him might escalate him but it was impossible for one person to

guard him from throwing the pop and still watch his feet from being run over

in the middle of the main isle. We finally gave it to have one soda instead

of the case he was trying to get. He got up but as we got to the checkout

line he thew himself on the floor again. He was there for another eternity.

When we finally got out of there I realized he had a bottle of water I

thought I had in the cart and paid for. I looked at the slip and realized

the clerk didn't even charge me for the soda I told her he had.

I wanted to fall through the floor.

When we got home he had another large bowel movement. He had done that

earlier today today. He has been battling constipation even with the

massive amounts of magnesium he gets and not very good appetite. I started

giving him a stool softener and it seems to be helping. He did have two

large ones today and one yesterday so I didn't think that would cause

agitation today. He does have a rather large pimple on his hip which can

help but be painful. Of course, there is the heat. I just don't know what

it was about.

Peggy