Wedding gripes

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She's tried to sell us her engagement and wedding rings (she got a new set), sell me her wedding dress- of which is SUPPOSEDLY a "made big" size 10. Theres no way in he!! my fiance wants me to lose that much weight. I'm a big woman right now, and I want to get down to 140 b4 the wedding. That's about 70 lbs I have to lose. I don't want to be a friggin' toothpick- and my mother was by no means a toothpick, albeit she is much skinner than I am. Another thing I was told is that u don't "sell off" the dress and bridal set. U just don't- is poor weddiquette. If she were to GIVE them, fine. But she wants to try to make money off of MY happiness, becuz when I move to KY state she wont get any money for PC or anything else anymore. That's one reason I'm moving- that way she cant "hold" me here and try to control me and my future husband. She also is trying to say tht I don't want to take responsibility- that I want everyone else to pay for my wedding. That's not true. I'M the one controlling the guest list, photog and videog, planning colors, plus many other things. So she cant say I am not taking responsibility. I think she's just p!$$Ed cuz SHE didn't have anyone to pay for her wedding dress, and I do. She's p!$$Ed cuz it's been made very clear she is NOT controlling this wedding- which is just what she wants. That's y she gets a 'tude with me about it. Jay and I have actually breifly mentioned going Justice of the Peace- which would be cheaper but there are things I don't know there- I know it's less than 50 ppl- would I still get to walk down an aisle? Whats all entailed with a JotP wedding? I have "The Everything Wedding Etiquette book"- of which my mother says is for "prima donnas". Maybe that will help me. I know that mainly what it is with my mother is she wont get to be center of attn- and that's not how its sposed to go anyhow. No offense to her, and I know this sounds cruel- you would have to know my mother and the things I have dealt with to understand- but I wouldn't put it past her to go into a diabetic reaction just so all attn is focused on her at some point of the special day. ~

[Guest guest]

My mother has gotten better with the loudness of her voice in the 12 years since my wedding to the point that others cannot hear her when I am talking to her on the phone unless I have my cell phone set to speaker phone.

T. aka Pegasus

-- Wedding gripes

She's tried to sell us her engagement and wedding rings (she got a new set), sell me her wedding dress- of which is SUPPOSEDLY a "made big" size 10.

Theres no way in he!! my fiance wants me to lose that much weight. I'm a big woman right now, and I want to get down to 140 b4 the wedding. That's about 70 lbs I have to lose. I don't want to be a friggin' toothpick- and my mother was by no means a toothpick, albeit she is much skinner than I am.

Another thing I was told is that u don't "sell off" the dress and bridal set. U just don't- is poor weddiquette. If she were to GIVE them, fine. But she wants to try to make money off of MY happiness, becuz when I move to KY state she wont get any money for PC or anything else anymore. That's one reason I'm moving- that way she cant "hold" me here and try to control me and my future husband.

She also is trying to say tht I don't want to take responsibility- that I want everyone else to pay for my wedding. That's not true. I'M the one controlling the guest list, photog and videog, planning colors, plus many other things. So she cant say I am not taking responsibility.

I think she's just p!$$Ed cuz SHE didn't have anyone to pay for her wedding dress, and I do. She's p!$$Ed cuz it's been made very clear she is NOT controlling this wedding- which is just what she wants. That's y she gets a 'tude with me about it.

Jay and I have actually breifly mentioned going Justice of the Peace- which would be cheaper but there are things I don't know there- I know it's less than 50 ppl- would I still get to walk down an aisle? Whats all entailed with a JotP wedding? I have "The Everything Wedding Etiquette book"- of which my mother says is for "prima donnas". Maybe that will help me.

I know that mainly what it is with my mother is she wont get to be center of attn- and that's not how its sposed to go anyhow. No offense to her, and I know this sounds cruel- you would have to know my mother and the things I have dealt with to understand- but I wouldn't put it past her to go into a diabetic reaction just so all attn is focused on her at some point of the special day.

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[Guest guest]

My mother has gotten better with the loudness of her voice in the 12 years since my wedding to the point that others cannot hear her when I am talking to her on the phone unless I have my cell phone set to speaker phone.

T. aka Pegasus

-- Wedding gripes

She's tried to sell us her engagement and wedding rings (she got a new set), sell me her wedding dress- of which is SUPPOSEDLY a "made big" size 10.

Theres no way in he!! my fiance wants me to lose that much weight. I'm a big woman right now, and I want to get down to 140 b4 the wedding. That's about 70 lbs I have to lose. I don't want to be a friggin' toothpick- and my mother was by no means a toothpick, albeit she is much skinner than I am.

Another thing I was told is that u don't "sell off" the dress and bridal set. U just don't- is poor weddiquette. If she were to GIVE them, fine. But she wants to try to make money off of MY happiness, becuz when I move to KY state she wont get any money for PC or anything else anymore. That's one reason I'm moving- that way she cant "hold" me here and try to control me and my future husband.

She also is trying to say tht I don't want to take responsibility- that I want everyone else to pay for my wedding. That's not true. I'M the one controlling the guest list, photog and videog, planning colors, plus many other things. So she cant say I am not taking responsibility.

I think she's just p!$$Ed cuz SHE didn't have anyone to pay for her wedding dress, and I do. She's p!$$Ed cuz it's been made very clear she is NOT controlling this wedding- which is just what she wants. That's y she gets a 'tude with me about it.

Jay and I have actually breifly mentioned going Justice of the Peace- which would be cheaper but there are things I don't know there- I know it's less than 50 ppl- would I still get to walk down an aisle? Whats all entailed with a JotP wedding? I have "The Everything Wedding Etiquette book"- of which my mother says is for "prima donnas". Maybe that will help me.

I know that mainly what it is with my mother is she wont get to be center of attn- and that's not how its sposed to go anyhow. No offense to her, and I know this sounds cruel- you would have to know my mother and the things I have dealt with to understand- but I wouldn't put it past her to go into a diabetic reaction just so all attn is focused on her at some point of the special day.

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