Guest guest Posted February 19, 2008 Report Share Posted February 19, 2008 ML asked about sperm washing to safely conceive a child with an HIV- woman. This procedure is used for all semen used in intrauterine insemination, regardless of the HIV status of the man, because an injection of fluid past the cervix must be scrupulously free of all contaminants to prevent all kinds of infections. (In conventional conception, only the sperm swim up into the uterus, and all the rest of the fluid, which includes various body wastes, stays behind.) I(n the cleaning process, the sperm itself is separated from the fluids it swims in; the sperm itself doesn't carry any virus. The procedure is essentially 100% effective and perfectly safe--there is no known case of a woman ever being infected with HIV (or anything else) from cleaned sperm. Technically, any doctor specializing in fertility, or even any sperm bank, could do this for you. I would ask local lesbian moms, many of whom have found gay-friendly and HIV-smart docs, for referrals. Unfortunately, despite the safety of the procedure, many providers refuse to assist in insemination with sperm from an HIV+ man. In New York and in some other states, there is a legal distinction between an " intimate partner " of the woman and a " known donor. " Known donors must be tested, only negative men may be used as donors, and semen from HIV- known donors must be held in frozen quarantine for six months and not used until a second test produces a negative result. Obviously, that eliminates positive men unless they are the " intimate partners " of the woman. Some docs might still refuse to inseminate with sperm from an HIV+ men because they (irrationally) fear liability, or they are afraid of working with HIV+ semen, or--most likely--they are bigots. Others understand that it is safe, and that a serodiscordant couple denied these services is likely to try to conceive unsafely and so it is in everyone's best interests to facilitate a safe conception. My partner and I conceived our kids with the help of doctors who didn't think it was their business to question whether our known donor was also her intimate partner. " People have all kinds of complicated relationships, " they said. They also invited me do the squirting. That's the kind of practice you want! Good luck, Jeanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2008 Report Share Posted February 19, 2008 ML asked about sperm washing to safely conceive a child with an HIV- woman. This procedure is used for all semen used in intrauterine insemination, regardless of the HIV status of the man, because an injection of fluid past the cervix must be scrupulously free of all contaminants to prevent all kinds of infections. (In conventional conception, only the sperm swim up into the uterus, and all the rest of the fluid, which includes various body wastes, stays behind.) I(n the cleaning process, the sperm itself is separated from the fluids it swims in; the sperm itself doesn't carry any virus. The procedure is essentially 100% effective and perfectly safe--there is no known case of a woman ever being infected with HIV (or anything else) from cleaned sperm. Technically, any doctor specializing in fertility, or even any sperm bank, could do this for you. I would ask local lesbian moms, many of whom have found gay-friendly and HIV-smart docs, for referrals. Unfortunately, despite the safety of the procedure, many providers refuse to assist in insemination with sperm from an HIV+ man. In New York and in some other states, there is a legal distinction between an " intimate partner " of the woman and a " known donor. " Known donors must be tested, only negative men may be used as donors, and semen from HIV- known donors must be held in frozen quarantine for six months and not used until a second test produces a negative result. Obviously, that eliminates positive men unless they are the " intimate partners " of the woman. Some docs might still refuse to inseminate with sperm from an HIV+ men because they (irrationally) fear liability, or they are afraid of working with HIV+ semen, or--most likely--they are bigots. Others understand that it is safe, and that a serodiscordant couple denied these services is likely to try to conceive unsafely and so it is in everyone's best interests to facilitate a safe conception. My partner and I conceived our kids with the help of doctors who didn't think it was their business to question whether our known donor was also her intimate partner. " People have all kinds of complicated relationships, " they said. They also invited me do the squirting. That's the kind of practice you want! Good luck, Jeanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2009 Report Share Posted June 27, 2009 ive not been on here for a while as i moved house etc and now im having a baby its due in november and alot of people have said are you worried that this baby could have bpes and i say to people no as i know what im dealing with now when i had my little girl 3 years ago i didnt have a clue what was up with her little tiny eyes but now i know a lot more that i did back then and this group has helped me alot i dont care if it has bpes my little girl is the first in our family so my midwife says its very low that my next baby will have it hope everyone well and will let you know when ive had the baby thanks for reading take care xx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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