Why Shouldn't I Marry a RA diagnosed girl?

July 23, 2003

Hello Sagar,

My name is and I am a 28 year old, happily married, woamn with

moderate - severe RA. Rheumatoid arthtitis is a disease the affects

many aspects of ones life. I have a very difficult time with some

household tasks. I cannot change the sheets on the bed or carry a

laundry basket. I will never be able to put a heavy turkey in the

oven. My husband is leaving in 2 weeks as he is in the military and

has been activated for an assignment far away. Together, we are

learning ways for me to do things without his help. I won't say it's

easy, but it is possible. I will certainly have limitations but I

will manage.

My husband and I want to someday have a child. We have come to terms

with the fact that I may not be able to conceive a child of our own.

But, if we can't, there are alternatives. It is unclear as to

whether of not I will be able to get pregnant due to my disease and

the medication that I am on. But if I can't, we can adopt. Depending

on your girlfriend's disease, you may or may not be able to have

children. My husband is willing to take care of a baby if I can't

hold the baby, change him, etc... So if we can have kids, my husband

is willing to sacrifice his career until the baby is old enough.

This may be soemthing for you to think about.

You have to make your decision but know that living with arthritis

is not impossible.

I wish you well,

> HI All,

>

> I am Sagar from India. I am planning to RA affected Gal. Bu tI do

not

> know whether my decission is correct or not. Cause I have lots of

> dreams about children and marital life. The gal whom i like says

it

> is very difficult for RA patients to lead normal marital life. She

> also says that the decease can attack the children. More Over she

> says there is no cure for the decease and she will die after some

> time.

>

> Can any body explain me about the marital life with an RA patient??

> Plz help me.

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