Re: kids wanting to talk about 'it'

[Guest guest]

One expert described the OCD as being the person's

'Achilles Heel'. Just like a bald guy doesn't enjoy

having his baldness brought up so goes it with OCD.

I'm always surprised by the posts that indicate the

kids are fine talking about it. They must be very

secure kids who have really been able to seperate

their " self " from the OCD. Mine is pretty secure but

wants to be perfect and bringing up his OCD reminds

him he is not perfect. His CBT therapist told him (in

front of me) to make sure to tell me when I am

" bugging " him about it. I try not to bring it up too

much (save it for the ERP sessions)cuz his reaction is

never exactly positive when I do and he's not been

interested in talking to kids on the teen list.

Might be genes. Dad doesn't open up alot and Grandpa

never talks even tho I can tell there's alot going on

in his head.

Lynn

--- jtlt@... wrote:

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In a message dated 3/28/2006 9:41:24 A.M. Eastern

Standard Time,

musicgirl9395@... writes:

My daughter REALLY wants to meet other kids with OCD,

ELLEN

Gees - I wish I could say that about my daughter. I

can't even get her to

email other kids with OCD. I think she's still

somewhat in denial. She

doesn't like it when I even bring " it " up in

conversation. I try to talk about OCD

relating to her rituals so she starts to make the

connection of what is

causing her to do this. I'm sure she DOES understand

it's the OCD causing her to

do these things, but I think it's a last-ditch effort

on her part to have it

be something else (kind of like " ignore it and it

will go away " )

I just think it would be helpful for her to talk to

other kids in her same

situation. Did anyone else's kids have a hard time

talking to other kids with

OCD about it at first?

LT

[Guest guest]

My son doesn't want to talk about OCD either. He sometimes denies

that his desired ritual has anything to do with OCD ( " mom, this is

NOT an OCD thing " ). But, he's only 6, so sometimes he doesn't

recognize it. I suggested that his new refusal to eat crackers or

cereal might be " Buster " (his name for OCD) bugging him. But, he

insists that it's not. I started to wonder myself. His therapist said

that it was OCD, because most kids could see someone chew with their

mouth open once and forget about it. But, my son can't eat the food

in question because he can't get the image of the gross incident out

of his head, even weeks later.

The idea that my son thinks that he has a " weakness " or something

wrong wth him breaks my heart. His doctor told me not to act like

there wasn't something wrong, because he should see OCD as a problem

and fight it. But, sometimes, I look at my son and can't help but see

that helpless newborn that he was and want to protect him from

everything upsetting - including his own thoughts!

Kris

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> In a message dated 3/28/2006 9:41:24 A.M. Eastern

> Standard Time,

> musicgirl9395@... writes:

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> My daughter REALLY wants to meet other kids with OCD,

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> ELLEN

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> Gees - I wish I could say that about my daughter. I

> can't even get her to

> email other kids with OCD. I think she's still

> somewhat in denial. She

> doesn't like it when I even bring " it " up in

> conversation. I try to talk about OCD

> relating to her rituals so she starts to make the

> connection of what is

> causing her to do this. I'm sure she DOES understand

> it's the OCD causing her to

> do these things, but I think it's a last-ditch effort

> on her part to have it

> be something else (kind of like " ignore it and it

> will go away " )

>

> I just think it would be helpful for her to talk to

> other kids in her same

> situation. Did anyone else's kids have a hard time

> talking to other kids with

> OCD about it at first?

> LT

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