Re: OCD and Elementary School - KAREN

[Guest guest]

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I would never say a word to any child's parents. I think you are

going into rough territory there. She may simply be overly shy with

sensory issues - she is only 3 and that is still very young. I know

many children at 3 who will not leave their parent's side and

preschool is not every child's dream come true! A friend of mine

(now 40yr old) told me about when her parents put her in preschool.

She said she was devastated and kept thinking " Why would you leave

me here? " She said she wouldn't eat or play - she simply didn't

want to be there. As far as the sandals,my children all go out in

freezing cold weather with sandals and sometimes bare feet. Cold

just does seem to affect them the same as it does me.

I know it is so hard when you see things and mean so well, but it is

not always taken as such.

>

> Ginger (and all who may be able to help me),

>

> I spent 2 hours at my daughters preschool last friday (3 year

olds)

> and there was a girl who was wearing bare feet and sandals (50

> degrees outside up here in wisconsin) because she 'has a thing

about

> socks' - as her nanny told me because she simply won't attend

> preschool unless her nanny stays with her the whole day. The

little

> girl also sat quietly and politely while the children had their

> snack, but wouldn't touch her own until the other children had

left

> the room.

>

> My son is 15 now (and ocd) and my ocd radar went into full-whoop

when

> I saw this little girl.

>

> My question is (since I didn't figure out ocd for my son until he

was

> 13 and so missed out on earlier help for him) should I make an

effort

> to say something to her parents? If so, what should I say?

>

> Would any of you have responded well to a strange parent bringing

up

> an anxiety disorder about your kid? Would you have been

grateful?

> offended? both? Mayber her parents already know . . . but, what

if

> they don't?

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I tend to agree with here on what else might be going on with

the girl.

But what you might try, , is to just get to chatting with the

nanny again. Ask why the girl doesn't like to eat with others in the

room, is she extremely shy or something? Depending on that answer,

if shyness or other isn't the cause and the answer screams " OCD! " ,

you might casually say that it sounds like possible OCD and you know

about OCD due to your son having it, has anyone in the girl's family

ever considered it might be OCD? -- just keep it casual/chatting type

conversation.

Just a quick thought.

>

> ,

> I would never say a word to any child's parents. I think you are

> going into rough territory there. She may simply be overly shy

with

> sensory issues - she is only 3 and that is still very young. I

know

> many children at 3 who will not leave their parent's side and

> preschool is not every child's dream come true! A friend of mine

> (now 40yr old) told me about when her parents put her in