Guest guest Posted January 16, 2002 Report Share Posted January 16, 2002 hi heather...you are a very strong person and your children are lucky to have you...having one challenging child is tough, having two must be overwhelming...you and your husband seem like you're doing all you can for your kids...i have a three old son with apraxia and at times is frustrating to my family that he cannot communicate verbally...he has come a long way though with the help of speech therapy...i wish you continued strength and courage...you will find tremendous support from this group...good luck...joann from n.j. > > I was wondering if this would be genetic. I tell my > family GOD took my > oldest daughter and gave me three other childern to > Love. And, two > challenging boys. I was always told GOD never gives > you more than you can > handle but sometimes it feels like I can't take no > more. > > Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2002 Report Share Posted January 16, 2002 you have a full plate to deal with and considering what you have been through ( your daughters death) you are doing the best that you can do. To deal with the death of a child ( i can't even begin to imagine what you have and are still going through) is the most difficult thing. You are never supposed to outlive your child especially one as young as yours was when she passed away. You now have 3 other children ( a blessing) and 2 have special needs so that's alot to deal with. Having 3 " normal " children is exhausting. It's great that your husband is able to do what he is doing for the kids. I honestlly don't know what to tell you but just know that you are a good mother and you will continue to be a good mother just take one day at a time and try to remember that GOD is always there even though it seems as if sometimes the burdens are too much, he is all good and all loving. We are here for you and try to stay strong. If you need some support we are all here for the long road ahead for you and your boys. Kerry mom to age 7 and Apraxic and his two sisters Courntey and Brittany Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2002 Report Share Posted January 16, 2002 : I don't blame you for feeling as you do, you HAVE been through alot! I don't know if I could endure all that you have. When it comes to handling it, you usually have no choice. As an aside, do you and your hubbie ever get any time together? My guess is no. That might help you state of mind if you 2 try and get out every now & then. My understanding is that ADHD is genetic. Is there anyone in either one of your families that fits the profile for ADHD? My neighbor's son is ADHD and I can see it in his father. ADHD is an abnormality is some part of the brain that causes people to be hyperactive, and they have trouble focusing on a task. Their attention span is usually very short, unless they're doing something that they love (like computer games, tv). They usually have trouble organizing themselves and their work. From what I've seen from this group, apraxia looks like it's genetic too. I'm sorry about the loss of your daughter. This is a great place for help and support, welcome! Martha mom to 4.9 global developmental delay, weak hand muscles, sensory integration dysfunction & 16 mos. > I recently met with Drake's school teacher and > speech therapist and they > would like to get him tested for ADHD which I am not > really sure what ADHD > is. I know both of my sons are both very hyper. My > son Drake will wake up > at 7:00am and stay up to about 11:00pm without > taking a nap. I sometimes > feeling like I am going crazy. Sometimes I wish I > was back at work when I > come home which I know I should not feel that way. > I also have a daugter who will be 2 in two weeks and > she talks more than my > boys. > I was wondering if this would be genetic. I tell my > family GOD took my > oldest daughter and gave me three other childern to > Love. And, two > challenging boys. I was always told GOD never gives > you more than you can > handle but sometimes it feels like I can't take no > more. > > Thanks, \ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2002 Report Share Posted January 17, 2002 Hi, I didn't read your original post about your child's death. I just want you to know your not alone. I lost my 18 yr old daughter in Nov. 98 in a car accident two weeks after I told her I was pregnant. Four months my second daughter was born 6 weeks early weighing 3.1 lbs. Luckily, she only had to stay in the hospital 2 weeks until she gained some weight. Now I dealing with the apraxia just like everyone else here. I just want to say I can relate to how you feel, I've been there. I really don't believe that God puts on you more than you can bear. if you ever need someone to talk to that can relate let me know. HANG IN THERE Love, nancy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2002 Report Share Posted January 17, 2002 > I recently met with Drake's school teacher and speech therapist and they would like to get him tested for ADHD which I am not really sure what ADHD is. > Dear , I LOVE it !!! " TESTED FOR ADHD " . This is one of the things I hear most often in my practice. You cannot " test " for ADHD any more than you can " test " for blue eyes or brown hair. Attention Deficit - Hyperactivity Disorder is the consequence of a state of hypovigilance in a person, which causes difficulty maintaining one's focus during the day, and sleep at night. It is believed to be a malfunction of a series of structures in the base of the brain called the Reticular Activating System, and this has been shown to be so in functional studies of the brain over the last several years. The term comes from the psychiatric literature, and precisely from the DSM IV, the manual psychiatrists and psychologists use to define mental health conditions. It was previously known as Minimal Brain Dysfunction (actually my favorite term), and Attention Deficit Disorder. If you are a strict DSM person, the child must show at least 6 of 9 criteria for inattention, hyperactivity/impulsivity, or both to be called ADHD. I was trained that " if it smells like a fish, and swims like a fish... " , so I don't do what I call the " chinese restaurant definition " (no offense to our Asian readers) of 6 from column A and 6 from column B to tell me a kid has ADHD - it is what it is, and an experienced practitioner can do that. The important thing is that ADHD is a " diagnosis of exclusion " - meaning you have to look at all the things that can make a child fidgety, impulsive, restless, and unfocused - including learning disabilities, thyroid disease, language disorders, mental retardation, and a long list of other primary conditions that can lead to " ADHD " . That is why you need to do a full workup, and find out all the things that are going on. > I was wondering if this would be genetic. Yes, language and attention problems (also learning disabilities) definitely run in families. That is why I spend so much time asking about family history when I see a new patient. Good luck to you, Larry Laveman, MD Consultant, CHERAB http://www.apraxia.cc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 4, 2002 Report Share Posted February 4, 2002 Hi : You pose several interesting questions. Let's take them one by one: - There is no " test " for ADHD. ADHD is defined by the presence of a series of behaviors, as defined in a document called the DSM-IV, created by the American Psychological Association, for which the child must have 6/9 for inattention and/or 6/9 for hyperactivity/impulsivity, if you go by formal criteria. As a developmental pediatrician, I don't feel bound by these criteria, but rather look at how severely the child's behaviors interferes with his/her functioning in the family, social, and school settings. If the problem is just at school, then it is unlikely this is ADHD, but perhaps surreal expectations of the school relative to the child's developmental functioning. A child functioning at a 5 year level should have a behavior profile consistent with their age, irrelevant of the child's actual age. The same would apply to their social and family functioning. ADHD by definition affects ALL aspects of a child or adult's life. - Could this run in families? Absolutely yes ! Twin studies have shown that language disorders are much more common in identical twins where one is affected, than in fraternal twins. We don't know exactly where this sits in the genetic makeup of us, but it is clear that learning and language problems, including apraxia, runs in families. Good luck, Larry Laveman, MD Consultant, CHERAB http://www.apraxia.cc > I am so glad I found this site...I recently met with Drake's school teacher and speech therapist and they >would like to get him tested for ADHD which I am not really sure what ADHD >is. I know both of my sons are both very hyper. My son Drake will wake up >at 7:00am and stay up to about 11:00pm without taking a nap. I sometimes >feeling like I am going crazy. Sometimes I wish I was back at work when I >come home which I know I should not feel that way. >I also have a daugter who will be 2 in two weeks and she talks more than my >boys. >I was wondering if this would be genetic. I tell my family GOD took my >oldest daughter and gave me three other childern to Love. And, two >challenging boys. I was always told GOD never gives you more than you can >handle but sometimes it feels like I can't take no more. > >Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 13, 2004 Report Share Posted May 13, 2004 You have just described my 3yos. It seems that the only problem he is having is talking everything else is fine. Sheilvina > We have a 20 month old toddler adopted from Georgia who has been > diagosed with verbal apraxia.His receptive speech seems fine. > His gross and fien motor skills are excellent. My question is it > possible to have verbal apraxia and still have excellent gross and > fine motor skills? > THanks! Jacky in Vancouver Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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