What's the best way to tell someone

[Guest guest]

I've been positive for 14 years now and only a few people(4)know about

it.

Is it better to keep it that way or should I make it widely known? I'm

a dental assistant and I think about it constantly at work. Should I

tell them or will it get me fired for something else? I feel I'm being

diecieving with the people I work with because I have to take days off

on occasion for surgeries regarding my breast cancer which is no

longer an issue except for the many reconstructive revision surgeries.

I've just taken a week off of work for a surgery that my dr. decided

that my cd4 is to low to do it. It's at 250 right now. He wants it

above 400 which I'm working on as I've just started taking atripla a

month ago. How long before my numbers go up? I don't really like the

hiv dr. I'm going to. He's through eip. Any good referrals? I recently

told a new boyfriend. Seems to be very supportive. I'm single and have

been for a long time so I decided to start dating and what a nightmare

that was. I would have to get drunk enough to actually spit it out,

then I wouldn't hear from them again. That doesn't seem like it will

be a problem anymore because my new boyfriend seems fine with it. My

dad still doesn't know which for me seems okay because I'm not that

close to him and he moved to another state a while ago. Anyway I think

I'm starting to ramble. Enough for now.

Love

[Guest guest]

you are going to get so many opinions on this.. the bottom line is tell who you feel comfortable with telling... and if you need to tell someone... safety precautions at work are the norm now.. so that shouldn't be an issue.. family and friends on a need to know basis... every one has secrets, you don't think your privy to all of their's, why should they be privy to all of yours... as for dating, i hear you there.. you have to decide how to precede on your own, what will work or not for you.. i prefer to get it out of the way, and speak up on my status.... if i get turned down right away, i have no problem with them.. it's when they say it's not a problem, "you don't see me running away" then they walk away after several dates and fun times together, that it hurts... you can tell in the kiss if they have a problem, somethings just can't be hidden... been rethinking on how i have been handling it, to be

honest... best wishes and best luck... who you take into your confidence is up to you.. hope they understand what you telling them, and that is that you trust them enough to share this information with them..