Social alcohol (was: Roots of poor eye contact)

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I too really NEEDED a little alcohol when I was younger, in order to get

over my social phobia. Luckily, my mom was very understanding and would buy

me a bottle of wine to drink AT HOME before going out dancing with my

friend. That may SEEM an irresponsible thing to do for a parent but it was

quite the opposite. If she had not done that, I would probably have instead

tried to obtain something stronger illegally that would no doubt just have

made me sick.

My friend used to take a little booze from her dad's collection of gins,

vodkas and whiskeys when he wasn't home; a little from each bottle so that

he wouldn't notice. She once let me try this ungodly concoction... I got

sick as a dog! :-(

Inger

Re: Roots of poor eye contact

I am not comfortble in talking one to one

> and

> > > will get tonguetied and very anxious. I am a recovering

> alcoholic

> > > and I started using alcohol to be able to talk to people at

> parties

> > > and such when I was a teenager. I could never call and make a dr

> > > appt until I was forced to after getting married and having

> kids. I

> > > was just generally uncomfortable in my own skin... especially in

> > > social situations.

I can see how alcohol could easily become a crutch. Myself, I waited

until others drank too much then I could easily talk to THEM. Unless

they drank too much and were just ridiculous.

Maybe your talking to us will help you a little in your recovery.

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