Guest guest Posted December 4, 2006 Report Share Posted December 4, 2006 Hi everyone! I'm at my wits end here right now. I am so upset and frustrated and angry and sad. My ex and I had our appointment with the psychiatrist. She totally made me feel like it's my parenting methods that are making my daughter so sick. Since my ex doesn't feel like it's all that bad. She seems to think that it's the divorce and the death of my niece that is making Jessika have all her symtoms. I KNOW in my heart that it's something else. The shrink says that since Jessika does so well in school that it can't be ocd or anything else. Do any of your children do well in school? Is there any kind of other testing then using the dsm-iv? What should I be asking for? The only advice I got was to help my daughter feel hope. That it will get better. I need to find someone else, but here in Sweden it's mostly state-run healthcare. There are private psychiatrists, but I haven't found one that takes children. I'm just so upset. Thanks for listening. Hugs, --------------------------------- Stava rätt! Stava lätt! s stavkontroll tar hand om tryckfelen och mycket mer! Få den på http://se.mail. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 5, 2006 Report Share Posted December 5, 2006 You must be so sad right now. As parents, we already blame ourselves so much for our children's issues. Having the dr say that must have been overwhelming. I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. It is VERY normal for OCD kids to be able to function at school. I know for a while the school didn't think our dd was going through anything. I've read many books that say that it is quite common. But, then when our kids get home, after holding it in all day, they explode due to the stress and anxiety. That was exactly our experience. I wish I had advice for a new dr, but I live in the US. Good luck and rest assured that you are not alone. I really hope you find a good doctor. Do you have any books on OCD? > > Hi everyone! > > I'm at my wits end here right now. I am so upset and frustrated and angry and sad. > > My ex and I had our appointment with the psychiatrist. She totally made me feel like it's my parenting methods that are making my daughter so sick. Since my ex doesn't feel like it's all that bad. She seems to think that it's the divorce and the death of my niece that is making Jessika have all her symtoms. I KNOW in my heart that it's something else. The shrink says that since Jessika does so well in school that it can't be ocd or anything else. > > Do any of your children do well in school? Is there any kind of other testing then using the dsm-iv? What should I be asking for? > > The only advice I got was to help my daughter feel hope. That it will get better. > > I need to find someone else, but here in Sweden it's mostly state-run healthcare. There are private psychiatrists, but I haven't found one that takes children. > > I'm just so upset. Thanks for listening. > Hugs, > > > --------------------------------- > > Stava rätt! Stava lätt! s stavkontroll tar hand om tryckfelen och mycket mer! Få den på http://se.mail. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2006 Report Share Posted December 7, 2006 Hi , My dd, 11 y/o, has for years been verbally and physically aggressive and demanding mostly to me (mom). There were always the insinuated comments around the family " Well, she only does it around her mom. " Which begged the question 'why'? I ALWAYS knew I was doing a good if not great job as a parent and was not surprised one bit when we finally figured this out and got her diagnosed OCD last June. At school, she is a MODEL student and quiet and obedient mostly anywhere else. Home? That's another story. Or, anywhere that I am. Dad gets some of it, too... but not like the safe haven of mom. I'm the landing pad, I guess. By the way, this is typical of kids struggling with anxiety and/or other mental problems... to save their blow-outs for home. I understand your frustration, anger, sadness and upset. My advice: RUN, don't walk, away from this doctor you're seeing. - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 7, 2006 Report Share Posted December 7, 2006 andrea, that is EXACTLY how my dd is! sharon Re: I don't know what to do Hi , My dd, 11 y/o, has for years been verbally and physically aggressive and demanding mostly to me (mom). There were always the insinuated comments around the family " Well, she only does it around her mom. " Which begged the question 'why'? I ALWAYS knew I was doing a good if not great job as a parent and was not surprised one bit when we finally figured this out and got her diagnosed OCD last June. At school, she is a MODEL student and quiet and obedient mostly anywhere else. Home? That's another story. Or, anywhere that I am. Dad gets some of it, too... but not like the safe haven of mom. I'm the landing pad, I guess. By the way, this is typical of kids struggling with anxiety and/or other mental problems... to save their blow-outs for home. I understand your frustration, anger, sadness and upset. My advice: RUN, don't walk, away from this doctor you're seeing. - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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