Update and How do you tell your child something the right way?

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Thanks Francine, I will definately check it out.

Just an update, Tyler went back to school with a para educator(?),

they used to call them aides lol, anyway, it was tricky and difficult

for him but so far things seem to be " okay " . In therapy today he

expressed feeling suspicious of the aide and he is VERY quick to

express his anger about the two people at the school that hurt him so

badly. I requested and got confirmation today that they will have no

contact with him so that eases my mind a lot and I told him and he

was very glad.

The aide is acting a little odd and she only spent half of one day in

class with him. I just finished a six page letter to her responding

to ignorant comments made to me on the daily progress sheet. She is

obviously very new at this and has no experience with children with

autism and I tried to tell her as much as I could about Tyler and

asked her not to jump to conclusions or judgements without talking to

me first. Hopefully the letter will enlighten her a tad and things

will be okay. As far as Tyler trusting her, I'm not sure on that

one. She was asking him a lot of questions and he said it made him

uncomfortable and he thinks she is a " spy " . After the things she

wrote me, I am starting to wonder the same thing! lol I think that

both of us are on the " look out " and have serious trust issues now.

Valid considering what has happened.

I'm trying to teach him how to not let anyone pressure him into

anything he feels uncomfortable about but cannot figure out how to

say it so that he takes it the way it is intended. I once showed him

a picture of a child molestor that moved onto our street and said

that if he ever saw this man to not talk to him and to run away and

come home as fast as he can. Now he has a " phobia " about all men

(strangers) and thinks they are child molestors. he won't even use

the bathroom in public because of it.

He was sent home with about two months of homework and it was so

overwhelming that I didn't even make him do it. (He didn't

understand it anyway). It is so far beyond his current capabilities

and the fact that he wasn't in class to learn this stuff (not that he

would have), it is just unbelievable to me that someone would expect

him to do that much homework in a weekend, especially AFTER his

therapist and I both said no homework OR no more than 30 minutes of

homework until the IEP re-eval. I'm so sick of dealing with the

school system. I wish I could hire a teacher to work with him one on

one or that I had the ability to homeschool him. I just want to

scream sometimes!

Kathleen

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> Here's the website Kathleen: _http://www.wrightslaw.com/_

> (http://www.wrightslaw.com/)

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> And I love this, that you wrote, it's so loving: My assignment

for

> today is to try to do something special with him (if he wakes up)

and

> not mention school even once and see how he does.

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> Sending you some more blessings!

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> Love,

> Francine