To discipline or not to discipline/Answer

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If he has AS, spanking is the worst you can do to him. There are other forms of discipline you should consider. He might not be able to understand the connection between spanking and bad behavior. And the bad behavior may stand for something else you have to find out. I am sure he doesn´t behave bad in the meaning to cause you sorrow and problems. He may be frustrated over something he hasn´t words for.AS may seem more verbal

than they actually are.They often learn by mimicking and it doesn´t necessarily mean they´ve got the full meaning behind.

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Från: alishamarie24 <alishamarie24@...>Ämne: To discipline or not to disciplineTill: Autism and Aspergers Treatment Datum: lördag 27 september 2008 20.04

Hello all! I am new to the group as I just recently was informed that my son's psychiatrist believes him to possibly have some autistic behaviors. He was diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety last year at the age of 4. I had three different opinions to be sure I wasn't being overly suggestive or laid back. I also recently met a wonderful man who has two wonderful boys (5 and 8). His oldest has been diagnosed with autistic aspergers, ADHD, and anxiety disorders. He is currently taking abilify (sorry if my spelling is off) in a very low dosage which has shown some promising results. I am not very well informed on how to manage behavioral issues in a child with autism or aspergers and am hoping to find some answers with your help. My friend's son has recently been having some violent outbursts at school and at home and we are trying to figure out what is the most productive thing to do. We know removing him

from the situation, but what should we do after that? We have talked about not spanking because it promotes agressive behavior but do we discipline at all or just simply try to eliminate the source of the outbursts (i.e. assemblies at school)? If we discipline what do we do? Do we ask him why he got upset and try to reason with him and let him know that is not acceptable behavior? Any advice you may give me would be so helpful as I am very new to this situation and want to be as supportive as possible and also know what to do for my own son in the event that the testing does show he is autistic. Thanks so much.

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Thanks so much! My fear is making things worse. Christian is a high

functioning child but is only in his classroom at school 38% of the

day. He is a sweetheart but has triggers that cause violent or

agressive outbursts. I am slowly learning what those triggers are and

working with my boyfriend to learn how to best approach the

dicipline. Do any of you know about books or articles I can read

regarding dicipline with an autistic/asperger child? Thanks in

advance for your help and advice.

Alisha

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> If he has AS, spanking is the worst you can do to him. There are

other forms of discipline you should consider. He might not be able

to understand the connection between spanking and bad behavior. And

the bad behavior may stand for something else you have to find out. I

am sure he doesn´t behave bad in the meaning to cause you sorrow and

problems. He may be frustrated over something he hasn´t words for.AS

may seem more verbal

> than they actually are.They often learn by mimicking and it

doesn´t necessarily mean they´ve got the full meaning behind.

>  

>

>

> --- Den lör 2008-09-27 skrev alishamarie24 <alishamarie24@...>:

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> Från: alishamarie24 <alishamarie24@...>

> Ämne: To discipline or not to discipline

> Till: Autism and Aspergers Treatment

> Datum: lördag 27 september 2008 20.04

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> Hello all! I am new to the group as I just recently was informed

that

> my son's psychiatrist believes him to possibly have some autistic

> behaviors. He was diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety last year at the

> age of 4. I had three different opinions to be sure I wasn't being

> overly suggestive or laid back. I also recently met a wonderful man

> who has two wonderful boys (5 and 8). His oldest has been diagnosed

> with autistic aspergers, ADHD, and anxiety disorders. He is

currently

> taking abilify (sorry if my spelling is off) in a very low dosage

> which has shown some promising results. I am not very well informed

> on how to manage behavioral issues in a child with autism or

> aspergers and am hoping to find some answers with your help. My

> friend's son has recently been having some violent outbursts at

> school and at home and we are trying to figure out what is the most

> productive thing to do. We know removing him

> from the situation, but

> what should we do after that? We have talked about not spanking

> because it promotes agressive behavior but do we discipline at all

or

> just simply try to eliminate the source of the outbursts (i.e.

> assemblies at school)? If we discipline what do we do? Do we ask

him

> why he got upset and try to reason with him and let him know that

is

> not acceptable behavior? Any advice you may give me would be so

> helpful as I am very new to this situation and want to be as

> supportive as possible and also know what to do for my own son in

the

> event that the testing does show he is autistic. Thanks so much.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Sök efter kärleken!

> Hitta din tvillingsjäl på Dejting: http://se.meetic..net

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[Guest guest]

I liked Ray Levy's " Try and Make Me! " . It follows a lot of Ross Greene's

principles. You decide what is critical to address, important to address,

and what you can let slide for now. It fits well with what an early

childhood teacher told us many years ago: Pick your battles, don't fight him

on everything but if you do decide to take the issue on, don't back down no

matter what. It worked for us.

Tonya

Re: To discipline or not to discipline/Answer

,

Thanks so much! My fear is making things worse. Christian is a high

functioning child but is only in his classroom at school 38% of the

day. He is a sweetheart but has triggers that cause violent or

agressive outbursts. I am slowly learning what those triggers are and

working with my boyfriend to learn how to best approach the

dicipline. Do any of you know about books or articles I can read

regarding dicipline with an autistic/asperger child? Thanks in

advance for your help and advice.

Alisha

>

>

>

> If he has AS, spanking is the worst you can do to him. There are

other forms of discipline you should consider. He might not be able

to understand the connection between spanking and bad behavior. And

the bad behavior may stand for something else you have to find out. I

am sure he doesn´t behave bad in the meaning to cause you sorrow and

problems. He may be frustrated over something he hasn´t words for.AS

may seem more verbal

> than they actually are.They often learn by mimicking and it

doesn´t necessarily mean they´ve got the full meaning behind.

>  

>

>

> --- Den lör 2008-09-27 skrev alishamarie24 <alishamarie24@...>:

>

> Från: alishamarie24 <alishamarie24@...>

> Ämne: To discipline or not to discipline

> Till: Autism and Aspergers Treatment

> Datum: lördag 27 september 2008 20.04

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Hello all! I am new to the group as I just recently was informed

that

> my son's psychiatrist believes him to possibly have some autistic

> behaviors. He was diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety last year at the

> age of 4. I had three different opinions to be sure I wasn't being

> overly suggestive or laid back. I also recently met a wonderful man

> who has two wonderful boys (5 and 8). His oldest has been diagnosed

> with autistic aspergers, ADHD, and anxiety disorders. He is

currently

> taking abilify (sorry if my spelling is off) in a very low dosage

> which has shown some promising results. I am not very well informed

> on how to manage behavioral issues in a child with autism or

> aspergers and am hoping to find some answers with your help. My

> friend's son has recently been having some violent outbursts at

> school and at home and we are trying to figure out what is the most

> productive thing to do. We know removing him

> from the situation, but

> what should we do after that? We have talked about not spanking

> because it promotes agressive behavior but do we discipline at all

or

> just simply try to eliminate the source of the outbursts (i.e.

> assemblies at school)? If we discipline what do we do? Do we ask

him

> why he got upset and try to reason with him and let him know that

is

> not acceptable behavior? Any advice you may give me would be so

> helpful as I am very new to this situation and want to be as

> supportive as possible and also know what to do for my own son in

the

> event that the testing does show he is autistic. Thanks so much.

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Sök efter kärleken!

> Hitta din tvillingsjäl på Dejting: http://se.meetic..net

>

>

> __________________________________________________________

> Går det långsamt? Skaffa dig en snabbare bredbandsuppkoppling.

> Sök och jämför priser hos Kelkoo.

> http://www.kelkoo.se/c-100015813-bredband.html?partnerId=96914325

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