Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.

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My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He just

began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in the

chest and called him " retard " . The school swept the matter under the

rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the

bully was taunting him again.

Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?

Should the school have done more?

Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Joe

[Guest guest]

Wow! I'm surprised that the school is not doing anything about this!

what I would do is go talk to the principle, and/or his counselor if

you do not get any help from them, then I would defiantly go to the

Dept of education/school board Im sure you will get a response from

them. In the mean time be calm,firm, and respectful to them and I'm

sure they will give that back to you, getting upset does not help the

matter.

(Ive been there)

hope I helped... GL Misty

>

> My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He

just

> began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in the

> chest and called him " retard " . The school swept the matter under the

> rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the

> bully was taunting him again.

> Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?

> Should the school have done more?

> Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to

school?

>

> Any advice would be appreciated.

>

> Joe

>

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no, you do not have to take it!!! go to the head of the school district immediately!! and File a complaint, and a police report if needed, even if you think it is monor, there still needs to be a paper trail. Fayetteville, Ar school district is being sued right now because of bullying issues that started a few years ago, and never went away!I am a teacher, and we have posted all over the school that bullying is against the law! See what your district policy is about this and hold them to it, don't close your eyes to this...sometimes they only wake up when a lawyer contacts them!!From: Joe <joe03560@...>Subject: Advice for dad of bullied 12

y.o.Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Sunday, September 21, 2008, 2:18 PM

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He just

began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in the

chest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under the

rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the

bully was taunting him again.

Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?

Should the school have done more?

Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Joe

[Guest guest]

No, you don't have to accept this Joe. Raise hell about it, and ask the school district to find him a private school where this behavior won't got on, if they're unwilling to appropriately deal with it. School districts don't like to have to spend money that way.

Seventh grade isn't fun for boys generally anyway, and this sounds just terrible for him.

Sympathetically,

Francine

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In a message dated 9/26/2008 7:14:36 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, joe03560@... writes:

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He justbegan 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in thechest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under therug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day thebully was taunting him again.Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?Should the school have done more?Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?Any advice would be appreciated.Joe

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Most states now have a very strict no bullying policy in the schools. What happened to your son is UNACCEPTABLE! I would first speak with the principal and let him/her know that you are not satisfied with how this incident was handled and that this child continues to verbally abuse your son. Let the principal know that you are ready and willing to take this matter to school board for resolution if need be. Good luck.

From: Joe <joe03560@...>Subject: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Sunday, September 21, 2008, 2:18 PM

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He justbegan 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in thechest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under therug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day thebully was taunting him again.Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?Should the school have done more?Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?Any advice would be appreciated.Joe

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From: sunrose101@... <sunrose101@...>Subject: Re: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Saturday, September 27, 2008, 12:44 PM

No, you don't have to accept this Joe. Raise hell about it, and ask the school district to find him a private school where this behavior won't got on, if they're unwilling to appropriately deal with it. School districts don't like to have to spend money that way.

Seventh grade isn't fun for boys generally anyway, and this sounds just terrible for him.

Sympathetically,

Francine

p.p.s. It is often worth it to have pre-paid legal as they will write 3 letters a year for you at no cost. Another thing no-one likes is to get a letter from a lawyer!

And it's pretty inexpensive, PPL is.

In a message dated 9/26/2008 7:14:36 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, joe03560 (DOT) com writes:

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He justbegan 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in thechest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under therug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day thebully was taunting him again.Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?Should the school have done more?Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?Any advice would be appreciated.Joe

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Joe

This happened to my son last year when he was 12 and in 6th grade. I immediatly spkoe to the principal, his counselor and all of his teachers together. I expressed my feelings about maybe meeting with the boys parents to straighten it out. That got them thinking and it was addressed and stopped. The teachers started standing in the hallways to watch the kids when changing classes.

Hope this helps. DO NOT stand for this type of abuse towards your child

Darlene

From: sunrose101@... <sunrose101@...>Subject: Re: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Saturday, September 27, 2008, 12:44 PM

No, you don't have to accept this Joe. Raise hell about it, and ask the school district to find him a private school where this behavior won't got on, if they're unwilling to appropriately deal with it. School districts don't like to have to spend money that way.

Seventh grade isn't fun for boys generally anyway, and this sounds just terrible for him.

Sympathetically,

Francine

p.p.s. It is often worth it to have pre-paid legal as they will write 3 letters a year for you at no cost. Another thing no-one likes is to get a letter from a lawyer!

And it's pretty inexpensive, PPL is.

In a message dated 9/26/2008 7:14:36 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, joe03560 (DOT) com writes:

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He justbegan 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in thechest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under therug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day thebully was taunting him again.Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?Should the school have done more?Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?Any advice would be appreciated.Joe

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I have a 3 year old with ASD and I worry about him being bullied in the future.

Has anyone gotten their child into self defense classes? Does that work for

this kind of situation?

e

> From: sunrose101@... <sunrose101@...>

> Subject: Re: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.

> Autism and Aspergers Treatment

> Date: Saturday, September 27, 2008, 4:44 PM

> No, you don't have to accept this Joe. Raise hell about

> it, and ask the

> school district to find him a private school where this

> behavior won't got on,

> if they're unwilling to appropriately deal with it.

> School districts don't

> like to have to spend money that way.

>

> Seventh grade isn't fun for boys generally anyway, and

> this sounds just

> terrible for him.

>

> Sympathetically,

> Francine

>

> p.p.s. It is often worth it to have pre-paid legal as they

> will write 3

> letters a year for you at no cost. Another thing no-one

> likes is to get a

> letter from a lawyer!

>

> And it's pretty inexpensive, PPL is.

>

> In a message dated 9/26/2008 7:14:36 P.M. Eastern Daylight

> Time,

> joe03560@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in

> school. He just

> began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched

> him in the

> chest and called him " retard " . The school swept

> the matter under the

> rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next

> day the

> bully was taunting him again.

> Should the punching incident have been treated as an

> assault?

> Should the school have done more?

> Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to

> go to school?

>

> Any advice would be appreciated.

>

> Joe

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> epiousian = the expression of agape

>

> quite a bit more than enough

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Looking for simple solutions to your

> real-life financial

> challenges? Check out WalletPop for the latest news and

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Joe,

I'm so sorry your son is going through this. It just breaks my heart to hear things like that. My son is 8 y old, and I'm just terrified about his future and bullies. Me personally, I would defiantly go back into the school and demand that something be done, I think it is assault. Does your son have an IEP? I'm just wondering if the school knows his issues, and doesn't just assume it was boys being boys. If this child assaulted a child in a wheelchair or a child with a more physically noticeable disability, I'm sure a lot more would have been done.

Jen

In a message dated 09/26/08 19:14:36 Eastern Daylight Time, joe03560@... writes:

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He justbegan 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in thechest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under therug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day thebully was taunting him again.Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?Should the school have done more?Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?Any advice would be appreciated.Joe

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Yes, it should have been treated as assult, and yes there should have been at least a 5 day suspension for the kid that hit him. Is the child that hit your son disabled? If he is they could say it was a manisfestation of his disability, if not talk to the principal, superinentent and threaten a law suit if neccesary. The school should have a NO TOLERANCE rule for bullying. Sue

Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He justbegan 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in thechest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under therug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day thebully was taunting him again.Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?Should the school have done more?Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?Any advice would be appreciated.Joe

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I don't think it is too late to file a police report. Certainly worth looking into. And important to get the message across to the school and the kid(s) that this is intolerable behavior.

Francine

In a message dated 9/28/2008 10:41:04 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time, blackfoot124@... writes:

i am not sure where u are located ,but yes it is assault and the boy should of been suspended for it.is the kid who punched him also a special needs kid or is he an nt kid? not that he should be hitting.just curious.i do not know how long you can go after the incident to report it but next time call the police get them involved bring them to the school.i hate when schools think kids should just get a lecture when there is physical abuse present. if the kid would of punched someone on the street the cops would be called.if it happens again document it ,cops what ever way and bring charges against the child(parents) and the school.to many times bullies/and the bullied are pushed under the carpets, saying kids will be kids, and yet they are surprised when kids go off and do the tragic events you see on the news. but look into the laws where you are located at ,keep track of anything that happens bring it to the school if they fail to do anything about it then id sue the school and pull ur child out of that school ur childs safety is more important than that school saving face

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Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He justbegan 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in thechest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under therug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day thebully was taunting him again.Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?Should the school have done more?Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?Any advice would be appreciated.Joe

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i am not sure where u are located ,but yes it is assault and the boy should of been suspended for it.is the kid who punched him also a special needs kid or is he an nt kid? not that he should be hitting.just curious.i do not know how long you can go after the incident to report it but next time call the police get them involved bring them to the school.i hate when schools think kids should just get a lecture when there is physical abuse present. if the kid would of punched someone on the street the cops would be called.if it happens again document it ,cops what ever way and bring charges against the child(parents) and the school.to many times bullies/and the bullied are pushed under the carpets, saying kids will be kids, and yet they are surprised when kids go off and do

the tragic events you see on the news. but look into the laws where you are located at ,keep track of anything that happens bring it to the school if they fail to do anything about it then id sue the school and pull ur child out of that school ur childs safety is more important than that school saving face Vickie WwW.SparkleTags.Com----- Original Message ----From: Joe <joe03560@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Sunday, September 21, 2008 5:18:36 PMSubject: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He just

began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in the

chest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under the

rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the

bully was taunting him again.

Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?

Should the school have done more?

Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Joe

[Guest guest]

i am not sure where u are located ,but yes it is assault and the boy should of been suspended for it.is the kid who punched him also a special needs kid or is he an nt kid? not that he should be hitting.just curious.i do not know how long you can go after the incident to report it but next time call the police get them involved bring them to the school.i hate when schools think kids should just get a lecture when there is physical abuse present. if the kid would of punched someone on the street the cops would be called.if it happens again document it ,cops what ever way and bring charges against the child(parents) and the school.to many times bullies/and the bullied are pushed under the carpets, saying kids will be kids, and yet they are surprised when kids go off and do

the tragic events you see on the news. but look into the laws where you are located at ,keep track of anything that happens bring it to the school if they fail to do anything about it then id sue the school and pull ur child out of that school ur childs safety is more important than that school saving face Vickie WwW.SparkleTags.Com----- Original Message ----From: Joe <joe03560@...>Autism and Aspergers Treatment Sent: Sunday, September 21, 2008 5:18:36 PMSubject: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He just

began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in the

chest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under the

rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the

bully was taunting him again.

Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?

Should the school have done more?

Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Joe

[Guest guest]

If the school district has its's own police department, then report

it to the department and tell them that you want to file a complaint

for assault - because that is what it was. If there is not an on

campus police department then go to the city police department and

file a complaint. If the school does not take bullying seriously,

your child will not be protected at the school and it will only get

worse.

>

>

>

> No, you don't have to accept this Joe. Raise hell about it, and

ask the

> school district to find him a private school where this behavior

won't got on,

> if they're unwilling to appropriately deal with it. School

districts don't

> like to have to spend money that way.

>

> Seventh grade isn't fun for boys generally anyway, and this sounds

just

> terrible for him.

>

> Sympathetically,

> Francine

>

> p.p.s. It is often worth it to have pre-paid legal as they will

write 3

> letters a year for you at no cost. Another thing no-one likes is

to get a

> letter from a lawyer!

>

> And it's pretty inexpensive, PPL is.

>

> In a message dated 9/26/2008 7:14:36 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> joe03560@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He

just

> began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in

the

> chest and called him " retard " . The school swept the matter under

the

> rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the

> bully was taunting him again.

> Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?

> Should the school have done more?

> Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to

school?

>

> Any advice would be appreciated.

>

> Joe

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

> epiousian = the expression of agape

>

> quite a bit more than enough

>

>

>

>

>

> **************Looking for simple solutions to your real-life

financial

> challenges? Check out WalletPop for the latest news and

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Joe:

That is most certainly assault and I am constantly baffled by schools

that ignore this kind of behavior considering that if your son had

retaliated he probably would have been punished for that.

Is it at all possible to find someone to homeschool him, if you're

unable to do it yourself? The reason I ask is, if school is going to

be a bad experience for your son, and the school refuses to do

anything about it, I would pull him from that school. If another

school in the area is not an option, you're left with homeschooling,

not necessarily a bad option when it comes to Aspie kids depending on

their coping abilities.

You can coach him how to deal with it (after all he's going to have to

learn to deal with people like that), but that won't address the

hating school issue and how that's going to affect his grades and

achievements.

Just my thoughts.

Darlene

> Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.

>

>

> My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He just

> began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in the

> chest and called him " retard " . The school swept the matter under the

> rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the

> bully was taunting him again.

> Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?

> Should the school have done more?

> Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?

>

> Any advice would be appreciated.

>

> Joe

>

[Guest guest]

Joe:

That is most certainly assault and I am constantly baffled by schools

that ignore this kind of behavior considering that if your son had

retaliated he probably would have been punished for that.

Is it at all possible to find someone to homeschool him, if you're

unable to do it yourself? The reason I ask is, if school is going to

be a bad experience for your son, and the school refuses to do

anything about it, I would pull him from that school. If another

school in the area is not an option, you're left with homeschooling,

not necessarily a bad option when it comes to Aspie kids depending on

their coping abilities.

You can coach him how to deal with it (after all he's going to have to

learn to deal with people like that), but that won't address the

hating school issue and how that's going to affect his grades and

achievements.

Just my thoughts.

Darlene

> Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.

>

>

> My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He just

> began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in the

> chest and called him " retard " . The school swept the matter under the

> rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the

> bully was taunting him again.

> Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?

> Should the school have done more?

> Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?

>

> Any advice would be appreciated.

>

> Joe

>

[Guest guest]

Joe, In my state, the school has a formal policy on bullying which echos one that is in state education laws (NJ). I'd phone the school, tell them to fax you the policy, or that you're calling to request a copy and that you'll be there at x time to pick it up. Hand them a letter at that time stating that you are asking them to retroactively deal with the situation appropriately in keeping with policies at state and local level. Address it to the principal, with copies to the CST case manager, guidance counselor, and school board members. If it does not get resolved, get a paper trail going on your own and show up to request your desired outcome to the members of the school board at their next meeting. I'd insist the offender get required therapy/counseling whatever, and ask that the incident go in his school file. Put the

requests in writing too. Good luck! Maybe have your son learn some basic judo self-defense moves (where you use the momentum of the attacker against them by latching onto them and moving with them in the same direction they were headed, thus landing them on their arse by their own locomotion!

bloom where you are planted

From: Joe <joe03560 (DOT) com>Subject: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.Autism and Aspergers TreatmentDate: Sunday, September 21, 2008, 2:18 PM

My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He justbegan 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in thechest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under therug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day thebully was taunting him again.Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?Should the school have done more?Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?Any advice would be appreciated.Joe

[Guest guest]

Until just recently, I homeschooled my child thru K12 or OHVA.org. It was wonderful and the school supported my son's special needs, even though we did the majority of the work here ourselves. They were in the IEP process when we withdrew because we were offered a spot at a special school for kids on the spectrum. I couldn't refuse it, but I really wasn't planning on switching. You would find the homeschool community very welcoming for your child, I think. There are lots of activities. Search for a homeschool group in your area. Contact them and maybe they can give you feedback. It is not as much work as you think, and the joy of peace and happiness for your son will make up for the work. I found such peace when I started because I didn't have to deal with the school anymore.

From: djaro828 <djaro828@...>Subject: Re: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.Autism and Aspergers Treatment Date: Monday, September 29, 2008, 6:53 PM

Joe:That is most certainly assault and I am constantly baffled by schoolsthat ignore this kind of behavior considering that if your son hadretaliated he probably would have been punished for that.Is it at all possible to find someone to homeschool him, if you'reunable to do it yourself? The reason I ask is, if school is going tobe a bad experience for your son, and the school refuses to doanything about it, I would pull him from that school. If anotherschool in the area is not an option, you're left with homeschooling,not necessarily a bad option when it comes to Aspie kids depending ontheir coping abilities.You can coach him how to deal with it (after all he's going to have tolearn to deal with people like that), but that won't address thehating school issue and how that's going to affect his grades andachievements.Just my thoughts.Darlene> ----- Original

Message ----> From: Joe <joe03560@.. .>> Autism and Aspergers Treatment> Sent: Sunday, September 21, 2008 5:18:36 PM> Subject: Advice for dad of bullied 12 y.o.> > > My son (who has A.S.) is being unmercifully bullied in school. He just> began 7th grade and hates school now. One 13 y.o. punched him in the> chest and called him "retard". The school swept the matter under the> rug and only made the bully apologize to my son. The next day the> bully was taunting him again.> Should the punching incident have been treated as an assault?> Should the school have done more?> Do we just have to accept this until my son is afraid to go to school?> > Any advice would be appreciated.> >

Joe>