Guest guest Posted January 18, 2008 Report Share Posted January 18, 2008 Hi, I'm new to the list and was going to " lurk " for awhile and try to learn things but tonight something happened that has never happened before and I'm not sure how to respond to it and was hoping for some advice or experience. I am a single mom, I have a 15 year old boy and a 10 year old boy who has PDD. There is a long story behind it but things have been very hard this winter (school, teacher abuse, me taking him out of school, etc.), and his behavior has been horrible at times, even more so than I could have ever imagined. Anyway, every night I fight with him about taking a shower. He doesn't want to bathe or brush his teeth, If I don't check and force him, he will put his dirty clothes back on after a shower. (He wants to wear the same thing over and over and hates the new clothes). So tonight, I put my foot down because he hasn't showered in a few days and I didn't have the energy to fight anymore so I let it go that long. When I told him to get in the shower he got really mad as usual but he drew back his fist to hit me. I could see something " go off " in his eyes that made him stop but I got in his face and told him if he EVER raised his hand to hit me that I would beat the you know what out of him. Then, I regained my composure somewhat (I would never hit him but I was mad and he was calling me names and yelling and telling me how mean I was, etc. Then I told him that I wouldn't hit him but I would call the crisis center or the police and that they would take him away for trying to hurt me. He said " I woudl never forgive you " and I was so mad I said, oh well. He said " I'll just go live at Grandmas " and I told him " no you wont' because she won't let you " . At this point my teenager actually appeared out of his room (lol) and told Tyler that he was such a bad son. That was what made him lose it. He started crying and screaming and seemed truly angry and HURT that someone would say that. I said well are you acting like a good son right now? Then he snuck in my room and called his grandma and started telling her how mean his brother and I am and how he " needed a break from this place " , but failed to mention what he did. Anyway when I heard him talking on the phone, I picked up the other extension to listen. When he was done I said tell her what else you did. then he got mad that I was listening and started yelling and this is what concerns me...He yells and screams a lot and calls me mean or whatever but tonight he said I hate you, you piss me off you freakin bitch. This is my TEN year old little boy. I didn't say anything because I was in shock and he hung up the phone. Then he came in here and looked me dead in the eyes and screamed (in a mean, scary way) how much he hated me, how mean I was and how I pissed him off and freaking this and freaking that...Again, I didn't say anything or react and he went into my room and started throwing things, kicking things..etc. When he was in the shower I went into my room to see if he was okay and he had locked me out. I picked the lock and opened my door to a room that looked like a tornado had just gone through there. I was so mad that I did something terrible and now I feel so guilty that I don't know what to do...I'm so embarrassed to tell anyone and am scared to tell our counselor...I went into the other bathroom and flushed the toilet (twice) while he was in the shower. He came out and yelled that it was freaking cold and I caught myself giggling (not in front of him). Am I the most horrible mom or what? How could I do such a thing? I don't take the name calling and the " i hate you's " personally and I know that he cannot control himself but I did it anyway. Can anyone give me their advice? Has anyone been through this and did you do anything as bad as what I did? How should I punish him? If I show him that he got to me, he will use it in the future. If I ignore it and don't punish him, he will think he can get away with it again. I am so confused... Thanks, Kathleen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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