7 y.o. angry /frustrated one week and then fine the next week--why???

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I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to help my son

with his frustration/anger/anxiety. Here is what is happening:

My son has AS, is 7 y.o. in a regular 1st grade classroom. His

behavior is very hard to understand. He will have a great week and

then the next week will be the total opposite. This comes in waves,

like a roller coaster. I have not been able to determine any

triggers that provoke the " bad " weeks. This week has been very rough

for him. He is very intelligent--- but during these rough times

will meltdown when asked to do the simplest school work. For

instance if he has to do handwriting activities in school--he will

get so angry-clench his teeth and fists, tense his whole body--say

things like this is so hard and my brain is too small--when

literally he just has to write the letter " n " . The strange thing is--

he is way above his classmates academically so I am not sure why he

has so much anxiety towards his schoolwork. I am trying to think of

ways to help him control his anger and frustration in the classroom--

but have not come up with anhything that is working. His teacher

says she just has to point to his paper and he has a meltdown. And,

then a new week may start--and he is fine. No problems doing the

work. I feel so sad for him when he feels " out of control " . Do you

have any suggestions on how to help him manage his anger and any

ideas of why some weeks are fine and then boom without any visible

warning he has a week that is tremendously difficult?

He currently is not on any anxiety/adhd meds. We have followed the

biomedical approach for years. When he has good weeks--I just can't

justify trying meds. When he has bad weeks--I feel like I should try

meds because he may literally have a biochemical issue and cannot

control certain behaviors. ANY ideas or suggestions would be so

apppreciated.

Thanks-Maureen