Re: A) New friends,dirty house B) Homeschooling C) Anyone in Mid TN?

[Guest guest]

Melinda,

Is there a chance you and new friends can go " out " with you picking

them up to go out to eat, movie, park, mall...? When warm weather

returns, perhaps you all can visit on days where you can suggest you

all be outside ( " it's soooo nice out! " ).

Another thought if your DD doesn't mind people knowing she has OCD:

a " white lie " where you can say her OCD has a " thing " about other

people's homes, she gets anxious about possible germs and it's best

the kids/all meet at your home, you'd be glad to pick them up? (of

course if she goes to others' homes, then that won't work) The thing

is, they know their home isn't the " cleanest " so excuses would have

to relate to " all " new friends without offending them, making them

feel bad. My mom, whom we live with, is/was an awful hoarder so I'm

not one to invite people over here and tend to go " there " or meet

elsewhere.

Just some quick thoughts,

>

> Just curious what you would do. We went to meet some new friends

today,

> they are very nice people but their home is extremely dirty and not

> just " OCD dirty " , I mean filthy. They were so happy to meet us and

us

> them as we are new to our town and homeschoolers and finally met

some

> folks we like but..... my 11yo OCD dd will not return to their home

and

[Guest guest]

Hi Melinda:

Just a question -- any reason why you could not invite for an

activity and pick them up? It seems that if they do not have a car,

they might appreciate this. You can then suggest going over to your

place for lunch, or whatever, for a while.

And another question -- why was the school system such a nightmare?

This is a serious question, as my son hates public school and I

cannot do better for him right now financially. I am a single mom

and have trouble with managing homeschooling on top of all my other

responsiblities. My son does not do the work I request of him, so it

is hard for me to " just do it at night " as some have suggested. It

seems to add a huge layer of tension to our lives. At present he is

on " homebound instruction -- which means the school sends a teacher

for a couple hours a day to our home. He is doing the work for her

and likes her a lot, but this will not last forever and I am worrying

about what to do next. What about the public school system made it

such a nightmare for your ocd daughter?

(of course, I have lots of complaints about the schools here, I just

think that at present they can do a better job than I can due to time

constraints and my son's lack of respect for my authority over him)

> >

> > Just curious what you would do. We went to meet some new friends

> today,

> > they are very nice people but their home is extremely dirty and

> not

> > just " OCD dirty " , I mean filthy. They were so happy to meet us

and

> us

> > them as we are new to our town and homeschoolers and finally met

> some

> > folks we like but..... my 11yo OCD dd will not return to their

> home and

> > they don't have a running car so we can't even try to plan to

meet

> out.

> >

> > I feel awful to " dump " our new friends and don't know the proper

> way to

> > handle it, do I tell the woman the truth about my dd and OCD? or

> just

> > make excuses until she stops calling?

> >

> > I am sure a similar situation had happened to some of you, how

did

> you

> > handle it?

> >

> >

> > I see alot of posts regarding scholl here's my 2 cents! My dd

> was

> > always homeschooled until last year when a therapist suggested if

> she

> > had more " structure " she wouldnt have so much time to dwell on

the

> bad

> > thoughts. She attended public school for 4 months and it was an

> > absoliute nightmare - not just because of OCD and the anxiety it

> caused

> > our dd but in general. Homeschooling is an awesome alternative,

if

> you

> > want more info check out my new website

homeschoolersconnection.com

> >

> > C)My dd said today how neat it would be to actually have a friend

> with

> > OCD because they would understand each other. Anyone out there in

> > Middle Tennessee? email me @ barkstrom@

> >

> > Thanks,

> > Best to all of you

> >

> > Melinda

> >

> > Thanks

> >

> > Melinda

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Melinda:

Just a question -- any reason why you could not invite for an

activity and pick them up? It seems that if they do not have a car,

they might appreciate this. You can then suggest going over to your

place for lunch, or whatever, for a while.

And another question -- why was the school system such a nightmare?

This is a serious question, as my son hates public school and I

cannot do better for him right now financially. I am a single mom

and have trouble with managing homeschooling on top of all my other

responsiblities. My son does not do the work I request of him, so it

is hard for me to " just do it at night " as some have suggested. It

seems to add a huge layer of tension to our lives. At present he is

on " homebound instruction -- which means the school sends a teacher

for a couple hours a day to our home. He is doing the work for her

and likes her a lot, but this will not last forever and I am worrying

about what to do next. What about the public school system made it

such a nightmare for your ocd daughter?

(of course, I have lots of complaints about the schools here, I just

think that at present they can do a better job than I can due to time

constraints and my son's lack of respect for my authority over him)

> >

> > Just curious what you would do. We went to meet some new friends

> today,

> > they are very nice people but their home is extremely dirty and

> not

> > just " OCD dirty " , I mean filthy. They were so happy to meet us

and

> us

> > them as we are new to our town and homeschoolers and finally met

> some

> > folks we like but..... my 11yo OCD dd will not return to their

> home and

> > they don't have a running car so we can't even try to plan to

meet

> out.

> >

> > I feel awful to " dump " our new friends and don't know the proper

> way to

> > handle it, do I tell the woman the truth about my dd and OCD? or

> just

> > make excuses until she stops calling?

> >

> > I am sure a similar situation had happened to some of you, how

did

> you

> > handle it?

> >

> >

> > I see alot of posts regarding scholl here's my 2 cents! My dd

> was

> > always homeschooled until last year when a therapist suggested if

> she

> > had more " structure " she wouldnt have so much time to dwell on

the

> bad

> > thoughts. She attended public school for 4 months and it was an

> > absoliute nightmare - not just because of OCD and the anxiety it

> caused

> > our dd but in general. Homeschooling is an awesome alternative,

if

> you

> > want more info check out my new website

homeschoolersconnection.com

> >

> > C)My dd said today how neat it would be to actually have a friend

> with

> > OCD because they would understand each other. Anyone out there in

> > Middle Tennessee? email me @ barkstrom@

> >

> > Thanks,

> > Best to all of you

> >

> > Melinda

> >

> > Thanks

> >

> > Melinda

> >

>