Re: To : School Aide

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Thanks Ellen, It really helps to hear your story. Glad to hear your

daughter was helped by this.

nancy grace

>

> Hi ,

> I feel for you and I understand what you are going through. My

> daughter starting going downhill in 6th grade, only to get worse in

> 7th and 8th. Now better in 9th. In school, there was always an

> aide in the academic classes available for her, as well as some

> others. But by seventh grade, she basically had one available all

> the time. She was pulled out of classes because she couldn't write

> also. Lots of one on one, sometimes more successful than other

> times. We had a tutor at home also. It was so exhausting for all

of

> us because sometimes, even with all the help, she couldn't get work

> done. There were so many accomodations made at school. She had

> trouble with writing, washing too much and even walking. The aide

> went with her on her school's Washington, DC trip. It wasn't

> embarrassing because my daughter didn't know that she went only to

> watch over her. As far as the aide in school,it was a relief. My

> daughter's words are, " Isn't it nice that they help me so much! "

Over

> time, she came to know that she needed the help and couldn't do the

> work without help. We emphasize how lucky she is to live in a time

> when help is available. My husband has ADD and when he was young

he

> got no help at all. My daughter also has ADD and TS, now. (so

> getting her the aide was no problem at all) In middle school, the

> aide took care of all her books, because if she did, she would hide

> the ones in remote places around the school - the homework that she

> didn't want to do. They made it as stress-free as possible.

> However, it was hard in middle school because the curriculum was so

> set. In high school now, there is so much more flexibility. My

> daughter wants to be very social, so for her, keeping her in the

> school was a good thing. I guess she suffered in silence. We

tried

> a class at a special school last summer.....she didn't like it

much.

> She prefers to try to fit in with her regular peers. I hope that

you

> can find something that works well for your son! It is so

hard!!!

> Hope this helps a little. Ellen

>