Guest guest Posted November 13, 2000 Report Share Posted November 13, 2000 Hi Beth, I too live in the house I grew up in. This is a three generation house. We moved in with my grandmother when she had to have cancer surgery when I was nine years old. My mom and stepdad built a new home and we bought this one almost 20 years ago. My grandmother died about 4 years ago at the age of 90. We don't know exactly how old this house is but we think about 75 years old. It was great living with my grandmother, it was like having two mothers. She watched me and my brother while my mom worked and we were each other's favorite people in the whole world.......I feel very lucky to live only a few miles from my mom and Jodi. My Dad and stepmom live right across the little lake we live on. My stepmom is great also. That is one thing my Dad finally did right. He and my mom have been divorced since I was two.......Yes, Beth you should except help when it is offered. Also take it from someone who knows, your house does not have to be spotless. I thought that until Jodi got sick, now I know better. Helping her is my main priority and spending time with my grandson, Colton. Spend time with your kids, don't live like a pig but loosen up. Those dirty dishes will be there waiting for you.......I hope things get easier for you, just try to keep a positive attitude. I know that's easier said than done.......I live in Haines City, south of Leesburg. Twelve miles from Cypress Gardens if you have heard of that, its in Winter Haven. Well, better go for now but will talk to you soon. Take care and God bless, Genny/Jodi's Mom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 Hopefully, this will be your LAST round of treatment. Congratulations. Keep us posted! Claudine --- beth Sutter <mbs28@...> wrote: > > Hi, > > I finished my year of combo a couple weeks back and > went to see my > hepatologist yeterday. I was happy to hear that I > have " cleared the virus " > once again. This was my second round of treatment > so I am cautiously > optimistic that the second time was the charm. I > feel good. Don't appear > to have any residual effects from the treatment > other than anemia so still a > little tired but other than that I feel really good. > I'll keep my fingers > crossed until October and am hoping all of you can > get good news real soon. > > Beth > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 22, 2001 Report Share Posted April 22, 2001 Beth CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!! Fantastic!!! You remaining undetected will be in my prayers I too am waiting for some energy andomedagurl@... http://www.livejournal.com Grand Prairie, Tx, USA, Earth HBV + HCV + Have you been tested? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 thankfully somewhere along the line I got hit but the reality stick and realize HEY! I had this to be healthy NOT Barbie and I AM being successful in that. That is when I quit worrying so much what I weighed or what size I wore but how I felt! THEN I was truly successful! > thank you so much for reminding me that I already am successful! I feel soooo much better after losing 112 pounds and I am able to do many things that I could not before....one of which is buying clothes that I like rather than just what will fit. Another is that I can stand to cook dinner now without my back, legs and feet throbbing.........I can fly without an extension. I can fit behind my steering wheel more safely and comfortably. I can do my own shopping, clean my own tub and shower, get up off the floor without help. I can jump up from my office chair and " prance " down to the bathroom whenever I have to go not when I just can't wait any longer to get up the nerve to put all that weight on those little bitty sore feet and struggle out of the too tight clothing in the cramped little stall. I can walk through a mall without feeling like people are amazed by my lack of self control and nudging each other to look at the fat pig who should be to humiliated to go out in public. I can go to area theme parks without the fear of not fitting in the rides! I can go to my hairdresser and look in the mirror without revulsion. I can eat without guilt and make better food choices because I WANT to not because I am ashamed or worried or putting up a " see I really should not be this fat cause I eat like a bird " front. And the biggest change is that I feel life is going to get better and better and better......not more difficult and full of illness and humiliation when they have to get a crane to lift me off my deathbed! lolol Whewwwww what am I whining about again???? =) Seriously, I have nerve worrying when you look at all the things that are better. Thanks! Beth proud to be a big fat loser in Florida lololol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 You said it for all of us. There is one more thing I used to worry about that I have never seen on this list, and that is if I had died while I was so obese, how would the pallbearers handle my coffin at my funeral!!! I know this is a morbid thought, but I also thought of lying in a coffin with all my fat spread out for everyone to see--crammed in a coffin. I think my health problems were really scaring me making me think of death a lot. This fright was the main thing that brought me to the MGB, and I AM ETERNALLY GRATEFUL FOR IT for all these reasons and more! Pat Eppler PS: I have done two weeks at Curves and am very happy with it. It gives me more intensive muscle building than I was getting at the pool. I was able to jump right into the routine at full speed which I never could have done before, or even now without the water aerobics benefits. I am doing them both now, alternating days. I got a little sore the first day, and sweat, but it is a good feeling. Pat Re: Beth thankfully somewhere along the line I got hit but the reality stick and realize HEY! I had this to be healthy NOT Barbie and I AM being successful in that. That is when I quit worrying so much what I weighed or what size I wore but how I felt! THEN I was truly successful! > thank you so much for reminding me that I already am successful! I feel soooo much better after losing 112 pounds and I am able to do many things that I could not before....one of which is buying clothes that I like rather than just what will fit. Another is that I can stand to cook dinner now without my back, legs and feet throbbing.........I can fly without an extension. I can fit behind my steering wheel more safely and comfortably. I can do my own shopping, clean my own tub and shower, get up off the floor without help. I can jump up from my office chair and " prance " down to the bathroom whenever I have to go not when I just can't wait any longer to get up the nerve to put all that weight on those little bitty sore feet and struggle out of the too tight clothing in the cramped little stall. I can walk through a mall without feeling like people are amazed by my lack of self control and nudging each other to look at the fat pig who should be to humiliated to go out in public. I can go to area theme parks without the fear of not fitting in the rides! I can go to my hairdresser and look in the mirror without revulsion. I can eat without guilt and make better food choices because I WANT to not because I am ashamed or worried or putting up a " see I really should not be this fat cause I eat like a bird " front. And the biggest change is that I feel life is going to get better and better and better......not more difficult and full of illness and humiliation when they have to get a crane to lift me off my deathbed! lolol Whewwwww what am I whining about again???? =) Seriously, I have nerve worrying when you look at all the things that are better. Thanks! Beth proud to be a big fat loser in Florida lololol Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 ** Original Subject: RE: Re: Beth > ** Original Sender: " Pat Eppler " <peppler@...> > ** Original Date: Wed, 23 May 2001 12:22:51 -0600 > ** Original Message follows... > > You said it for all of us. There is one more thing I used to worry about that I have never seen on this list, and that is if I had died while I was so obese, how would the pallbearers handle my coffin at my funeral!!! I know this is a morbid thought, but I also thought of lying in a coffin with all my fat spread out for everyone to see--crammed in a coffin. I think my health problems were really scaring me making me think of death a lot. This fright was the main thing that brought me to the MGB, and I AM ETERNALLY GRATEFUL FOR IT for all these reasons and more! > > Pat Eppler Hey Pat. I think the final humiliation for me was before surgery when I fell down the front steps at my house and broke my foot. The rescue squad had to come because I couldn't walk and it took two men from the ambulance, my husband and my daughter to get me into the ambulance to go to the hospital. I was mortified and so embarassed. I knew then that I had to do something! Flo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 I hear ya! Last summer, one of my friends who is larger than I started out, went swimming with our gang of friends, and she could not get out of the pool. She could not walk up the steps nor climb the ladder. It took her husband half an hour to get her out. I just sat there and almost cried for her. The sad thing is that she is even larger this year and more crippled. I don't imagine that she will be swimming with us any more. I went to WalMart and bought a top, a tankini top I suppose, and a pair of wind shorts to wear to our swimming parties. The shorts cover a lot of ugly leg stuff!!! Never will I quit swimming and having fun with the gang!!! None of them are exactly bathing beauties, but we all love each other!!!!!! We have couples swimming-tennis parties all summer. The " normal " sized women would not go swimming until I declared that I refused to sit on the sidelines, so now we all have fun, and it is fun. I missed out on too much fun for 30 years and refuse to do so any more!!! Wish I were skinny like you Flo!!!!!!!!! Pat RE: Re: Beth > ** Original Sender: " Pat Eppler " <peppler@...> > ** Original Date: Wed, 23 May 2001 12:22:51 -0600 > ** Original Message follows... > > You said it for all of us. There is one more thing I used to worry about that I have never seen on this list, and that is if I had died while I was so obese, how would the pallbearers handle my coffin at my funeral!!! I know this is a morbid thought, but I also thought of lying in a coffin with all my fat spread out for everyone to see--crammed in a coffin. I think my health problems were really scaring me making me think of death a lot. This fright was the main thing that brought me to the MGB, and I AM ETERNALLY GRATEFUL FOR IT for all these reasons and more! > > Pat Eppler Hey Pat. I think the final humiliation for me was before surgery when I fell down the front steps at my house and broke my foot. The rescue squad had to come because I couldn't walk and it took two men from the ambulance, my husband and my daughter to get me into the ambulance to go to the hospital. I was mortified and so embarassed. I knew then that I had to do something! Flo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 Pat, You know I was that friend last summer. I went to my sister's pool and I couldn't get out either.... The damn stairs are just two narrow to put both feet on at once, and I didn't have the strength in my legs to hold my weight on one foot... It was utterly embarassing. I hung around in the pool for several hours, getting really wrinkled! Finally, my husband lifted me from underneath, out of the pool like a beached whale... I just rolled out onto her deck! I know I'm not going to have that problem this year.. but first of all I will climb in and out on the ladder to make sure!! Thank God there was only family over the last time I tried. But even then, I couldn't stand the pity in my Mother's eyes! I hope your friend can find some help for herself. I know EXACTLY what she is going through. Trudy RE: Re: Beth > ** Original Sender: " Pat Eppler " <peppler@...> > ** Original Date: Wed, 23 May 2001 12:22:51 -0600 > ** Original Message follows... > > You said it for all of us. There is one more thing I used to worry about that I have never seen on this list, and that is if I had died while I was so obese, how would the pallbearers handle my coffin at my funeral!!! I know this is a morbid thought, but I also thought of lying in a coffin with all my fat spread out for everyone to see--crammed in a coffin. I think my health problems were really scaring me making me think of death a lot. This fright was the main thing that brought me to the MGB, and I AM ETERNALLY GRATEFUL FOR IT for all these reasons and more! > > Pat Eppler Hey Pat. I think the final humiliation for me was before surgery when I fell down the front steps at my house and broke my foot. The rescue squad had to come because I couldn't walk and it took two men from the ambulance, my husband and my daughter to get me into the ambulance to go to the hospital. I was mortified and so embarassed. I knew then that I had to do something! Flo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2001 Report Share Posted May 23, 2001 I don't say anything to her, but she knows all about my surgery and how well I have done. Many years ago she lost over 100 lbs. on the protein shakes, but gained it all back and has just kept on gaining and gaining. She is well-to-do and could afford the surgery if she wanted it. Instead, they have made their house wheelchair accessible with the knowledge that she is going to need it very soon. It is really sad that she will not consider WLS. Pat RE: Re: Beth > ** Original Sender: " Pat Eppler " <peppler@...> > ** Original Date: Wed, 23 May 2001 12:22:51 -0600 > ** Original Message follows... > > You said it for all of us. There is one more thing I used to worry about that I have never seen on this list, and that is if I had died while I was so obese, how would the pallbearers handle my coffin at my funeral!!! I know this is a morbid thought, but I also thought of lying in a coffin with all my fat spread out for everyone to see--crammed in a coffin. I think my health problems were really scaring me making me think of death a lot. This fright was the main thing that brought me to the MGB, and I AM ETERNALLY GRATEFUL FOR IT for all these reasons and more! > > Pat Eppler Hey Pat. I think the final humiliation for me was before surgery when I fell down the front steps at my house and broke my foot. The rescue squad had to come because I couldn't walk and it took two men from the ambulance, my husband and my daughter to get me into the ambulance to go to the hospital. I was mortified and so embarassed. I knew then that I had to do something! Flo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 24, 2001 Report Share Posted May 24, 2001 Oh, Trudy... I am so sorry that happened We all have SO many emotional scars from this darned weight. For Cinco De Mayo I set up a support meeting with swimming and fishing off of a pontoon and you should have HEARD the stories! Two of our women had horrific pontoon stories...One of them, honest to goodness, was on one with a family reunion and most of her family is of a large nature and, you guessed it, the dern thing SUNK. Another had went off the side with her very slender sister and just could not get back up and ended up swimming back to land. All of us have these stories and we are the LUCKY ones. Remember how we felt before surgery? Hopelessly trapped? I am thankful my stories (and if you knew me personally you'd know I didnt' even need to become obese to have some VERY embarrassing stories...here is a short: Went to church swimming party at 15. Was dizzy in love with the training youth pastor, a college student, Don Lee. I wore a one piece tank suit that tied just under the arms. I had never worn suit before. For some dumb reason I was feeling shy that day and was gonna just sit out the pool but eat and visit. Well, Don and our Youth Pastor decided to grab me and throw me in the pool~~~ One had my ankles, one my wrists and they swung me back and forth counting...On one, my top SLID DOWN, ((I guess they were so into the swinging they didnt' notice??)) on two I had an atomic WEDGIE and on three I just hoped when they let go they threw me so high into the sky I NEVER came down. No such luck tho...And did I mention I was a very busty girl (I wore a 36D at 12...so does my daughter.) .... Anyhow, I have a lot of stories just like that, which prove why people have referred to me as Lucy (as in Lucille Ball) many times...WHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAA....Anyhow, you are SOOO right that we now don't have to worry about these things (well I still do because if I venture out at ANY weight, there is no telling what's gonna happen..but I bet no one picks me up to throw me in a pool ever again! HAHA) and I'm so glad!! We are fortunate, blessed and still here! Ain't it grand? Love ya, in Ark See that must be why I moved to Ark. from Calif. ... I was already redfaced so I decided I might as well have a neck to match Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 HI Beth, My name is Rosemary and it is my son that has AIH. He also takes 150mgs of imuran but takes it all at night just before he goes to bed. We were told that taking it in the am could be hard on the stomach. I hope this helps you. Rosemary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 28, 2001 Report Share Posted May 28, 2001 I subscribe but have found only one article on AIH. I wonder if we should all write them requesting more info on the subject. Rosemary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2001 Report Share Posted June 12, 2001 I didn't miss anything. I read every word and was very choked up. You are awsome Kathy...but we knew that before..you just reaffired that with your story! You have a healthy mind to accompany that newly healthy body and I'm proud to know you! Flo > ** Original Subject: RE: Re: Beth > ** Original Sender: ~k~ <Kathyuncp@...> > ** Original Date: Wed, 13 Jun 2001 21:41:11 -0400 > ** Original Message follows... > > Thanks Manda :-)~ > > i have a different view bout peeps not reading......THEIR LOSS .......hehe > > > > > > > > At 12:52 AM 6/14/2001 +0000, you wrote: > >kathy, > > I just wanted you to know that I read every word. I'm lucky that > >my parents aren't alcoholics, never were, in fact I've never seen > >them drink. So, I really didn't have any " words of advice " , but I > >know how it feels to pour your heart out, and not get any replies. > >Just wanted to say thanks for sharing. > > > >Manda > > > > > > > > > >Kathy, I so enjoyed reading about your life. How very interesting. > > > >I wanted to comment on a similarity.....My mother well and my > > > >father....all through my childhood were both practicing alcoholics. > > > >I also lived and learned about abuse, neglect, courts, custody, > > > >violence and last but not least.....running to food for comfort. > > > >As a matter of fact, there are many first born or only child adult > > > >daughters of alcoholics who find themselves addicted to food. > > > >Perhaps, it is because we have addictive personalities yet we > > > >have to take care of our drunk parents and or our neglected > > > >siblings so we choose an addiction that (at least in the > > > >beginning) is socially acceptable and lets us stay in control of > > > >our thoughts and surroundings. > > > >I read a book once called Self Sabotage: Adult Children of > > > >Alcoholics. That book quotes the stats of overweight first born or > > > >only child adult daughters of alcoholics as 90+% being > > > >overweight. Scary huh? > > > >Makes me think that we never had a chance without WLS! > > > >I also wanted to say congrats on your degrees and on your > > > >mother's sobriety! What an accomplishment! And I fully > > > >understand your point about not being resentful of your past.....it > > > >does make us the strong women we are today! > > > >Thanks again for sharing! > > > > > > > >Warmly, > > > >Beth > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2001 Report Share Posted June 13, 2001 ty beth i was prayin sumone would take the time to read that long ass email lol.....THANK GAWDDDD i was sweatin it for awhile lol and THANks for ur kind words........u know where i could find that book? i would love to read it.......im not a reader........but i will read self help books........anything else no wayyyyyyyyy........guess its why i was a math major lol..... so much we learn here from others and others experiences......and so many times we learn we have others that can relate to us that is the one thing i loved about OA and the other 12 step programs and this list serves as the same kind of support, Thanks, Wet Kathy in Nc wont stop raining here!!!! At 07:54 PM 6/13/2001 +0000, you wrote: >Kathy, I so enjoyed reading about your life. How very interesting. >I wanted to comment on a similarity.....My mother well and my >father....all through my childhood were both practicing alcoholics. >I also lived and learned about abuse, neglect, courts, custody, >violence and last but not least.....running to food for comfort. >As a matter of fact, there are many first born or only child adult >daughters of alcoholics who find themselves addicted to food. >Perhaps, it is because we have addictive personalities yet we >have to take care of our drunk parents and or our neglected >siblings so we choose an addiction that (at least in the >beginning) is socially acceptable and lets us stay in control of >our thoughts and surroundings. >I read a book once called Self Sabotage: Adult Children of >Alcoholics. That book quotes the stats of overweight first born or >only child adult daughters of alcoholics as 90+% being >overweight. Scary huh? >Makes me think that we never had a chance without WLS! >I also wanted to say congrats on your degrees and on your >mother's sobriety! What an accomplishment! And I fully >understand your point about not being resentful of your past.....it >does make us the strong women we are today! >Thanks again for sharing! > >Warmly, >Beth > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2001 Report Share Posted June 13, 2001 kathy, I just wanted you to know that I read every word. I'm lucky that my parents aren't alcoholics, never were, in fact I've never seen them drink. So, I really didn't have any " words of advice " , but I know how it feels to pour your heart out, and not get any replies. Just wanted to say thanks for sharing. Manda > >Kathy, I so enjoyed reading about your life. How very interesting. > >I wanted to comment on a similarity.....My mother well and my > >father....all through my childhood were both practicing alcoholics. > >I also lived and learned about abuse, neglect, courts, custody, > >violence and last but not least.....running to food for comfort. > >As a matter of fact, there are many first born or only child adult > >daughters of alcoholics who find themselves addicted to food. > >Perhaps, it is because we have addictive personalities yet we > >have to take care of our drunk parents and or our neglected > >siblings so we choose an addiction that (at least in the > >beginning) is socially acceptable and lets us stay in control of > >our thoughts and surroundings. > >I read a book once called Self Sabotage: Adult Children of > >Alcoholics. That book quotes the stats of overweight first born or > >only child adult daughters of alcoholics as 90+% being > >overweight. Scary huh? > >Makes me think that we never had a chance without WLS! > >I also wanted to say congrats on your degrees and on your > >mother's sobriety! What an accomplishment! And I fully > >understand your point about not being resentful of your past.....it > >does make us the strong women we are today! > >Thanks again for sharing! > > > >Warmly, > >Beth > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2001 Report Share Posted June 13, 2001 Thanks Manda :-)~ i have a different view bout peeps not reading......THEIR LOSS .......hehe At 12:52 AM 6/14/2001 +0000, you wrote: >kathy, > I just wanted you to know that I read every word. I'm lucky that >my parents aren't alcoholics, never were, in fact I've never seen >them drink. So, I really didn't have any " words of advice " , but I >know how it feels to pour your heart out, and not get any replies. >Just wanted to say thanks for sharing. > >Manda > > > > > >Kathy, I so enjoyed reading about your life. How very interesting. > > >I wanted to comment on a similarity.....My mother well and my > > >father....all through my childhood were both practicing alcoholics. > > >I also lived and learned about abuse, neglect, courts, custody, > > >violence and last but not least.....running to food for comfort. > > >As a matter of fact, there are many first born or only child adult > > >daughters of alcoholics who find themselves addicted to food. > > >Perhaps, it is because we have addictive personalities yet we > > >have to take care of our drunk parents and or our neglected > > >siblings so we choose an addiction that (at least in the > > >beginning) is socially acceptable and lets us stay in control of > > >our thoughts and surroundings. > > >I read a book once called Self Sabotage: Adult Children of > > >Alcoholics. That book quotes the stats of overweight first born or > > >only child adult daughters of alcoholics as 90+% being > > >overweight. Scary huh? > > >Makes me think that we never had a chance without WLS! > > >I also wanted to say congrats on your degrees and on your > > >mother's sobriety! What an accomplishment! And I fully > > >understand your point about not being resentful of your past.....it > > >does make us the strong women we are today! > > >Thanks again for sharing! > > > > > >Warmly, > > >Beth > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2001 Report Share Posted June 14, 2001 ty, I remember ya Rosemary 521-0223 for now......... Im bout tired of my hubby.........so no telling how long me and kids will be here........my tolerance level is like ZEROOOOOOO At 07:25 PM 6/14/2001 -0700, you wrote: >Hey Kathy, >I just wanted to let you know, I read your entire story. A very good read >actually! It kept my interest all the way to the bottom. I felt so much >emotion reading it. I could feel your pain along with your joy! Thanks for >sharing. I've misplaced your phone number but would love to give you a call >sometime or get together sometime. I'm the one who live near you! Please >let me know! >Rosemary Locklear > Re: Beth > > > > > > ty beth i was prayin sumone would take the time to read that long ass >email > > lol.....THANK GAWDDDD i was sweatin it for awhile lol > > > > and THANks for ur kind words........u know where i could find that book? i > > would love to read it.......im not a reader........but i will read self > > help books........anything else no wayyyyyyyyy........guess its why i was >a > > math major lol..... > > > > so much we learn here from others and others experiences......and so many > > times we learn we have others that can relate to us that is the one thing >i > > loved about OA and the other 12 step programs and this list serves as the > > same kind of support, Thanks, > > > > Wet Kathy in Nc > > wont stop raining here!!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > At 07:54 PM 6/13/2001 +0000, you wrote: > > >Kathy, I so enjoyed reading about your life. How very interesting. > > >I wanted to comment on a similarity.....My mother well and my > > >father....all through my childhood were both practicing alcoholics. > > >I also lived and learned about abuse, neglect, courts, custody, > > >violence and last but not least.....running to food for comfort. > > >As a matter of fact, there are many first born or only child adult > > >daughters of alcoholics who find themselves addicted to food. > > >Perhaps, it is because we have addictive personalities yet we > > >have to take care of our drunk parents and or our neglected > > >siblings so we choose an addiction that (at least in the > > >beginning) is socially acceptable and lets us stay in control of > > >our thoughts and surroundings. > > >I read a book once called Self Sabotage: Adult Children of > > >Alcoholics. That book quotes the stats of overweight first born or > > >only child adult daughters of alcoholics as 90+% being > > >overweight. Scary huh? > > >Makes me think that we never had a chance without WLS! > > >I also wanted to say congrats on your degrees and on your > > >mother's sobriety! What an accomplishment! And I fully > > >understand your point about not being resentful of your past.....it > > >does make us the strong women we are today! > > >Thanks again for sharing! > > > > > >Warmly, > > >Beth > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2001 Report Share Posted June 14, 2001 Hey Kathy, I just wanted to let you know, I read your entire story. A very good read actually! It kept my interest all the way to the bottom. I felt so much emotion reading it. I could feel your pain along with your joy! Thanks for sharing. I've misplaced your phone number but would love to give you a call sometime or get together sometime. I'm the one who live near you! Please let me know! Rosemary Locklear Re: Beth > > ty beth i was prayin sumone would take the time to read that long ass email > lol.....THANK GAWDDDD i was sweatin it for awhile lol > > and THANks for ur kind words........u know where i could find that book? i > would love to read it.......im not a reader........but i will read self > help books........anything else no wayyyyyyyyy........guess its why i was a > math major lol..... > > so much we learn here from others and others experiences......and so many > times we learn we have others that can relate to us that is the one thing i > loved about OA and the other 12 step programs and this list serves as the > same kind of support, Thanks, > > Wet Kathy in Nc > wont stop raining here!!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > At 07:54 PM 6/13/2001 +0000, you wrote: > >Kathy, I so enjoyed reading about your life. How very interesting. > >I wanted to comment on a similarity.....My mother well and my > >father....all through my childhood were both practicing alcoholics. > >I also lived and learned about abuse, neglect, courts, custody, > >violence and last but not least.....running to food for comfort. > >As a matter of fact, there are many first born or only child adult > >daughters of alcoholics who find themselves addicted to food. > >Perhaps, it is because we have addictive personalities yet we > >have to take care of our drunk parents and or our neglected > >siblings so we choose an addiction that (at least in the > >beginning) is socially acceptable and lets us stay in control of > >our thoughts and surroundings. > >I read a book once called Self Sabotage: Adult Children of > >Alcoholics. That book quotes the stats of overweight first born or > >only child adult daughters of alcoholics as 90+% being > >overweight. Scary huh? > >Makes me think that we never had a chance without WLS! > >I also wanted to say congrats on your degrees and on your > >mother's sobriety! What an accomplishment! And I fully > >understand your point about not being resentful of your past.....it > >does make us the strong women we are today! > >Thanks again for sharing! > > > >Warmly, > >Beth > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 15, 2001 Report Share Posted June 15, 2001 Hi Beth: Glad to hear the good news, that sure is a cute little boy you have. Wanting to try for a girl now? Thanks for being such a good friend. Love, Genny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 27, 2001 Report Share Posted June 27, 2001 huh? who? not me... the OTHER a teehee.... aW MGB 5/28/00 214/115ish lbs Beth Beth, Hon, don't let someone that doesn't know what they are talking about upset you. I was there with you at dinner with Dr.Rutledge when he was discussing this phenomenon. We both know what was discussed as well as the other 6 or 7 people that were there. We are living proof that the body will adapt and has a tendency to compensate for the malabsorbtion. As we all know, experts rarely agree on various topics as we have witnessed with the MGB. You are under a lot of stress so take a deep breath and if you really feel the need to hit something try hitting on a. I'm sure she won't mind.;-) Love, Genz~~~just don't hit me.....my ovaries are missing :-( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 Suzanne, Sweetie! Don't be sorry for speaking your mind! And for calling out for support! Just think of all the people our little conversation helped! Helped them to look at what they are eating.....how they are burning calories and how time is very important here! I think that this list is evolving because of the simple fact that we no longer have a fresh flow of excited newbies! Think about it. For a few months now, there are NO new post ops......no one is losing 20 -30 pounds in one month!!! Most of us are 4 months or more post op and that means we are collectively starting to slow down our weight loss. So with that in mind.....we will hear more and more worried posts like yours, mine, Dinah, Rosemary, Stormy, Kathi and saucy V! (sorry I know I left lots of you out =) And now that I am calmer and can look back and try to understand what in the world got me so upset....well it is simple. I have been stuffing sooooo much frustration and sometimes ANGER!!!! over the way that @#$%^ & * handled this whole crusade against Dr. R. I feel so frustrated because I know there is some kernel of truth in what she says but dammit I cant figure out just what it is because her tactics are soooo manipulative and disgustingly self serving! It has been 10 LONG months of blatant propaganda coming across my computer. And the ONE thing I did NOT want her to be right about was that we post ops will call ANYONE who speaks negativity .....an LT supporter to shut them up. Her cry is that we are all Moonies with our heads in the sand. I was so grateful that once we came to this new Post op list.....we as a group seemed to not mention her name. We opened our minds up to the fact that there may be some problems and there may just be some of us not losing as we had expected or was predicted. We also, as I pointed out earlier, were an older post op group who had gone past the giddy euphoric days and had moved into a phase where we had to use more self control to get the results of just a month before. Hey I am all for positive thinking and I want to read everyone's wins......but I also want to read about the struggles so that I have a balanced and more realistic view. So when my post about absorbing more calories was greeted with a reference to being an LT supporter unhappy because we were not all arguing....WOW....that really touched a very very exposed nerve! Which obviously I over reacted too! Like I said....I had many many issues going on in the back ground at the time....My mother, Amy's Mother, gained weight, serious money issues since my surgery was self pay.....oh believe me if I had not had to mortgage my home to get this surgery I might not be so freaked out about showing my family and friends that I did the right thing cause look at me losing all this weight! And I would not be so desperate because I fear having to somehow pay for a revision or staying fat AND a failure! I really don't think Caron had a clue as to how painful her comments were. I trust that she would not have said them had she known. Think of it this way......she writes that in the past 3 months she has lost 56 pounds.....in the past 3 months I have lost 12. We have a whole different vantage point! And we would both do well to remember the other's feelings. So you little Deary did nothing to cause this.....it is just growing pains I think. Hope you have a wonderful loser day! Ohh ohh and Yes! we talked on the phone. You were making breakfast for your son I think and could not stand to fry the bacon because of your health. Look at you now!!!! =) Warmly, Beth > > Beth > > I am so sorry... I feel like I started a range war... you were so > supportive of me and understood my frustration and fear.. I am > scared..my arthritis pain has totally come back.. > > yes, I am better in that I do not need cruthes and my pain meds, but > I can still only walk little bits.. and I probably should be using a > cane,, I have several.. from pow-wow style( A piece of cherry wood > with an eagle head)to fancy dress. > > I feel that you stated the whole thing pretty clearly in laymans > terms (this is the food or nutrient receptor thing..) > > I thought that Caron meant me, when she said that... about the LT and > arguing... > > About the rest, well, both my parents were alcoholics, they > functioned, but it was VERY dysfunctional I am a recovering one > myself, been sober almost 16 1/2 years now.. quit smoking too, thats > when the weight problems began... oh well.. I know some of your pain > and I send you my deepest sympathy. > > I also wish I had known a little bit more that it WAS so important to > really watch one's food intake. I would have been MUCH more careful.. > > now, I am faced with changing insurances, and I just found out that > because of the mgb they do not want to insure me for 5 FIVE years.. > and by other standards I need to be around 180 lbs... so at 243 I > fall pretty short.. I am losing inches, I think, and still am > working at not being paranoid.. > > I have lost 2 lbs this month and have about 10 days to go.. I just > wish I knew if this was a plateau or WHAT!!!!??? > > Please do not feel bad and keep up your positive posts.. Did I call > you?? for a reference?? I live in Flagler beach.. up the northeast > coast here perhaps we could meet someday. > > Suzanne > MGB > 1.10.01 > 298/243 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2001 Report Share Posted June 29, 2001 Suzzanne, I am so sorry about your pain. hang in there. I know how hard it is, been there, done that. I am fortunately in a remission period and feel fairly well today. I will say healing prayers for you. Take care of yourself. in ark Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 Will have to try that Beth! Gotta try somethin! At 01:38 PM 8/24/2001 +0000, you wrote: > > > >i cant drink the protein shakes........i > > have spent hundreds of dollars tryin to find one i like.. > >Hey K, >Try the Designer Protein with crushed ice, one scoop of vanilla >frozen yogurt and soy chocolate milk....Blend it and yum....I love it! > >Or Designer Protein, vanilla frozen yogurt, a package of no sugar >added Swiss Miss cocoa, shaved ice and skim milk.....tastes like >a frosty! > >Beth > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 also low fat yogurt has protein too...good source Jeanne in NY --- ~k~ <kacherra@...> wrote: > > > > > Will have to try that Beth! Gotta try somethin! > > > > > > > At 01:38 PM 8/24/2001 +0000, you wrote: > > > > > > >i cant drink the protein shakes........i > > > have spent hundreds of dollars tryin to find one > i like.. > > > >Hey K, > >Try the Designer Protein with crushed ice, one > scoop of vanilla > >frozen yogurt and soy chocolate milk....Blend it > and yum....I love it! > > > >Or Designer Protein, vanilla frozen yogurt, a > package of no sugar > >added Swiss Miss cocoa, shaved ice and skim > milk.....tastes like > >a frosty! > > > >Beth > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 29, 2001 Report Share Posted September 29, 2001 Hi Beth, Your post was beautiful. My husband and I both work for US Airways. This has been a trying time for those of us that are in the airline business. I was furloughed yesterday and my husband received his furlough papers today. I thought that I would be all torn up about this but although I feel somber, I know that we are blessed that we still have each other. My heart and prayers goes out to all of those who were killed or lost their loved ones by the hands of the terrorists. Thank you so much for your post and your support.. I feel that soon people will start flying again and we all will be working again. God Bless America. Angel MGB 02/21/01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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