Guest guest Posted January 28, 2011 Report Share Posted January 28, 2011 Love you. Doris Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry® [ ] Tracey's Post Dear Tracey, I truly enjoyed reading your post and your observations about being an emotional burden. I came to the conclusion a long time ago, that some people do not understand happiness, because they have never been " happy " . Abe Lincoln once said, " People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be. " He certainly had reason to be depressed, he suffered from Marfan's Syndrome and lived with migrane headaches. Sometimes I think it is genes, and sometimes experience that helps us form our opinions and some people are just stuck in the past and can't move on. My sister has Alzheimer's, but every conversation you have with her, she finds it necessary to talk about our grandmother and how cruel and selfish she was, but she can't move on, she is stuck in the past. I must have inherited my genes from my mother's side of the family, because I always believed that things could and would get better. I remember very well the stress I was under, but there was no name for it; now I recognize it for what it was then. My father's side were all so negative it was difficult to be in their presence, so I agree with what you said, some people are toxic to any relationship. We all tried to ignore them, but they were family and we were taught not to destroy family relationships by being argumentative. I do believe that stress is a killer, your body can only take so much abuse, whether it is physical or mental. The cause of my father's death was a stress ulcer, caused by all the things that went wrong in the hospital where he died. The doctors said it was the same as blunt force trauma. I agree with your points, so we are on the same page. I neither believe that a good attitude will prevent you from developing diseases, but it's how you live and take with you that makes a difference. It's a personal choice, although I do believe that people who are chemically depressed have a harder time to feel positive. I kept telling Jimmy he was depressed, but he didn't believe me. When he started going to the VA, he asked me to accompany him and ask what I thought of the doctor, etc. The doctor listened to him for 5 minutes, stopped him and said " you are depressed. " He has been on meds ever since and he said he would never want to go back to what it was before he was given this med. It wasn't until he could feel the difference for himself that he came to the realization that his life could be better. I still believe in the axiom, that life is what you make it. Carpe Diem, Lottie Duthu Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 30, 2011 Report Share Posted January 30, 2011 G'day Lottie, Wonderful words of wisdom as usual from you! Hope you are travelling OK. XXXXX From: Lottie Duthu <lotajam@...> CML < > Cc: Sent: Saturday, 29 January 2011 6:16 AM Subject: [ ] Tracey's Post  Dear Tracey, I truly enjoyed reading your post and your observations about being an emotional burden. I came to the conclusion a long time ago, that some people do not understand happiness, because they have never been " happy " . Abe Lincoln once said, " People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be. " He certainly had reason to be depressed, he suffered from Marfan's Syndrome and lived with migrane headaches. Sometimes I think it is genes, and sometimes experience that helps us form our opinions and some people are just stuck in the past and can't move on. My sister has Alzheimer's, but every conversation you have with her, she finds it necessary to talk about our grandmother and how cruel and selfish she was, but she can't move on, she is stuck in the past. I must have inherited my genes from my mother's side of the family, because I always believed that things could and would get better. I remember very well the stress I was under, but there was no name for it; now I recognize it for what it was then. My father's side were all so negative it was difficult to be in their presence, so I agree with what you said, some people are toxic to any relationship. We all tried to ignore them, but they were family and we were taught not to destroy family relationships by being argumentative. I do believe that stress is a killer, your body can only take so much abuse, whether it is physical or mental. The cause of my father's death was a stress ulcer, caused by all the things that went wrong in the hospital where he died. The doctors said it was the same as blunt force trauma. I agree with your points, so we are on the same page. I neither believe that a good attitude will prevent you from developing diseases, but it's how you live and take with you that makes a difference. It's a personal choice, although I do believe that people who are chemically depressed have a harder time to feel positive. I kept telling Jimmy he was depressed, but he didn't believe me. When he started going to the VA, he asked me to accompany him and ask what I thought of the doctor, etc. The doctor listened to him for 5 minutes, stopped him and said " you are depressed. " He has been on meds ever since and he said he would never want to go back to what it was before he was given this med. It wasn't until he could feel the difference for himself that he came to the realization that his life could be better. I still believe in the axiom, that life is what you make it. Carpe Diem, Lottie Duthu Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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