Guest guest Posted July 8, 2000 Report Share Posted July 8, 2000 ((((WENDY)))) I'm so sorry that you are feeling so bad. Remember you did everything you could and that's what counts. He is in Heaven and not in pain now. I know you are in terrible pain. I'm sending many hugs and prayers. xoxo ^,,^ >:< **** @lison " Go Russ Go " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 8, 2000 Report Share Posted July 8, 2000 oh, . I can't even imagine the pain you are in. My heart cries for (and with) you. ne >From: Hyten <whyten@...> >Reply-egroups > <egroups> >Subject: Anniversary >Date: Sat, 08 Jul 2000 23:48:18 -0700 > >Hi all. >Sorry to just come back and start right into whining, but oh well. Here >goes. > >I'm having a really shitty night tonight. Tomorrow morning will mark the >one month anniversary of Matty's death...And I just can't stop thinking >of all that was happening at this time last month... >At this time, on this date, last month, I was.... >Holding my baby close >Singing to him >kissing his little face and hands >breathing his smell so I would never forget it >hoping that his coma was deep enough to block out the pain >praying for just one more day with him >hoping that his suffering would be over soon >begging the doc to please do something for him >knowing that she had already done everything she could >seeing even his doc cry >begging God to please not take my baby >wondering how I would ever live without him >knowing that I would have to find a way >cursing God for being so merciless >thanking God for the time I did have with Matty >feeling my heart being ripped out in pieces >and stomped on >trying to burn everything about him into my brain >but knowing that I would forget.... > >Oh, I could go on and on, but what would it change?? NOTHING. >I did what I could for him, and what good did it do?? NONE >Matty fought a terrible, ugly disease with all the strength he had, and >what did it change?? NOTHING >It's just so damn unfair....and I miss him so much. >I want my baby back.... > > ________________________________________________________________________ Get Your Private, Free E-mail from MSN Hotmail at http://www.hotmail.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 9, 2000 Report Share Posted July 9, 2000 Sorry to just come back and start right into whining, but oh well. Here goes. I'm having a really shitty night tonight. Tomorrow morning will mark the one month anniversary of Matty's death...And I just can't stop thinking of all that was happening at this time last month... At this time, on this date, last month, I was.... Holding my baby close Singing to him kissing his little face and hands breathing his smell so I would never forget it hoping that his coma was deep enough to block out the pain praying for just one more day with him hoping that his suffering would be over soon begging the doc to please do something for him knowing that she had already done everything she could seeing even his doc cry begging God to please not take my baby wondering how I would ever live without him knowing that I would have to find a way cursing God for being so merciless thanking God for the time I did have with Matty feeling my heart being ripped out in pieces and stomped on trying to burn everything about him into my brain but knowing that I would forget.... Oh, I could go on and on, but what would it change?? NOTHING. I did what I could for him, and what good did it do?? NONE Matty fought a terrible, ugly disease with all the strength he had, and what did it change?? NOTHING It's just so damn unfair....and I miss him so much. I want my baby back.... - I didn't want to erase any part of your message, because I think that you are doing the right thing.... Talking about it!! And I don't want to take away any of those feelings you have for your child.... And I totally understand you wanting your baby back! I have said those words many times over! You have EVERY REASON known to God & Man to feel the way you do!!! If you did NOT have some or all of these feelings, I would be REALLY REALLY WORRIED about you. You are going through the stages of grief.... The Stages of Grief http://www.saf.uwplatt.edu/counsel/depress/griefstg.htm The stages of grief described here do not necessarily occur in sequence, and often times a person can experience a stage several times. It's important to understand that the grief process is an individual experience without a deadline or timetable. The positive aspect for each stage is included. Denial gives one time to discover inner strengths and obtain help and information from others. Anxiety mobilizes and focuses energies needed for coping and changing attitudes and values. Depression enables a person to work on issues of competence, value, and strength in the context of loss. Anger helps the individual to look deeply at and restructure beliefs concerning fairness in the context of loss. Guilt enables a person to re-examine one's sense of meaning, importance, and responsibility in the context of loss. Acceptance occurs when one sees that while the family unit has changed, a new and inner self-confidence emerges. I did a bit of searching on Grief, and found a few sites that may help you... Journey of Hearts *By sharing losses, the heart grows Stronger* http://www.kirstimd.com/ Good Grief *Site about Grief, How to Deal with it, & how to turn it into a positive, creative experience.* http://www.goodgrief.org/ Cherish Corner- Family Bereavement Resources http://www.geocities.com:80/Heartland/Ranch/8207/cherish.html Parental Guidelines in Dealing with Grief... *It is beyond the scope of this page to attempt to ease the pain you are experiencing over the loss of your child.* http://www.childfind.ca/educate/jic/grieving.hte Grief Support & Links.... http://www.angelfire.com/tn/EntertainAngels/grief.html I believe that all the sites above have information about the loss of a child. And I only sent you the ones I thought would be coolest, and most helpful! I can't take away that pain of losing your baby. But I will be here if you want to talk, rant, rave, cry, scream, you get the picture! I am so Sorry! Love Always, Anne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2002 Report Share Posted January 9, 2002 happy anniversary to both of you.......and many many more patti Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2002 Report Share Posted January 9, 2002 Happy Anniversary Jeanine, You are indeed very lucky to have such a supportive man in your life! Today is also my anniversary, although it's " only " been 15 yrs! Sometimes it SEEMS like 42! Just kidding about that, I love my DH and most days wouldn't trade him in. : ) lovelylilyone wrote: > Well, DH and I have a milestone today...42 years of marriage!!! > Can't believe it's been that long. He's always been behind me in all > my endeavors. When I went back to school to become a Nurse > Practitioner (had to live in Philly for 4 months) he took care of the > kids, now with my soaping he is so supportive. I'm really lucky!! > Hope we can make it to 50. > > Jeanine > Jeanine's Hummingbird Soap Works -- Ehrhardt Body & Soap ***coming soon*** www.bodyandsoap.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2002 Report Share Posted January 9, 2002 that is beautiful. happy anniversary. Essential _______________ Anniversary > Well, DH and I have a milestone today...42 years of marriage!!! > Can't believe it's been that long. He's always been behind me in all > my endeavors. When I went back to school to become a Nurse > Practitioner (had to live in Philly for 4 months) he took care of the > kids, now with my soaping he is so supportive. I'm really lucky!! > Hope we can make it to 50. > > Jeanine > Jeanine's Hummingbird Soap Works > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2002 Report Share Posted January 9, 2002 Jeanine, Happy Anniveresary!!! Anniversary Well, DH and I have a milestone today...42 years of marriage!!! Can't believe it's been that long. He's always been behind me in all my endeavors. When I went back to school to become a Nurse Practitioner (had to live in Philly for 4 months) he took care of the kids, now with my soaping he is so supportive. I'm really lucky!! Hope we can make it to 50. Jeanine Jeanine's Hummingbird Soap Works Our Message Board http://www.voy.com/21568/ Check out these great Molds!! http://soapwerks.com/martinworld.htm Member Kae's Site... Awesome oil Prices! http://www.olivetreesoaps.com/ All posts to this list are copyrighted by post author. They may NOT be forwarded, copied, or used in anyway without the permission of the post author with the exception of answering posts to this list. Posts are personal opinions only. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2002 Report Share Posted January 9, 2002 Happy Aniversary to you too !!!! Re: Anniversary Happy Anniversary Jeanine, You are indeed very lucky to have such a supportive man in your life! Today is also my anniversary, although it's " only " been 15 yrs! Sometimes it SEEMS like 42! Just kidding about that, I love my DH and most days wouldn't trade him in. : ) lovelylilyone wrote: > Well, DH and I have a milestone today...42 years of marriage!!! > Can't believe it's been that long. He's always been behind me in all > my endeavors. When I went back to school to become a Nurse > Practitioner (had to live in Philly for 4 months) he took care of the > kids, now with my soaping he is so supportive. I'm really lucky!! > Hope we can make it to 50. > > Jeanine > Jeanine's Hummingbird Soap Works -- Ehrhardt Body & Soap ***coming soon*** www.bodyandsoap.com Our Message Board http://www.voy.com/21568/ Check out these great Molds!! http://soapwerks.com/martinworld.htm Member Kae's Site... Awesome oil Prices! http://www.olivetreesoaps.com/ All posts to this list are copyrighted by post author. They may NOT be forwarded, copied, or used in anyway without the permission of the post author with the exception of answering posts to this list. Posts are personal opinions only. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2002 Report Share Posted January 9, 2002 Wow, that's a looooooong time. Congratulations on that accomplishment. Nowadays, you don't see that much. I hope you have 42 more years. Boy, that WOULD be an accomplishment. I won't try to figure out how old THAT would make you. (hehe) Anniversary Well, DH and I have a milestone today...42 years of marriage!!! Can't believe it's been that long. He's always been behind me in all my endeavors. When I went back to school to become a Nurse Practitioner (had to live in Philly for 4 months) he took care of the kids, now with my soaping he is so supportive. I'm really lucky!! Hope we can make it to 50.JeanineJeanine's Hummingbird Soap Works Our Message Boardhttp://www.voy.com/21568/Check out these great Molds!!http://soapwerks.com/martinworld.htmMember Kae's Site... Awesome oil Prices!http://www.olivetreesoaps.com/All posts to this list are copyrighted by post author. They may NOT be forwarded, copied, or used in anyway without the permission of the post author with the exception of answering posts to this list. Posts are personal opinions only. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 I wish I was back in TN. That's where I'm from. In Florida now and i think the climate here makes me feel worse. let us know when you get your test results back. good luck pumpboz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 if you don't mind me asking where in TN.? i grew up in Chattanooga area lived in middle TN. b4 moving to Fla. pumpboz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2003 Report Share Posted January 17, 2003 Hey, I'm in Tennessee..... gin :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest guest Posted May 25, 2003 Report Share Posted May 25, 2003 Hi All: I just wanted to say hi and thank the Lord for mine and Jodi's second anniversary since the transplant. We went to Sea World, just the two of us and had a ball. The time has flown by. Jodi has an appointment to see her Hematologist soon but she is doing great. and Victor will have their first anniversary July 2. I haven't talked to lately but if your reading I hope your doing well. I'm not able to post very often between tee ball with Colton and church choir. Also my mother isn't doing well at all and there just isn't enough hours in the day. Maybe when I'm 70 and can retire I can get on the putter as much as I would like. LOL Hope all are having a great holiday weekend and a big thank you to all the service men and women out there. With much love, Genny/Jodi's Mom Living Donor Transplant 5-18-01 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2004 Report Share Posted January 4, 2004 Happy Anniversary!! What a statement to your faith in your child and his determination! I hope all parents can feel that level of faith in their child and continue to push forward despite the naysayers! Cheryl in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2004 Report Share Posted January 4, 2004 Jessie and , Of course congrats! You are trully an inspiration to me and and to many of us that are travelling the path now. Thanks for paving the way some for us and being so brave in a time when it wasnt accepted to do what you did! Love, and PS- when i saw that will be 39 soon I was thinking - WOW!!!!!!!!!! and how cool! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2005 Report Share Posted January 3, 2005 Sue, CONGRATULATIONS...! I know you are pleased. I need to show my ignorance here, what is PLL? I was was dx with CLL 3/2001, currently half way through with FCR3 treatments a MD in Houston. I especially like your tag line about the truth. Dave Tipton Texas --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2005 Report Share Posted January 3, 2005 , who is your doctor at MD, if I might ask? Also, is FCR3 just three rounds of Fludara, Cytoxan and Rituxan? My MDA doctor is Romaguera, and I have finished four treatments of six of FCR. I have SLL. Just interested in seeing what the different treatments are, and how different people respond. Thanks. Bettie Jane Grant Re: Anniversary Sue, CONGRATULATIONS...! I know you are pleased. I need to show my ignorance here, what is PLL? I was was dx with CLL 3/2001, currently half way through with FCR3 treatments a MD in Houston. I especially like your tag line about the truth. Dave Tipton Texas --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 3, 2005 Report Share Posted January 3, 2005 Hooray for you, Sue!!! Bettie Jane Grant, Tallahassee, FL Anniversary Today is the 5 year anniversary of the day I was told my dx had changed from CLL to PLL and I had 3 to 6 months to live. My last Bone Marrow in June said " No Evidence of Leukemia " . All of my blood work is well within normal ranges and I feel great except for a few aches and pains from getting old, and that's not a bad thing. ;-) This is no longer a death sentence folks. Sue Bunte Napa CA Sue Bunte The truth may not be what you want to hear but the truth is always the truth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2005 Report Share Posted January 4, 2005 PLL is Pro Lymphocytic Leukemia. Its a nasty aggressive second cousin to CLL that doesn't respond to standard treatments. I was able to get into the Campath clinical trial at Stanford, got complete response, my brother was a perfect match for transplant and I had my transplant June 9 2000. I'm planning a party in June after my 5 year Bone Marrow ;-) How's FCR3 treating you? Sue Tipton <dcdtip44@...> wrote: Sue, CONGRATULATIONS...! I know you are pleased. I need to show my ignorance here, what is PLL? I was was dx with CLL 3/2001, currently half way through with FCR3 treatments a MD in Houston. I especially like your tag line about the truth. Dave Tipton Texas --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2005 Report Share Posted January 5, 2005 Sue, Thanks for the info on PLL. I'm excited for your response to all your treatments! Congratulations...! FCR3 is going very well for me, I have three treatments left to complete in a six cycle protocol. So far I'm anticipating a good outcome. Dave Tipton Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2005 Report Share Posted January 7, 2005 It was a rough road for a while but absolutely worth every miserable minute. Sue Tipton <dcdtip44@...> wrote: Sue, Thanks for the info on PLL. I'm excited for your response to all your treatments! Congratulations...! FCR3 is going very well for me, I have three treatments left to complete in a six cycle protocol. So far I'm anticipating a good outcome. Dave Tipton Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 17, 2005 Report Share Posted November 17, 2005 , You are simply the best. Thank you so much for still being available to everyone when you are five years out. I understand how hard it is to make such a commitment to everyone when you are so far out. Thank you for all that will learn from you - from the bottom of my heart. Margaret 9/15/03 - In Statesville with Dr R 300/155 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 28, 2005 Report Share Posted November 28, 2005 Congrats . Isn't it a great life? Monroe CELOS-Corporate Office 704-682-0260 (cell) 704-871-0031 (office) npm@... www.clos.net Anniversary >I am 5 today!! I am glad I took the plunge and did what was > expected of me. I am one happy camper!! > > S > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2006 Report Share Posted March 25, 2006 Hi Akiba, It shouldn't bother you to have a drink for your Anniversary. I've had a drink once in awhile since I started LDN and it didn't bother me. I'm not a drinker so it's not very often. HAPPY 10TH ANNIVERSARY TO YOU & YOUR HONEY!!!!!!! Always A Friend, Crystal Akiba <akiba@...> wrote: I have a question for all you most knowledgeable people out there in LDN land...My 10th anniversary if coming up, and I will be using LDN by then, will I not be able to tip a glass with my honey? No bubbly with my hubbly? No treat with my sweet? Or is ok to have a drink with LDN....not go on a bender but will a small glass of celebration kill me? I'd really like to know *before* he goes out and blows a bill on a bottle! Peace and Blessings ~*~ Akiba ~*~ Pragmatic Visionary Thy Feet, My Feet Dance the Dance of Divinity My MS & TM WebSite www.crystalangel.org Messenger with Voice. PC-to-Phone calls for ridiculously low rates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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