I would like to clarify my water suggestion

[Guest guest]

Since several emails, both public and private, have now apparently

painted me as a water-toting maniac, I would like to clarify what I

meant.

Please don't think that I go around dumping buckets of water on my

children on a daily basis. I have, with my pediatrician's knowledge

and permission, spilled water on my son Tommy to distract him from

his vomit-inducing tantrums, as the throwing up was giving him other

problems and he refused to be distracted any other way. This includes

holding, TV, leaving him alone to his own devices for up to 25 min.,

and time out. Once startled, he could be calmed down and cuddled. I

have done the water thing twice. Since then, he still throws

tantrums (what kid doesn't!) but he usually lets me cuddle him after

about 10 min of screaming. My other son, Gavin, rarely throws

tantrums and can usually be counted on to calm himself down. Tommy

was at the point where if he couldn't open a drawer he would scream

until he vomited, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week. Now he will calm

down if I wipe his face with a cold cloth, something which made him

worse before.

I only suggested that Debbie use water because she said NOTHING ELSE

WORKED. I would never suggest it as a normal method of discipline.

I would, for example, never try this on my other son because cool

water scares him. Tommy likes water otherwise, so it is effective

for him.

I am sorry for the misunderstanding.

Jill Ramos

[Guest guest]

Jill,

I hadn't read the past post, only this one. But I had to laugh; I

don't mean to be nasty. I have myself said a thing that took people

of guard and I was looked at funny.

I once squired my nephew in the face with a water gun when he was out

of control.

I shocked him and I was able to get him to listen.

Some times you need to just get their attention.

Heidi

> Since several emails, both public and private, have now apparently

> painted me as a water-toting maniac, I would like to clarify what I

> meant.

> Please don't think that I go around dumping buckets of water on my

> children on a daily basis. I have, with my pediatrician's

knowledge

> and permission, spilled water on my son Tommy to distract him from

> his vomit-inducing tantrums, as the throwing up was giving him

other

> problems and he refused to be distracted any other way. This

includes

> holding, TV, leaving him alone to his own devices for up to 25

min.,

> and time out. Once startled, he could be calmed down and cuddled.

I

> have done the water thing twice. Since then, he still throws

> tantrums (what kid doesn't!) but he usually lets me cuddle him

after

> about 10 min of screaming. My other son, Gavin, rarely throws

> tantrums and can usually be counted on to calm himself down. Tommy

> was at the point where if he couldn't open a drawer he would scream

> until he vomited, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week. Now he will calm

> down if I wipe his face with a cold cloth, something which made him

> worse before.

> I only suggested that Debbie use water because she said NOTHING

ELSE

> WORKED. I would never suggest it as a normal method of

discipline.

> I would, for example, never try this on my other son because cool

> water scares him. Tommy likes water otherwise, so it is effective

> for him.

> I am sorry for the misunderstanding.

> Jill Ramos

[Guest guest]

Heidi,

Thank You.

Jill

> > Since several emails, both public and private, have now

apparently

> > painted me as a water-toting maniac, I would like to clarify what

I

> > meant.

> > Please don't think that I go around dumping buckets of water on

my

> > children on a daily basis. I have, with my pediatrician's

> knowledge

> > and permission, spilled water on my son Tommy to distract him

from

> > his vomit-inducing tantrums, as the throwing up was giving him

> other

> > problems and he refused to be distracted any other way. This

> includes

> > holding, TV, leaving him alone to his own devices for up to 25

> min.,

> > and time out. Once startled, he could be calmed down and

cuddled.

> I

> > have done the water thing twice. Since then, he still throws

> > tantrums (what kid doesn't!) but he usually lets me cuddle him

> after

> > about 10 min of screaming. My other son, Gavin, rarely throws

> > tantrums and can usually be counted on to calm himself down.

Tommy

> > was at the point where if he couldn't open a drawer he would

scream

> > until he vomited, sometimes 2 or 3 times a week. Now he will

calm

> > down if I wipe his face with a cold cloth, something which made

him

> > worse before.

> > I only suggested that Debbie use water because she said NOTHING

> ELSE

> > WORKED. I would never suggest it as a normal method of

> discipline.

> > I would, for example, never try this on my other son because cool

> > water scares him. Tommy likes water otherwise, so it is

effective

> > for him.

> > I am sorry for the misunderstanding.

> > Jill Ramos