Re: idea for Abby's tantrums

[Guest guest]

Hi Jill,

I think that sounds a bit harsh, not to mention cruel. Sorry but

that's just my opinion. There are reasons why children have tantrums.

Dumping a glass of water over a childs head is only teaching that

child a negative way to resolve problems. I have 5 children and all

of them at one time or another have had tantrums. The best thing that

has worked for me was to ignore it. When one of my kids had a tantrum

in a store, I'd leave the store. Most of the time once we got back to

the car he/she was calm enough to go back into the store.

Debbie,

Here are some links that might be able to help you out:

http://www.parentstages.com/content/tempertantrums.asp

http://kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/tantrums.html

http://www.drgreene.com/21_565.html

http://web.singnet.com.sg/~joannesm/ftemper.htm

Good luck and remember it's just a part of Abby being a kid!!

:-)

> Debbie, I just wanted to tell you that I find a cup of water dumped

> over the head is very effective, and you rarely have to do it more

> than once! Of course, I would schedule this at a time when you

don't

> acatually have to BE anywhere, then you can just threaten to do it

> when she acts up again.

> I discovered this one when I was 19 and babysitting my roommates

son,

> who threw tantrums as a work of art. I only had to do it once, and

> he disliked it so much that whenever I asked him if I needed to get

> the water he would immediately pipe down.

> Anyway, it's a thought...

> Jill Ramos

[Guest guest]

Thanks ! Abby is just a very normal 2.5 yr old child. I've

said a zillion times, the kid was cursed from day one with her dad's

& mom's genes. & I both have very few patience, as well as bad

tempers.

What works for Abby when she's having a tantrum (which are VERY few

any more, very few) is me to hold & cuddle her. She'll usually calm

down w/i a minute at most, tell us she's sorry and move on. She just

gets so worked up sometimes, that she needs to be reminded that she's

loved and that things are ok.

The things she's doing now are simply testing us, like the carseat.

She's not having tantrums, just being a a stinker, I know the

difference, trust me! hehe.

Debbie Abby's mom DOCgrad

MI

> > Debbie, I just wanted to tell you that I find a cup of water

dumped

> > over the head is very effective, and you rarely have to do it

more

> > than once! Of course, I would schedule this at a time when you

> don't

> > acatually have to BE anywhere, then you can just threaten to do

it

> > when she acts up again.

> > I discovered this one when I was 19 and babysitting my roommates

> son,

> > who threw tantrums as a work of art. I only had to do it once,

and

> > he disliked it so much that whenever I asked him if I needed to

get

> > the water he would immediately pipe down.

> > Anyway, it's a thought...

> > Jill Ramos