Re: School and accomodations

[Guest guest]

Hi :

What a great reminder to all of us that each of us is called to their

own path -- even twins! Your family's story is a great testimony to

the power of perseverance, and pursuing our own path. While I know

this must be a very difficult thing for you to watch one graduate and

the other need a bit more time, I bet you always knew that they were

different and would have different needs. I guess how the day will

really unfold will depend on how you, and both your twins (and other

family members??)handle it . If the girls are happy and proud for

each other, it will be easier for you to be, also. On a different

note, I want you to know what an inspiration 's accomplishment

is to me. My son is still suffering from severe ocd and it has kept

him from attending school regularly on and off for the last three

years -- even before we had a name for the problem. It sounds like

you have done a great job of helping your daughter to recognize her

needs and work within a sometimes uncaring system to have them met.

I am still working on that, and it is tough going. There is not a

day that goes by that I don't wonder if it is worth it or not. I

struggle greatly with wondering if I am best serving my son's needs

by pushing him in this way, or by showing him to meet his needs in a

different way -- like homeschooling or some private, special

program.

Happy Graduation Day -- and remember there is another one to come!

mm

>

> 's OCD manifestated it's ugly head in 8th grade and she was

> hospitalized in mid April. We tried to put her back to school but

she

> was to sick and she might have gone two week and rehospitalized.

> However, because she had good marks she passed grade 8. In grade 9

she

> was to go high school with her twin sister but was hospitalized most

> of the year. The following year she started grade 9. We started

slowly

> with her going for 3 subjects in the am. Second semester she went

for

> 4. It wasn't easy she was calling me two to three times a day and at

> first when she started I stayed at school in a room in the am in

case

> she needed me so she would feel secure. We had to drop to 3 subject

> because 4 was to much. She passed her 9th grade but did not take gym

> or art. Grade 10 we started with 4 subjects. She was allowed to get

> out of class when she did not feel great which she did a lot and

they

> had a bed and she often used it to sleep. She often missed some

> classes. We had made a deal with the counsellor that she was not to

> call me because she was calling me to often to go get her almost 1/2

> after she got to school. She is now in grade 11 things have

improved

> but school is still the hardest thing that is where she is most

> anxious. From October through December seem to be the worst months

for

> her. Her twin sister is graduating this year and it breaks my heart

I

> am going to be sitting at the ceremony being happy for one and at

the

> same time being so sad for the other sitting beside me knowing that

> she should also be graduating.

>