I'm new here...Important question

[Guest guest]

Hello everyone. My name is . I am new here and trying to figure

out how to find myself around. I joined this group from Myspace. The

reason I am posting is because I have a question and I am really

confused about how to understand my feelings about the issue.

Let me start by telling you a little about what is going on...

My sons Father (Joe) is 37 years old. Our son () is 12. We are

divorced but have stayed friends. We have known each other for 15

years. Long story short...

Joe was born with a bad valve in his heart. We knew he would have to

have it replaced one day. The doctors said before he was 40. Well,

about a month ago Joe called me and said he thought he had a cold. He

went to the doctor and was given some medication and sent home. Two

days later Joe called and said he could not breath and went to the

ER. The ER doctor said that he had a viral infection on the valve in

his heart along with his kidney and liver shutting down. He had to

have emergency open heart surgery to replace the valve. His kidney's

have gotten better but his liver is not. He was released from the

hospital and was doing as well as expected until three days ago. He

is now back in the hospital with heart failure once again. They said

his heart is shutting down and he needs a transplant. If he does not

get a heart by December he may not live any longer.

The are sending him to Little Rock Arkansas to await this new heart.

My problem is as follows... I do not want my sons father to die! He

needs his dad. But for Joe to get this new heart someone will have to

die for it to be available for him. Why? Why does it have to be that

way? Why would someone you love have to have someone else die just

for the hopes that you will live? I am very confused. I am confused

on how to explain this to my son when I don't really understand it

myself. I am a donor. I know that when I die I want someone else to

live with parts of me that I no longer need. But, the thought of me

thinking " will someone die soon enough for Joe to live " keeps running

in my thoughts. It is overwhelming.

Can anyone help me understand this? Has any of you been through this?

I would also like to ask for everyone to pray for him. For the

strength to carry on until God gives him his new heart. And prayers

for our son and my other children that he helped me raise. They love

him too and are hurting as well.

Thank you for listening.

Blessings to all!

[Guest guest]

Hello ,

Welcome to our group,I am so happy to have you here!

This is a very delicated and difficult situation. I am so glad you

decided to share with all of us here , what is going on with you, so we

can all support you and help you through this.You will see we have very

special friends here, we are united here to help and we are very proud

because WE DO hold each other's hands in bad days and we celebrate in

good days.

I will say to you what I think about all of this, just my two cents,of

course.

The main thing you mention is the fact that You want to understand why

somebody has to DIE, in order to Joe to have the chance to live. I may

seem odd, but I don't see things this way. For instance, when I die, I

want to make sure that somebody can have the chance to enjoy life maybe

using something that I no longer need. Our lives here are weaved

together, I truly believe we are one. And I believe that I am my

brother's keeper, in many levels.

This physical body is not ours, it is a Vehicle that we borrow while we

are living here, because we need it. The same way we need a body , we

need our Ego; but this is another story.

Sometimes we can get amazed in how our lives are connected and how we

can find identity and syncronicity in people and events in all our

lives. I believe in a Divine Cosmic mind, whatever name we wish to give

to it. I also believe that maybe, just maybe God had already everything

planned and somebody that thought just like you and me, decided long

time ago, that, when his Journey finish here on Earth, he would live on

with the satisfaction to donate what he no longer needs to someone like

Joe, so he could go on in life have a normal life and enjoy seen

to grow up to be the beautiful person he is destined to be. This is a

ultimate gift of life, my sister. I think you should not attach the

sense of emergency on Joe's situation to " somebody has to die " , but

again this is just my thought.

The other question here is the Virtue of Hope.Hope is a cardinal

virtue and it is said to be cardinal because to be CARDINAL means to

OPENS DOORS. Hope brings us to a place where we rely in elemets like

faith, fortitude, wisdom and courage to face situations and endure

them and get out on the other side of this tunnel victorious. Lets'

hope for the best, this is all we can do , let's select our thoughts and

unite our intentions and bring through Hope higer vibrations towards

Joe and you. God always has a plan, or we always have a plan... if you

believe in Karma.I am sure, dear sister, we are going to make through

this, and one day, in a near future, we are going to talk about this and

smile a lot...you will see. Everything will be ok, just have a little

faith.

May you be blessed , and know you are not alone,

I most certainly will include Joe, you and in my prayer chest.

Love and hugs

Liane (RAK)

>

> Hello everyone. My name is . I am new here and trying to figure

> out how to find myself around. I joined this group from Myspace. The

> reason I am posting is because I have a question and I am really

> confused about how to understand my feelings about the issue.

>

> Let me start by telling you a little about what is going on...

>

> My sons Father (Joe) is 37 years old. Our son () is 12. We are

> divorced but have stayed friends. We have known each other for 15

> years. Long story short...

>

> Joe was born with a bad valve in his heart. We knew he would have to

> have it replaced one day. The doctors said before he was 40. Well,

> about a month ago Joe called me and said he thought he had a cold. He

> went to the doctor and was given some medication and sent home. Two

> days later Joe called and said he could not breath and went to the

> ER. The ER doctor said that he had a viral infection on the valve in

> his heart along with his kidney and liver shutting down. He had to

> have emergency open heart surgery to replace the valve. His kidney's

> have gotten better but his liver is not. He was released from the

> hospital and was doing as well as expected until three days ago. He

> is now back in the hospital with heart failure once again. They said

> his heart is shutting down and he needs a transplant. If he does not

> get a heart by December he may not live any longer.

>

> The are sending him to Little Rock Arkansas to await this new heart.

>

> My problem is as follows... I do not want my sons father to die! He

> needs his dad. But for Joe to get this new heart someone will have to

> die for it to be available for him. Why? Why does it have to be that

> way? Why would someone you love have to have someone else die just

> for the hopes that you will live? I am very confused. I am confused

> on how to explain this to my son when I don't really understand it

> myself. I am a donor. I know that when I die I want someone else to

> live with parts of me that I no longer need. But, the thought of me

> thinking " will someone die soon enough for Joe to live " keeps running

> in my thoughts. It is overwhelming.

>

> Can anyone help me understand this? Has any of you been through this?

>

> I would also like to ask for everyone to pray for him. For the

> strength to carry on until God gives him his new heart. And prayers

> for our son and my other children that he helped me raise. They love

> him too and are hurting as well.

>

> Thank you for listening.

>

> Blessings to all!

>

>

>