A question of living and love...

[Guest guest]

Hello everyone. My name is . I am new here and trying to figure

out how to find myself around. I joined this group from Myspace. The

reason I am posting is because I have a question and I am really

confused. I do not know how to understand my feelings about the issue.

Let me start by telling you a little about what is going on...

My sons Father (Joe) is 37 years old. Our son () is 12. We are

divorced but have stayed friends. We have known each other for 15

years. Long story short...

Joe was born with a bad valve in his heart. We knew he would have to

have it replaced one day. The doctors said before he was 40. Well,

about a month ago Joe called me and said he thought he had a cold. He

went to the doctor and was given some medication and sent home. Two

days later Joe called and said he could not breath and went to the

ER. The ER doctor said that he had a viral infection on the valve in

his heart along with his kidney and liver shutting down. He had to

have emergency open heart surgery to replace the valve. His kidney's

have gotten better but his liver is not. He was released from the

hospital and was doing as well as expected until three days ago. He

is now back in the hospital with heart failure once again. They said

his heart is shutting down and he needs a transplant. If he does not

get a heart by December he may not live any longer.

The are sending him to Little Rock Arkansas to await this new heart.

My problem is as follows... I do not want my sons father to die! He

needs his dad. But for Joe to get this new heart someone will have to

die for it to be available for him. Why? Why does it have to be that

way? Why would someone you love have to have someone else die just

for the hopes that you will live? I am very confused. I am confused

on how to explain this to my son when I don't really understand it

myself. I am a donor. I know that when I die I want someone else to

live with parts of me that I do not need. But, the thought of me

thinking " will someone die soon enough for Joe to live " keeps running

in my thoughts. It is overwhelming.

Can anyone help me understand this? Has any of you been through this?

I would also like to ask for everyone to pray for him. For the

strength to carry on until God gives him his new heart. And prayers

for our son and my other children that he helped me raise. They love

him too and are hurting as well.

Thank you for listening.

Blessings to all!

ps. I tried to post this last week but to no prevail.

Joe is out of the hospitial now with new medications. Still no

change.

Another problem that I am having emotionally is that he remarried a

few years ago. They didn't stay married long. She is now remarried.

But she is a very horrible person. She will not allow his family to

take care of his finances or even talk to the Doctors about what is

going on with him. Joe actually signed her power of attorney because

she is giving him false hopes of them getting back together. She will

not let me see him. She wants his money. They (she and her family)

have already went through his savings. Now, they called me saying

that I have to give Joe custody of our son so that his insurance will

cover his bills. He doesn't even carry him on his insurance policy. I

do not see how this would make a difference in his insurance paying

his bills? I also found out that Joes Ex-wife (Becky) has filed for

disablilty adding our son to his record. I have FULL custody. She is

a vulture!!

I have very hateful feelings for this woman... I have prayed about

it. What God has said to me is;

I am not familar with names so please bare with me...

There is a story in the bible about two women that say that they are

the mother of the same child. The man says he will cut the child in

half and give the women equil parts of the child. The true mother

says NO, I will give my child up.

I feel like I have to give him up. So that he does not have the

stress of Becky and I fighting over our time with him. So he can

heal. Although she has not known Joe as long as I have nor do they

share a child together.

I do not like having feelings towards anyone like I do about Becky. I

need prayers!!!

God bless~

[Guest guest]

I would not give my child to a woman I believed was evil and vicious. Aren't you a better mother for your son? In the parable, the true mother was WILLING to give him up for his own good -- do you think this would be for his own good, really?

In the parable, the true mother WAS GIVEN HER SON BY KING SOLOMON! Think about these things.

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Subject: [] A question of living and love...

Hello everyone. My name is . I am new here and trying to figure out how to find myself around. I joined this group from Myspace. The reason I am posting is because I have a question and I am really confused. I do not know how to understand my feelings about the issue.Let me start by telling you a little about what is going on...My sons Father (Joe) is 37 years old. Our son () is 12. We are divorced but have stayed friends. We have known each other for 15 years. Long story short...Joe was born with a bad valve in his heart. We knew he would have to have it replaced one day. The doctors said before he was 40. Well, about a month ago Joe called me and said he thought he had a cold. He went to the doctor and was given some medication and sent home. Two days later Joe called and said he could not breath and went to the ER. The ER doctor said that he had a viral infection on the valve in his heart along with his kidney and liver shutting down. He had to have emergency open heart surgery to replace the valve. His kidney's have gotten better but his liver is not. He was released from the hospital and was doing as well as expected until three days ago. He is now back in the hospital with heart failure once again. They said his heart is shutting down and he needs a transplant. If he does not get a heart by December he may not live any longer.The are sending him to Little Rock Arkansas to await this new heart.My problem is as follows... I do not want my sons father to die! He needs his dad. But for Joe to get this new heart someone will have to die for it to be available for him. Why? Why does it have to be that way? Why would someone you love have to have someone else die just for the hopes that you will live? I am very confused. I am confused on how to explain this to my son when I don't really understand it myself. I am a donor. I know that when I die I want someone else to live with parts of me that I do not need. But, the thought of me thinking "will someone die soon enough for Joe to live" keeps running in my thoughts. It is overwhelming. Can anyone help me understand this? Has any of you been through this? I would also like to ask for everyone to pray for him. For the strength to carry on until God gives him his new heart. And prayers for our son and my other children that he helped me raise. They love him too and are hurting as well.Thank you for listening. Blessings to all!ps. I tried to post this last week but to no prevail. Joe is out of the hospitial now with new medications. Still no change. Another problem that I am having emotionally is that he remarried a few years ago. They didn't stay married long. She is now remarried. But she is a very horrible person. She will not allow his family to take care of his finances or even talk to the Doctors about what is going on with him. Joe actually signed her power of attorney because she is giving him false hopes of them getting back together. She will not let me see him. She wants his money. They (she and her family) have already went through his savings. Now, they called me saying that I have to give Joe custody of our son so that his insurance will cover his bills. He doesn't even carry him on his insurance policy. I do not see how this would make a difference in his insurance paying his bills? I also found out that Joes Ex-wife (Becky) has filed for disablilty adding our son to his record. I have FULL custody. She is a vulture!! I have very hateful feelings for this woman... I have prayed about it. What God has said to me is;I am not familar with names so please bare with me...There is a story in the bible about two women that say that they are the mother of the same child. The man says he will cut the child in half and give the women equil parts of the child. The true mother says NO, I will give my child up. I feel like I have to give him up. So that he does not have the stress of Becky and I fighting over our time with him. So he can heal. Although she has not known Joe as long as I have nor do they share a child together. I do not like having feelings towards anyone like I do about Becky. I need prayers!!!God bless~