Re: A question of living and love...and to clarify

[Guest guest]

I must clarify my story about King and why I posted that. I

am talking about Joe. I prayed about what to do when it comes to Joe

and the stress between Becky and I. I prayed hard and strong and the

story came to me about the two mothers. My conclusion was to let Joe

be. Let him heal. Let her do what ever she wants but for me to be the

mother that gives up her child(so to to speak) that he may not have

the stress and worry of her selfishness upon him. I took that as I

should step back and let things fall as they may instead of arguing

with her so that I may spend time with him before he passes. Or time

with him because I love him that much.

As far as giving Joe or Becky any kind of " custody " I have NO

intentions of doing that. I have sole custody and it will always be

like that. I do want to visit his father and spend time with

him but Joe is living with Becky and her family and I am not welcome

there. Where my son goes, I go. I have talked to Joes brother today

and he is going to take to visit his dad. I trust this and

will allow it.

Thank you for posting a reply!

>

> I would not give my child to a woman I believed was evil and

vicious. Aren't you a better mother for your son? In the parable, the

true mother was WILLING to give him up for his own good -- do you

think this would be for his own good, really?

> In the parable, the true mother WAS GIVEN HER SON BY KING SOLOMON!

Think about these things.

>

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> ----- Original Message -----

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> Sent: Friday, May 25, 2007 8:28 PM

> Subject: [] A question of living and love...

>

>

> Hello everyone. My name is . I am new here and trying to

figure

> out how to find myself around. I joined this group from Myspace.

The

> reason I am posting is because I have a question and I am really

> confused. I do not know how to understand my feelings about the

issue.

>

> Let me start by telling you a little about what is going on...

>

> My sons Father (Joe) is 37 years old. Our son () is 12. We

are

> divorced but have stayed friends. We have known each other for 15

> years. Long story short...

>

> Joe was born with a bad valve in his heart. We knew he would have

to

> have it replaced one day. The doctors said before he was 40.

Well,

> about a month ago Joe called me and said he thought he had a

cold. He

> went to the doctor and was given some medication and sent home.

Two

> days later Joe called and said he could not breath and went to

the

> ER. The ER doctor said that he had a viral infection on the valve

in

> his heart along with his kidney and liver shutting down. He had

to

> have emergency open heart surgery to replace the valve. His

kidney's

> have gotten better but his liver is not. He was released from the

> hospital and was doing as well as expected until three days ago.

He

> is now back in the hospital with heart failure once again. They

said

> his heart is shutting down and he needs a transplant. If he does

not

> get a heart by December he may not live any longer.

>

> The are sending him to Little Rock Arkansas to await this new

heart.

>

> My problem is as follows... I do not want my sons father to die!

He

> needs his dad. But for Joe to get this new heart someone will

have to

> die for it to be available for him. Why? Why does it have to be

that

> way? Why would someone you love have to have someone else die

just

> for the hopes that you will live? I am very confused. I am

confused

> on how to explain this to my son when I don't really understand

it

> myself. I am a donor. I know that when I die I want someone else

to

> live with parts of me that I do not need. But, the thought of me

> thinking " will someone die soon enough for Joe to live " keeps

running

> in my thoughts. It is overwhelming.

>

> Can anyone help me understand this? Has any of you been through

this?

>

> I would also like to ask for everyone to pray for him. For the

> strength to carry on until God gives him his new heart. And

prayers

> for our son and my other children that he helped me raise. They

love

> him too and are hurting as well.

>

> Thank you for listening.

>

> Blessings to all!

>

>

>

> ps. I tried to post this last week but to no prevail.

> Joe is out of the hospitial now with new medications. Still no

> change.

>

> Another problem that I am having emotionally is that he remarried

a

> few years ago. They didn't stay married long. She is now

remarried.

> But she is a very horrible person. She will not allow his family

to

> take care of his finances or even talk to the Doctors about what

is

> going on with him. Joe actually signed her power of attorney

because

> she is giving him false hopes of them getting back together. She

will

> not let me see him. She wants his money. They (she and her

family)

> have already went through his savings. Now, they called me saying

> that I have to give Joe custody of our son so that his insurance

will

> cover his bills. He doesn't even carry him on his insurance

policy. I

> do not see how this would make a difference in his insurance

paying

> his bills? I also found out that Joes Ex-wife (Becky) has filed

for

> disablilty adding our son to his record. I have FULL custody. She

is

> a vulture!!

>

> I have very hateful feelings for this woman... I have prayed

about

> it. What God has said to me is;

>

> I am not familar with names so please bare with me...

>

> There is a story in the bible about two women that say that they

are

> the mother of the same child. The man says he will cut the child

in

> half and give the women equil parts of the child. The true mother

> says NO, I will give my child up.

>

> I feel like I have to give him up. So that he does not have the

> stress of Becky and I fighting over our time with him. So he can

> heal. Although she has not known Joe as long as I have nor do

they

> share a child together.

>

> I do not like having feelings towards anyone like I do about

Becky. I

> need prayers!!!

>

> God bless~

>

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