Guest guest Posted November 5, 2008 Report Share Posted November 5, 2008 Hi there. Yes, a support group for the spouses who have partner's with Stills is a great idea. There is a very high casualty rate for relationships when one partner is not well and in chronic pain. The partner who doesn't have the physical pain is suffering as well and often feels guilty about even admitting it. A support group so these dear souls can also vent and get inside understanding, information and support woudl be great! They too get very angry and frustrated as they can't seem to do anything to help. Life has dealt them a blow as well. Ultimately I think it would greatly benefit the members who are suffering with Stills because if their partners start to understand them better...they will respond differently...which will help take the stress down a notch or two...which would help all the way around...etc etc. How about it? Are there a few spouses out there who think they might benefit from such a side group?? Would members be willing to ask their partners if they think there would be some value in it??? Just a thought...thanks!!! Re: SPOUSES (a hair OT) Thans Ali! I will pass this on after I repost the original question as I did not get the expected # of replies that I had hoped for. I do appreciate you & your husband for this though. Kirk. > > OK - Now I have it straight. There are never any support groups for the > spouses, which is one of the reasons for such a high causality rate in > regards to marriages that have one spouse with a chronic illness. > > Anyway, I just asked my husband if he'd be willing and if no one in her > family opposes talking/emailing to a husband, he is willing to email her > and > have a little spouse email group with them (the mother and daughter in law) > and if there are a couple others that want this it might be good too, but > he'd rather keep it smaller than bigger also... > > Talk to them and find out. They may prefer a woman, I don't know. My > husband does have a degree in psychology, but he wouldn't want this to be > anything other than sharing what he went through. If they would prefer > discussing this with another wife instead of a husband, he would totally > understand, he is just offering help if wanted. > > > > On Tue, Nov 4, 2008 at 1:32 AM, Kirk Bonanny <kbonanny@...<kbonanny%40gmail.com>> > wrote: > > > No...the mother is looking for a spouse without Stills for her > > Daughter-in-Law, sorry for the confusion......I'm not thinking very > > straight > > as I broke down & slapped on a patch in a vain attempt to lighten the > > headache load, per say.....even though they haven't been very effective > in > > the past. > > So here it is again, I was speaking to a woman shose son has Stills. She > > is looking for spouses of those that have Stills for her Daughter-In-Law, > > and they're both a bit overwhelmed by the size of the group. The son is > > fighting with himself (I think we all did this to some degree or another) > > and won't even talk about it or admit he has it. > > They are from Canada and (who I've been talking to) seems very > > nice, and would like the help for herself, her daughter-in-law and > > hopefully/eventually her son once he gets past the denial stage. > > Thanks again, Kirk. > > > > > > On 04/11/2008, alli m <allisonssong@... <allisonssong%40gmail.com><allisonssong% > 40gmail.com>> > > wrote: > > > > > > Kirk, > > > I'm trying to understand this. You are asking for a spouse that doesn't > > > have stills to help reach out to this Mom (of a son that has stills)? > is > > > that correct.... > > > > > > > > > > > > On Tue, Nov 4, 2008 at 12:43 AM, Kirk Bonanny <kbonanny@...<kbonanny%40gmail.com> > <kbonanny%40gmail.com> > > <kbonanny%40gmail.com>> > > > wrote: > > > > > > > I have been in touch with someone whose son has just been diagnosed > > > > with > > > > Stills, though he won't admit it yet whose wife is looking for other > > > > spouses > > > > who don't have Stills themselves that she can talk to. Who can help > me > > > out? > > > > I've been talking to his mom, and she seems like a good person but > > seems > > > > overwhelmed at the sheer volume and diversity of messages from the > > group. > > > I > > > > told her I'd try to find out myself for her. > > > > Thanks in advance, Kirk. > > > > > > > > -- > > > > Everything in life sucks except things that should! > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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