Re: Re: /I pose a question............

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, I didn't respond right away because everyone seemed to understand what I was saying without me being clearer. I personally get very little support from my family for my illness. Most just don't want to hear about it at all and only want to hear the good and when I'm returning to work.

I don't understand people like this. who can't take the good with the bad. I know I'd be the kind of person to stick with someone through the thick and thin.

I have to act well and have a lot of pressure not to discuss my health problems. People are just tired of hearing about it. Though those who are closest to me, at least have a more sympathetic way, more reasonable expectations and some tolerance for discussing health issues as long as I keep things mild (not too heavy) and never, ever say a diagnosis unless its medically documented. My real father is probably my worst supporter and his wife. My two girls are probably my greatest supporters. I have no husband. My one daughter and her boyfriend are more supportive than my other daughter but both daughters truely show the greatest endurance of anyone and reasonable goals for me. Basically that means my future prognosis for working PT in a low stress job. They would be happy if I could do that rather than expect me to persue my area of speciality that I've been trained for, which is special education. I cannot jump into being a

special education teacher, the stress level is not practical. Working in an office 1 day a week sounds a lot more feasible though I wish I could go full steam. I want to be realistic. I am hopeful to work again, but I'm not sure I'm even stabilized yet. I still have fears about my health, and am really waiting to get MRI of breast and lymph to see if most of silicone is out. So far ins. co. has denied my request but I fought it. I need a higher frequency magnet that will eventually come to Pgh, Jan. 2005 and I may have to wait for that.

I think we need to do our part and not malinger. We need to be proactive with our health. When people see us trying hard they are more willing to support us. And when they see improvements and we can tell them of improvements that makes talking about conditions more bearable. Hugs, K.mikat828 <mikat828@...> wrote:

So true! To be there for someone in the long run shows alot of heart and perserverance. The people who don't run from adverse situations and can be counted on no matter what are few in supply and high in demand!hugs, kathy> > > > Think of the 10 women you admire the most. Now, what is it about> > >them> > > > that you admire? It's likely their heart, soul, brain, spirit > for> > > > life, etc. You may not even have noticed what size their boobs > are.> > > > It is their INNER self that wins you over, not their exterior. > I'm> > > >

pointing this out as fodder for my own mind, not just yours. Oh,> > >that> > > > men and our society in general could be redirected towards what> > > > really matters! I pray that we all become more entangled with> > > > improving our inner selves, making ourselves more beautiful from> > >the> > > > inside out.........THAT will make the world a better place, not> > > > bigger boobs. Want to leave a lasting legacy? It will come from > the> > > > inside, not the outside. Big boobs will sag, small boobs may> > >shrivel,> > > > but hearts can stay as big as all outdoors til they throw the > dirt> > > > over us! Love, Annie> > > >> > > > > >