Re: Info or suggestions please

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Dear Sandria

My heart goes out to you.

I had a similar problem with my own daughter last year and she was in

grade 5. So I can understand the worry and frustration you must be

feeling.

Talk to the teacher first and find out first hand what she has to

say. If you're not satisfied, see the principal and INSIST that

things change. It's not easy to do, especially if you're a non-

confrontational person like me, but your child has an absolute right

to receive an education and help in being able to negotiate the

world. She's still really young, and now is the time for early

intervention.

The principal will be able to tell you if there are consultants

available who can come in and give assistance to the teacher and

aides.

If you're still not satisfied, even the principal has bosses. If you

start raising the issue farther and farther up the ladder, and you

can do it in a firm, but polite way, you will get some results. I

hope that there are alternative schools where you can place your

daughter if things don't work out.

Do you have a local autism society? You can visit them and get some

resources on teaching your child at home. I have also gotten some

fantastic resources just from my local library.

My daughter is 11 now, she's had several years of ABA, aides in

school and still, I work with her at home. She's doing well, but it

has been a tremendous effort by a lot of people to get her to where

she's at right now.

I wish you and your child all the best!

Leanne

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> Hello everyone I am Sandria I am not sure I ever posted an intro or

> not. I have a 4 yr old Autistic daughter. I have received some very

> distressing news from her TSS worker about her school but the most

> distressing this is the fact that they allow her when she becomes

> upset to go into a cubby and bang her head. I have sent a blanket

and

> pillow from home to comfort her at these times now that I know she

is

> doing this because when she is upset here she goes to cuddle with

> them. My distress is that she has been doing this for how long I

don't

> know? My heart is breaking for her and that they did not even call

me

> to ask if I could give ideas to calm her. Her TSS worker also tells

me

> that the class workers (teacher and aids) don't do a thing for the

> children they are allowed to run around stimming for the time they

are

> there. How can we the parents teach our children ways to self

> stimulate if they are being allowed to be at there on devices at

> school? I am wishing to find classes or some such thing to learn to

> teach my own daughter so as to not harm her in allowing her go into

> the world being helped by ignorant people that are only looking for

a

> pay check and not the welfare of our children. How can my child

live a

> full life to the best of her ability if I don't do the best that I

can

> for her. How can people allow her to harm herself and run amuck when

> it is there job to teach them proper life skills. Sandria

>