Re: Only child and it breaks my heart

[Guest guest]

My Dear Karmen, Mine will be five October !st and she is my one and only

 

for the last 2 years she has been asking me for a brother or a sister (I am 44

years old) so this old mom aint having more but it breaks my heart

 

she runs to any baby in a stroller holds the little hand in hers and always the

same comment: " Mommy, Mommy its is a baby, I want a baby " people around think

its funny but it breaks my heart knowing how badly she wants a sibling

Subject: Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an

only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do

to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

I totally feel for you, there. My daughter is 6 and I am 44 also. I won't be

having anymore, and although it doesn't seem to phase my daughter, it saddens me

a bit.

That being said, I'm SO glad I have my daughter.

Your daughter sounds quite verbal. What activities, if any, do you have her

involved in?

Karmen

Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is

an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you

do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

I totally feel for you, there. My daughter is 6 and I am 44 also. I won't be

having anymore, and although it doesn't seem to phase my daughter, it saddens me

a bit.

That being said, I'm SO glad I have my daughter.

Your daughter sounds quite verbal. What activities, if any, do you have her

involved in?

Karmen

Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is

an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you

do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

I totally feel for you, there. My daughter is 6 and I am 44 also. I won't be

having anymore, and although it doesn't seem to phase my daughter, it saddens me

a bit.

That being said, I'm SO glad I have my daughter.

Your daughter sounds quite verbal. What activities, if any, do you have her

involved in?

Karmen

Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is

an only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you

do to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

Nuha

 

Have you considered a cat or dog for your daughter. My daughter Amy has just

turned 4 and is far from being the only child she has 7 older brothers and

sisters and a younger sister. But her cat Elmo is " her " friend and partner in

everything. He even sits under her chair when we eat. Sleeps when she does etc.

Her speech has even improved with her talking to the cat. We have owned Elmo

since he was a newborn his mother was my cat so the earlier they can be

introduced the stronger the bond.

 

From: kcboone <kcboonecomcast (DOT) net>

Subject: Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an

only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do

to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

Nuha

 

Have you considered a cat or dog for your daughter. My daughter Amy has just

turned 4 and is far from being the only child she has 7 older brothers and

sisters and a younger sister. But her cat Elmo is " her " friend and partner in

everything. He even sits under her chair when we eat. Sleeps when she does etc.

Her speech has even improved with her talking to the cat. We have owned Elmo

since he was a newborn his mother was my cat so the earlier they can be

introduced the stronger the bond.

 

From: kcboone <kcboonecomcast (DOT) net>

Subject: Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an

only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do

to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

Nuha

 

Have you considered a cat or dog for your daughter. My daughter Amy has just

turned 4 and is far from being the only child she has 7 older brothers and

sisters and a younger sister. But her cat Elmo is " her " friend and partner in

everything. He even sits under her chair when we eat. Sleeps when she does etc.

Her speech has even improved with her talking to the cat. We have owned Elmo

since he was a newborn his mother was my cat so the earlier they can be

introduced the stronger the bond.

 

From: kcboone <kcboonecomcast (DOT) net>

Subject: Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an

only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do

to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

It's certainly your choice, but my cousin had a baby in her early

40's. I don't blame you, thought, I'm 37 and feel more like 87. Have

you ever thought of adoption? I can see pros and cons to only children

vs siblings, so I'm sure it's not a snap decision either way.

Debi

[Guest guest]

It's certainly your choice, but my cousin had a baby in her early

40's. I don't blame you, thought, I'm 37 and feel more like 87. Have

you ever thought of adoption? I can see pros and cons to only children

vs siblings, so I'm sure it's not a snap decision either way.

Debi

[Guest guest]

It's certainly your choice, but my cousin had a baby in her early

40's. I don't blame you, thought, I'm 37 and feel more like 87. Have

you ever thought of adoption? I can see pros and cons to only children

vs siblings, so I'm sure it's not a snap decision either way.

Debi

[Guest guest]

I have to agree on pets. My 6 year old daughter has made such wonderful

progress since introducing her to animals. Animals can sence that " our "

children are special and they create wonderful bonds.

Becky

West wrote:

Nuha

Have you considered a cat or dog for your daughter. My daughter Amy has just

turned 4 and is far from being the only child she has 7 older brothers and

sisters and a younger sister. But her cat Elmo is " her " friend and partner in

everything. He even sits under her chair when we eat. Sleeps when she does etc.

Her speech has even improved with her talking to the cat. We have owned Elmo

since he was a newborn his mother was my cat so the earlier they can be

introduced the stronger the bond.

From: kcboone <kcboonecomcast (DOT) net>

Subject: Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an

only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do

to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

I have to agree on pets. My 6 year old daughter has made such wonderful

progress since introducing her to animals. Animals can sence that " our "

children are special and they create wonderful bonds.

Becky

West wrote:

Nuha

Have you considered a cat or dog for your daughter. My daughter Amy has just

turned 4 and is far from being the only child she has 7 older brothers and

sisters and a younger sister. But her cat Elmo is " her " friend and partner in

everything. He even sits under her chair when we eat. Sleeps when she does etc.

Her speech has even improved with her talking to the cat. We have owned Elmo

since he was a newborn his mother was my cat so the earlier they can be

introduced the stronger the bond.

From: kcboone <kcboonecomcast (DOT) net>

Subject: Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an

only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do

to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

My reason for not having more children is that my husband is VERY uninvolved. I

single parent my daughter. My husband is bi-polar and Asperger's. He expends

all his 'normalcy' energy at work and once he's home, much of the time he

doesn't speak to me and oftentimes our daughter either. He's never put my

daughter in a car seat and taken her anywhere EVER. She is with me all the time

when not in school. Parenting 2 children single-handedly is not something I am

mentally, emotionally or physically able to do, so I'm thankful for my daughter.

Karmen

Re: Only child and it breaks my heart

It's certainly your choice, but my cousin had a baby in her early

40's. I don't blame you, thought, I'm 37 and feel more like 87. Have

you ever thought of adoption? I can see pros and cons to only children

vs siblings, so I'm sure it's not a snap decision either way.

Debi

[Guest guest]

My reason for not having more children is that my husband is VERY uninvolved. I

single parent my daughter. My husband is bi-polar and Asperger's. He expends

all his 'normalcy' energy at work and once he's home, much of the time he

doesn't speak to me and oftentimes our daughter either. He's never put my

daughter in a car seat and taken her anywhere EVER. She is with me all the time

when not in school. Parenting 2 children single-handedly is not something I am

mentally, emotionally or physically able to do, so I'm thankful for my daughter.

Karmen

Re: Only child and it breaks my heart

It's certainly your choice, but my cousin had a baby in her early

40's. I don't blame you, thought, I'm 37 and feel more like 87. Have

you ever thought of adoption? I can see pros and cons to only children

vs siblings, so I'm sure it's not a snap decision either way.

Debi

[Guest guest]

My reason for not having more children is that my husband is VERY uninvolved. I

single parent my daughter. My husband is bi-polar and Asperger's. He expends

all his 'normalcy' energy at work and once he's home, much of the time he

doesn't speak to me and oftentimes our daughter either. He's never put my

daughter in a car seat and taken her anywhere EVER. She is with me all the time

when not in school. Parenting 2 children single-handedly is not something I am

mentally, emotionally or physically able to do, so I'm thankful for my daughter.

Karmen

Re: Only child and it breaks my heart

It's certainly your choice, but my cousin had a baby in her early

40's. I don't blame you, thought, I'm 37 and feel more like 87. Have

you ever thought of adoption? I can see pros and cons to only children

vs siblings, so I'm sure it's not a snap decision either way.

Debi

[Guest guest]

Hey, no need to explain here. God bless you for your staying strong.

Debi

[Guest guest]

Hey, no need to explain here. God bless you for your staying strong.

Debi

[Guest guest]

Hey, no need to explain here. God bless you for your staying strong.

Debi

[Guest guest]

i just got her a cat 2 weeks ago. I really was pushing for a dog but she wanted

a cat

 

that cat is so tolerant of her and allows her to do whatever she pleases... she

tries to dance with him and talks to him all the time and when she hears him

meow she just melts and starts saying " he is crying, Ohhhh he is crying " in a

very empathetic way

 

my holistic doctor is not thrilled by having him in the house, but i don't think

she (my dd) is letting this one go

From: kcboone <kcboonecomcast (DOT) net>

Subject: Only child

To: Autism_in_Girls@ yahoogroups. com

Date: Sunday, September 7, 2008, 8:36 PM

This is somewhat like a poll, but how many of us here have a daughter that is an

only child? If your daughter's an only child, how old is she and what do you do

to encourage social interaction either outside of the home or inside?

Karmen

[Guest guest]

It's amazing what a cat will let a child with autism do and the cat

still hopelessly love the child! I can never get the cats to cuddle

with me, those blamed things are forever loving on Allie. I don't get

it, I'm nice and feed them, she roughhouses them. They keep going back

for more.

Debi

[Guest guest]

Debi,

We are working on this now with my daughter (she's 5)

We got a golden retriever puppy a little more than a month ago, who is now 5

mo. old and MAN is she rough with him! I mean, that is why we got him as a

puppy still, so that he could learn to tolerate her rough housing and not

get defensive and bite etc. But of course being a puppy still he wants to

play too and you know how puppies play!

She has sensory issues and doesn't feel things as much as others do and

definately seeks out sensory stimulation, so the grabing of her arm with

his teeth doesn't bother her in the least, and she finds it very fun as does

he... But his little puppy teeth are still so sharp that they scratch up her

arms! She doesn't care, but gosh it looks like she's been thrown through

a thorny tree or something, or put in a pillow case with an angry cat!

LOL... none that break the skin or anything, just makes red scratches.

We are constantly reminding her to either be nice to the dog or just leave

him alone.

She takes his toys and runs but then doesn't want to throw them so that he

can go get them and bring them back. She will grab his skin and pull him

down to the ground, she will grab his 'lips' and pull him around and even

sit on him.

We just haven't been able to make it clear that is not the appropriate way

to play with him.

We model LOTS of appropriate play and show her how to do appropriate play,

but just as soon as your back is turned or a few minutes later when she

grows bored with what she's doing she will go back to the rough play with

him.

We intend to take him to training classes soon, but according to the vet we

have to wait till he has had all his puppy shots and since we got him late

and the person we got him from didn't take him for shots we still have

another 6 weeks before he can be enrolled in any training classes or go to

parks etc.

She is the same way with our cats... but they just get up and leave as soon

as they can! Her favorite thing to do to the cat is take his tail and try to

bend it in half! OUCH!!!

Any recommendations on other approaches to having her learn the right vs.

wrong way to play with him? Any suggestions are welcome.

Theresa

>

> It's amazing what a cat will let a child with autism do and the cat

> still hopelessly love the child! I can never get the cats to cuddle

> with me, those blamed things are forever loving on Allie. I don't get

> it, I'm nice and feed them, she roughhouses them. They keep going back

> for more.

>

> Debi

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Debi,

We are working on this now with my daughter (she's 5)

We got a golden retriever puppy a little more than a month ago, who is now 5

mo. old and MAN is she rough with him! I mean, that is why we got him as a

puppy still, so that he could learn to tolerate her rough housing and not

get defensive and bite etc. But of course being a puppy still he wants to

play too and you know how puppies play!

She has sensory issues and doesn't feel things as much as others do and

definately seeks out sensory stimulation, so the grabing of her arm with

his teeth doesn't bother her in the least, and she finds it very fun as does

he... But his little puppy teeth are still so sharp that they scratch up her

arms! She doesn't care, but gosh it looks like she's been thrown through

a thorny tree or something, or put in a pillow case with an angry cat!

LOL... none that break the skin or anything, just makes red scratches.

We are constantly reminding her to either be nice to the dog or just leave

him alone.

She takes his toys and runs but then doesn't want to throw them so that he

can go get them and bring them back. She will grab his skin and pull him

down to the ground, she will grab his 'lips' and pull him around and even

sit on him.

We just haven't been able to make it clear that is not the appropriate way

to play with him.

We model LOTS of appropriate play and show her how to do appropriate play,

but just as soon as your back is turned or a few minutes later when she

grows bored with what she's doing she will go back to the rough play with

him.

We intend to take him to training classes soon, but according to the vet we

have to wait till he has had all his puppy shots and since we got him late

and the person we got him from didn't take him for shots we still have

another 6 weeks before he can be enrolled in any training classes or go to

parks etc.

She is the same way with our cats... but they just get up and leave as soon

as they can! Her favorite thing to do to the cat is take his tail and try to

bend it in half! OUCH!!!

Any recommendations on other approaches to having her learn the right vs.

wrong way to play with him? Any suggestions are welcome.

Theresa

>

> It's amazing what a cat will let a child with autism do and the cat

> still hopelessly love the child! I can never get the cats to cuddle

> with me, those blamed things are forever loving on Allie. I don't get

> it, I'm nice and feed them, she roughhouses them. They keep going back

> for more.

>

> Debi

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I wish I knew! Allie either ignores our golden or wants " roughhouse

time " which usually includes her laying on Lolly and putting her arms

in Lolly's mouth for her to chew on. Lolly is sweet enough not to do

so too hard.

have you thought of Petsmart? They let me take Lolly without her

second round of shots, they said as long as we had the next date

scheduled and brought it in it would be okay, at least I think that's

what they said. It's been a couple of years ago.

Debi

> Any recommendations on other approaches to having her learn the

right vs.

> wrong way to play with him? Any suggestions are welcome.

>

> Theresa

>

>

[Guest guest]

I wish I knew! Allie either ignores our golden or wants " roughhouse

time " which usually includes her laying on Lolly and putting her arms

in Lolly's mouth for her to chew on. Lolly is sweet enough not to do

so too hard.

have you thought of Petsmart? They let me take Lolly without her

second round of shots, they said as long as we had the next date

scheduled and brought it in it would be okay, at least I think that's

what they said. It's been a couple of years ago.

Debi

> Any recommendations on other approaches to having her learn the

right vs.

> wrong way to play with him? Any suggestions are welcome.

>

> Theresa

>

>

[Guest guest]

I wish I knew! Allie either ignores our golden or wants " roughhouse

time " which usually includes her laying on Lolly and putting her arms

in Lolly's mouth for her to chew on. Lolly is sweet enough not to do

so too hard.

have you thought of Petsmart? They let me take Lolly without her

second round of shots, they said as long as we had the next date

scheduled and brought it in it would be okay, at least I think that's

what they said. It's been a couple of years ago.

Debi

> Any recommendations on other approaches to having her learn the

right vs.

> wrong way to play with him? Any suggestions are welcome.

>

> Theresa

>

>