Re: Ten Ways To Bring Spirit To Your Relationships

[Guest guest]

What a beautiful reminder! Thank you for sharing this . Much love,Stefanie>> Ten Ways To Bring Spirit To Your Relationships > > Whether you want to deepen your marriage, attract a mate, or just get > along better with your boss, it always helps when you bring Spirit > into your relationships. Many times we get caught up in "taking care > of business" in relationships and we go through the motions, > forgetting all about Spirit. > > When you bring Spirit to your relationships, you are drawing from a > power that is infinite. How can we do that more? Here are some > starters: > > > 1. Listen > > Really listen. Don't try to "do active listening," or any other > listening technique. When you're concentrating on a technique, you're > not listening. Just take in what the other person has to say. Receive > the meaning of the message, without immediately jumping to respond to > the message. Listening helps you connect with people. Spirit loves to > show up when people are connecting. > > 2. Practice Non-judgment > > You never know how something might serve the ultimate good in the > long run. It is not up to us to decide that the other person is right > or wrong, good or bad. This does not mean you cannot assess things in > your relationships. You can assess whether someone is being sincere, > honest, trustworthy and so on. We just don't have to assign a value > judgment to that, by saying it is good or bad. It just IS. And what > you make of it - is up to you. > > 3. Seek to Understand the Other > > Don't worry about being misunderstood. When you drop your concern > about that, and get curious about understanding the other person, two > things happen. First, you stop stressing yourself about what others > think of you. Second, you show the other person that they are > important to you. When the other person sees that they are genuinely > important to you, they will generally return the feeling. Not to > mention, being able to understand another person just feels good, and > feeling good always brings Spirit to relationships. > > 4. Be Honest > > If someone likes you for something that you're not, then it's not you > that they like. Be who you are. Most people will respect you for your > honesty, even if they don't agree with you. But don't go along with > others just to please them, if it doesn't please you too. People will > sense your discomfort and yet may not know why, which will create > tension in the relationship where it's not necessary. Be true to > yourself by speaking up and telling the truth about who you are and > what you desire. I always say, "If you're not being true to yourself, > you're not being true to anyone else." > > 5. Eat Together > > You've got to break bread together. And it can't be just a hamburger > in the car on the way to a show. There is no substitute for sitting > down and sharing a meal with a person. Animals will not eat when they > are threatened. When you eat with someone, you are showing them that > you trust them. And when two people are trusting each other, THERE is > Spirit. > > 6. Stop Analyzing the Relationship > > Stop analyzing, stop worrying about the future of your relationship > and just BE in the relationship. Enjoy the relationship here and now. > The here and now - is your bridge to the future. If you are spending > your todays worried about your tomorrows, you're not here, in today, > doing what it takes to build something that can endure. > > 7. Say Thank You > > The more you are thankful, the more you will have to be thankful for. > And of course, people usually like being thanked. Saying thank you is > like returning what's been given to you, with interest, except it > doesn't cost you anything. Most of the time, thanking someone will > make you feel just as good as the other person feels hearing it, > sometimes even better. > > 8. Look to See What You Can Learn > > When we are open to learning, we are expanding. When we are > expanding, we are growing. When we are growing, that's the work of > Spirit. There is always something more for us to learn. When we stop > learning, we stop growing, and when we're not growing, we're dying. > Learn, and live! > > 9. Be Selfish > > I'm talking Selfish, NOT selfish. Self with a big "S," not a small > one. What you are doing in the relationship needs to be more > important to you than what the other person is doing in the > relationship, if you want Spirit to show up. You can't control the > other person. You can't always know what another person's intentions > are. But you can control yourself, and you can know your own > intentions. When you concentrate on your own desires, intentions and > actions, rather than those of the other person, you are taking > responsibility for your part in the relationship. No one else can do > that for you. > > 10. Know that You Are Beautiful > > The spirit inside of you came from The Divine Light. If you are > alive, you have light inside of you, and that light is beautiful. > When you see the beauty in yourself, it's easier to see it in others. > Enjoy the beauty that is in you. Admire it. Let it make you smile, > the way the beauty of a child or a sunset makes you smile. Your sense > of beauty will become contagious. > > Remember that the purpose of relationships is spiritual growth. Every > interaction is one more opportunity to become more of who you truly > are. > > Spirit is the breath of life in relationships. Without it, we fall > short of connecting with others. Bring more of Spirit to your > relationships and watch how much easier it is to get along, and to > find fulfillment in all your interactions. > > ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ > You have permission to reprint what you just read.> > > http://intentionalone.com/yabb/YaBB.pl>

[Guest guest]

Beautiful.. Thanks for your time and spirit. Transcend with love and

light, Deb

>

> Ten Ways To Bring Spirit To Your Relationships

>

> Whether you want to deepen your marriage, attract a mate, or just

get

> along better with your boss, it always helps when you bring Spirit

> into your relationships. Many times we get caught up in " taking

care

> of business " in relationships and we go through the motions,

> forgetting all about Spirit.

>

> When you bring Spirit to your relationships, you are drawing from a

> power that is infinite. How can we do that more? Here are some

> starters:

>

>

> 1. Listen

>

> Really listen. Don't try to " do active listening, " or any other

> listening technique. When you're concentrating on a technique,

you're

> not listening. Just take in what the other person has to say.

Receive

> the meaning of the message, without immediately jumping to respond

to

> the message. Listening helps you connect with people. Spirit loves

to

> show up when people are connecting.

>

> 2. Practice Non-judgment

>

> You never know how something might serve the ultimate good in the

> long run. It is not up to us to decide that the other person is

right

> or wrong, good or bad. This does not mean you cannot assess things

in

> your relationships. You can assess whether someone is being

sincere,

> honest, trustworthy and so on. We just don't have to assign a value

> judgment to that, by saying it is good or bad. It just IS. And what

> you make of it - is up to you.

>

> 3. Seek to Understand the Other

>

> Don't worry about being misunderstood. When you drop your concern

> about that, and get curious about understanding the other person,

two

> things happen. First, you stop stressing yourself about what others

> think of you. Second, you show the other person that they are

> important to you. When the other person sees that they are

genuinely

> important to you, they will generally return the feeling. Not to

> mention, being able to understand another person just feels good,

and

> feeling good always brings Spirit to relationships.

>

> 4. Be Honest

>

> If someone likes you for something that you're not, then it's not

you

> that they like. Be who you are. Most people will respect you for

your

> honesty, even if they don't agree with you. But don't go along with

> others just to please them, if it doesn't please you too. People

will

> sense your discomfort and yet may not know why, which will create

> tension in the relationship where it's not necessary. Be true to

> yourself by speaking up and telling the truth about who you are and

> what you desire. I always say, " If you're not being true to

yourself,

> you're not being true to anyone else. "

>

> 5. Eat Together

>

> You've got to break bread together. And it can't be just a

hamburger

> in the car on the way to a show. There is no substitute for sitting

> down and sharing a meal with a person. Animals will not eat when

they

> are threatened. When you eat with someone, you are showing them

that

> you trust them. And when two people are trusting each other, THERE

is

> Spirit.

>

> 6. Stop Analyzing the Relationship

>

> Stop analyzing, stop worrying about the future of your relationship

> and just BE in the relationship. Enjoy the relationship here and

now.

> The here and now - is your bridge to the future. If you are

spending

> your todays worried about your tomorrows, you're not here, in

today,

> doing what it takes to build something that can endure.

>

> 7. Say Thank You

>

> The more you are thankful, the more you will have to be thankful

for.

> And of course, people usually like being thanked. Saying thank you

is

> like returning what's been given to you, with interest, except it

> doesn't cost you anything. Most of the time, thanking someone will

> make you feel just as good as the other person feels hearing it,

> sometimes even better.

>

> 8. Look to See What You Can Learn

>

> When we are open to learning, we are expanding. When we are

> expanding, we are growing. When we are growing, that's the work of

> Spirit. There is always something more for us to learn. When we

stop

> learning, we stop growing, and when we're not growing, we're dying.

> Learn, and live!

>

> 9. Be Selfish

>

> I'm talking Selfish, NOT selfish. Self with a big " S, " not a small

> one. What you are doing in the relationship needs to be more

> important to you than what the other person is doing in the

> relationship, if you want Spirit to show up. You can't control the

> other person. You can't always know what another person's

intentions

> are. But you can control yourself, and you can know your own

> intentions. When you concentrate on your own desires, intentions

and

> actions, rather than those of the other person, you are taking

> responsibility for your part in the relationship. No one else can

do

> that for you.

>

> 10. Know that You Are Beautiful

>

> The spirit inside of you came from The Divine Light. If you are

> alive, you have light inside of you, and that light is beautiful.

> When you see the beauty in yourself, it's easier to see it in

others.

> Enjoy the beauty that is in you. Admire it. Let it make you smile,

> the way the beauty of a child or a sunset makes you smile. Your

sense

> of beauty will become contagious.

>

> Remember that the purpose of relationships is spiritual growth.

Every

> interaction is one more opportunity to become more of who you truly

> are.

>

> Spirit is the breath of life in relationships. Without it, we fall

> short of connecting with others. Bring more of Spirit to your

> relationships and watch how much easier it is to get along, and to

> find fulfillment in all your interactions.

>

> ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

> You have permission to reprint what you just read.

>

>

> http://intentionalone.com/yabb/YaBB.pl

>