Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Tamara, After reading your post my heart just filled for you. I am so very sorry for your 2 losses. I couldn't imagine loosing my father (the joy of my life) but I know someday (unless I go first) I will loose him. I have lost a child though (14 weeks into my pregnancy) I had to deliver as if I was at full term so I can totally understand what you're feeling there. You sound like a very strong lady and very close to your family. Hang in there. Though its hard, exercise can really help not just physically but mentally as well. I lost my sister going on 3 years now and I lost a bunch of weight and couldn't bring myself to exercise, but once I did, I felt a little better each day. Sometimes pushing yourself just that little bit is all it takes. Hang tough! ~~Delicious ideas to please the pickiest eaters. Watch the video on AOL Living. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 tamara, hugs to you and your family!! sorry to hear about your dad and baby:( i was actually thinking of you today while i was typing an earlier post... stacey In exercisevideos , " Tamara Marchi " wrote: > > Well, I am trying to get back in the habit. > > My dad has had pancreatic cancer, which has been very hard. In January he > went downhill very fast and my mom could no longer care for him alone. So I > went to their home with my two year old and left my 8 and 10 year olds at > home with dh (my parents are about 200 miles away). We cared for my dad at > home for about a week until his pain was beyond what we could deal with, > then we placed him in a Hospice facility. My mom, my sister, myself and my > toddler all stayed with him at Hospice until he died February 6. To say this > was hard would be the understatement of my life! Then I stayed on with my > mom for about another 10 days. > > Oh, and I am no longer pregnant. I lost the baby near the end of the first > trimester about 2 weeks before I lost my dad. So life has been pretty much > suck-y lately. > > But now I have cried all a person can cry and I am back home with my family > and really, things are pretty good. But boy! Once you get out of the habit > of daily exercise it is so hard to get back to it! I have 2 Netflix dvds > that have sat unopened for more than a week. When I got home from my > parents, there was such a mountain of laundry, mail, incomplete homeschool > work and other tasks left undone. I haven't been able to make the time to > exercise. Today I subjected myself to my old mantra: you can always find 10 > or 15 minutes to work out. So I did a Sansone 15 minute mile. I > barely broke a sweat, but at least I did something! I am working to get back > on track. > > Tamara > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Oh Tamara!!!! I'm so terribly sorry about your dad and your precious baby too! You've had such a rough time lately. I'm glad you found comfort in a 15 minute mile. Exercise is so cleansing and calming, I hope it is for you as you keep recovering from all the emotional trauma of the last couple of months. You are so awesome for the way you helped take care of your dad. Your DH sounds like he's pretty awesome for taking care of the other two kids while you did that too. My prayers are with you and your whole family... Not exercising! Well, I am trying to get back in the habit. My dad has had pancreatic cancer, which has been very hard. In January he went downhill very fast and my mom could no longer care for him alone. So I went to their home with my two year old and left my 8 and 10 year olds at home with dh (my parents are about 200 miles away). We cared for my dad at home for about a week until his pain was beyond what we could deal with, then we placed him in a Hospice facility. My mom, my sister, myself and my toddler all stayed with him at Hospice until he died February 6. To say this was hard would be the understatement of my life! Then I stayed on with my mom for about another 10 days.Oh, and I am no longer pregnant. I lost the baby near the end of the first trimester about 2 weeks before I lost my dad. So life has been pretty much suck-y lately.But now I have cried all a person can cry and I am back home with my family and really, things are pretty good. But boy! Once you get out of the habit of daily exercise it is so hard to get back to it! I have 2 Netflix dvds that have sat unopened for more than a week. When I got home from my parents, there was such a mountain of laundry, mail, incomplete homeschool work and other tasks left undone. I haven't been able to make the time to exercise. Today I subjected myself to my old mantra: you can always find 10 or 15 minutes to work out. So I did a Sansone 15 minute mile. I barely broke a sweat, but at least I did something! I am working to get back on track.Tamara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 ((HUGS)) Tamara, I'm sorry for your recent losses. Donna --- Tamara Marchi wrote: > Well, I am trying to get back in the habit. > > My dad has had pancreatic cancer, which has been > very hard. In January he > went downhill very fast and my mom could no longer > care for him alone. So I > went to their home with my two year old and left my > 8 and 10 year olds at > home with dh (my parents are about 200 miles away). > We cared for my dad at > home for about a week until his pain was beyond what > we could deal with, > then we placed him in a Hospice facility. My mom, my > sister, myself and my > toddler all stayed with him at Hospice until he died > February 6. To say this > was hard would be the understatement of my life! > Then I stayed on with my > mom for about another 10 days. > > Oh, and I am no longer pregnant. I lost the baby > near the end of the first > trimester about 2 weeks before I lost my dad. So > life has been pretty much > suck-y lately. > > But now I have cried all a person can cry and I am > back home with my family > and really, things are pretty good. But boy! Once > you get out of the habit > of daily exercise it is so hard to get back to it! I > have 2 Netflix dvds > that have sat unopened for more than a week. When I > got home from my > parents, there was such a mountain of laundry, mail, > incomplete homeschool > work and other tasks left undone. I haven't been > able to make the time to > exercise. Today I subjected myself to my old mantra: > you can always find 10 > or 15 minutes to work out. So I did a Sansone > 15 minute mile. I > barely broke a sweat, but at least I did something! > I am working to get back > on track. > > Tamara > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your home page. http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 UGH.. I'm so sorry. Sending you hugs and healing vibes.Darcy Well, I am trying to get back in the habit. My dad has had pancreatic cancer, which has been very hard. In January he went downhill very fast and my mom could no longer care for him alone. So I went to their home with my two year old and left my 8 and 10 year olds at home with dh (my parents are about 200 miles away). We cared for my dad at home for about a week until his pain was beyond what we could deal with, then we placed him in a Hospice facility. My mom, my sister, myself and my toddler all stayed with him at Hospice until he died February 6. To say this was hard would be the understatement of my life! Then I stayed on with my mom for about another 10 days. Oh, and I am no longer pregnant. I lost the baby near the end of the first trimester about 2 weeks before I lost my dad. So life has been pretty much suck-y lately. But now I have cried all a person can cry and I am back home with my family and really, things are pretty good. But boy! Once you get out of the habit of daily exercise it is so hard to get back to it! I have 2 Netflix dvds that have sat unopened for more than a week. When I got home from my parents, there was such a mountain of laundry, mail, incomplete homeschool work and other tasks left undone. I haven't been able to make the time to exercise. Today I subjected myself to my old mantra: you can always find 10 or 15 minutes to work out. So I did a Sansone 15 minute mile. I barely broke a sweat, but at least I did something! I am working to get back on track. Tamara Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 22, 2008 Report Share Posted February 22, 2008 Oh Tamara, my heart becomes heavy for you as I read this. Both deaths are tragedies, and grief does suck out one's energy, but it's a necessary process. It sounds like you're slowly picking up the pieces. I would recommend workouts that help you spiritually, whatever those might be for you. When I'm depressed I prefer t'ai chi and yoga. Both make me feel beautiful and more universally connected. I hope your workouts find their way back into your Life regularily soon. Please keep us posted on the workouts you do! New reviews are most welcome! Warmth, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 Tamara, at times like this, words don't seem adequate to express how deeply sorry I am for your losses. You and your family are in my prayers. Please know, too, that I admire your wisdom and strength of will in doing what is best for your healing at this time. Exercise isn't a cure-all, especially for emotional wounds, but it does help. You're taking the right path and I know that out of this grief will come a blessing of great peace, strength and compassion in your soul as you pass through the pain like gold through fire. ((Hugs)) and prayers, Tess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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